Will things get weird..

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    Jan 15, 2013 11:03 PM GMT
    I think its funny to make sex jokes with other straight guys and its funny because we all know its not legit something you actually gonna do..(none of my friends know that I'm gay)..Once you come out did some of your straight buddies get wicked weirded out if you still fuck around and crack jokes like if you were still straight....I don't know if what I'm asking is coming out clear anyone know what I'm talking about?
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    Jan 15, 2013 11:06 PM GMT
    Understand you 100%...

    In the beginning they were like, is this okay, if I say this? It was more, they were worried that I was going to be offended. I had to sit some of my friends down, and say, I am the same person I was...and everything is fine...Hell my best friend still lets me grab his ass his comment on how amazing it is! ahaha

    Good Luck! And it says you live in Boston...I used to live in Boston (want to go back) and my experience, everyone there is open!
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    Jan 16, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    My close straight buddies are very cool with any jokes I crack in regards to same sex. Plus I've always been affectionate and bromantic so they really didn't bat an eye lid when I said I like cock. Life went on.

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    Jan 16, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    Whitey89 saidI think its funny to make sex jokes with other straight guys and its funny because we all know its not legit something you actually gonna do..(none of my friends know that I'm gay)..Once you come out did some of your straight buddies get wicked weirded out if you still fuck around and crack jokes like if you were still straight....I don't know if what I'm asking is coming out clear anyone know what I'm talking about?


    I found it all the more reason to make even MORE gay jokes.
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    Jan 16, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    Yes, things will get weird...if you make them that way.

    Otherwise, they'll continue to joke around with you.
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    Jan 16, 2013 1:14 AM GMT
    Remind them that it's humor and to ask themselves why they're uncomfortable about the jokes. Listen. Have an adult conversation.
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    Jan 16, 2013 1:15 AM GMT
    Whitey89 said wicked weirded out


    D'aww I miss early 20's vocab <3
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    Jan 16, 2013 1:23 AM GMT
    Whitey89 saidI think its funny to make sex jokes with other straight guys and its funny because we all know its not legit something you actually gonna do..(none of my friends know that I'm gay)..Once you come out did some of your straight buddies get wicked weirded out if you still fuck around and crack jokes like if you were still straight....I don't know if what I'm asking is coming out clear anyone know what I'm talking about?
    My best straight friend makes sexual jokes at me all the time. He's more understanding the most straight guys though and knows I've had a crush on him for years. He's unphased by it.
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    Jan 16, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
    Narciso said
    Whitey89 said wicked weirded out


    D'aww I miss early 20's vocab <3
    wicked is not really early 20s vocab it is Bostonian..

    I myself use it all the time...and most of my cousins use it as well and they are 30+
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    Jan 16, 2013 2:03 AM GMT
    Yes, some got weird and some asked me to give them blow job. True story.
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    Jan 16, 2013 2:05 AM GMT
    Whitey89 saidI think its funny to make sex jokes with other straight guys and its funny because we all know its not legit something you actually gonna do..(none of my friends know that I'm gay)..Once you come out did some of your straight buddies get wicked weirded out if you still fuck around and crack jokes like if you were still straight....I don't know if what I'm asking is coming out clear anyone know what I'm talking about?



    I think it depends on how secure they are about the situation. I have a straight male friend who is very secure with himself and joking around with him is no problem.

    For most people I just generally put those jokes aside until I can gauge their comfort level with me (after coming out to them).

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    Jan 16, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    Been a long time so I don't recall if there was any sort of transition but 40 years later and my friends still kid with me about pussy and it's just as gross as it was when I was 15. Only now when they say something I go ewwwwww. And they laugh at that.
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    Jan 16, 2013 2:47 AM GMT
    Most of my friends are fine with gay jokes (like fake flirting). There's only one that doesn't feel comfortable making gay jokes with me. Though he feels fine making gay jokes with other guys even if I'm right there.
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    the straight guys i work out around don't have a choice. if they crack jokes, i crack jokes. they try to sling gay jokes at me, so i offer them head. that shuts them up.
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYes, things will get weird...if you make them that way.

    Otherwise, they'll continue to joke around with you.


    True I suppose it mainly comes from within..our perception of people acting weird sometimes is just a reflection of our own actions..I think I'm pretty chill so I should be set then haha thanks for the insight Paul.
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    Sorry... can't relate with this because it's rare for me to have a straight friend but most of the straight guys who knew me well are mystified how is my sex life and wanted to know if I would consider having a wife or a child someday. A straight co-worker told me he felt yuck for guys seeing holding (part of their culture) hands and I do respect his reaction because he is straight. I made a joke and told him that since I am long being single, that is my ultimate dream and he laughed. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    RadRTT said
    Narciso said
    Whitey89 said wicked weirded out


    D'aww I miss early 20's vocab <3
    wicked is not really early 20s vocab it is Bostonian..

    I myself use it all the time...and most of my cousins use it as well and they are 30+

    I think wicked used that way has been around for awhile, though. I think of it mostly as a kind of socal surfer thing. E.g., "Wicked kewl!"
  • imbrad

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    Jan 16, 2013 5:37 AM GMT
    If your friendship is based on sexual orientation it is not a friendship. Yes it affects aspects of the relationship but honest humor transcends preconceived notions of relationships and life experience. I have a lot of straight friends and they closest ones share a sense of humor that does not conform to basic "bro" norms.