Why Are People Threatened By Difference of Opinion.

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    Jan 16, 2013 3:16 AM GMT
    I just want to know why people cannot accept that someone may think differently from you..

    This is about straight and gays, when it comes to a matter of opinion there often is not a right or wrong answer so why do people get so angry just because someone is not on the same side as them?

    I know with me, I actually prefer to talk to people who think differently from me, because it can either make me see things clearer, confirm my own belief or give me another perspective.

    But why is it that when people feel challeged, they get belligerent. They gey hostile, and sarcastic, hurl insults and degrade people. What is the need in that.Do they think ranting and raving and acting like that is going to make someone change their mind???
    Is it an idea that they could be wrong?
    It is just that they are angry over something they feel passionate about?


    Even with some people I know that are Christians, get so angry when you question certain things, but without questions, how will we ever have answers.

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    Jan 16, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    Why do you get threatened when people say Jesus is hot and they want to fuck him?

    (referring to the Latino named Jesus who works at Dunkin Donuts)
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    Everyone believes that they are right. That applies to everything in life.. religion, politics, social issues, driving, eating, walking, etc. If there's a rule/law, then everyone has their own interpretation of it.
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:20 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidWhy do you get threatened when people say Jesus is hot and they want to fuck him?

    (referring to the Latino named Jesus who works at Dunkin Donuts)


    Like this Pauly Baby, I don;t like what you just said, but I will calmy tell you that, and leave it alone.

    I don't feel the need to curse and call names and be a baby...it's really childish and immature.

    It's like if people can't get you to conform to their way of thinking they get so angry and intense... why???

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    Jan 16, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA said
    paulflexes saidWhy do you get threatened when people say Jesus is hot and they want to fuck him?

    (referring to the Latino named Jesus who works at Dunkin Donuts)


    Like this Pauly Baby, I don;t like what you just said, but I will calmy tell you that, and leave it alone.

    I don't feel the need to curse and call names and be a baby...it's really childish and immature.

    It's like if people can't get you to conform to their way of thinking they get so angry and intense... why???

    You obviously haven't seen the same Jesus I saw. He really is hot. I wish I'd gotten a cellphone pic of him before leaving. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidBut why is it that when people feel challeged, they get belligerent.
    This puzzles me too.
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    A lot of people live in a bubble, their own little world. A comfort zone. Once outside that, where someone questions them, or happens to have a different point of view, they are no longer in their comfort zone. Many of these people cannot cope with being outside the comfort zone, hence the belligerence.
    Some of these people form cliques, and exclude others. Some people change their entire personalities in order to be in a clique. The rest must learn to be themselves at all costs. People can choose to be shallow phonies, or they can choose to be kind. Such is life.
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:39 AM GMT
    Blakes7 saidA lot of people live in a bubble, their own little world. A comfort zone. Once outside that, where someone questions them, or happens to have a different point of view, they are no longer in their comfort zone. Many of these people cannot cope with being outside the comfort zone, hence the belligerence.
    Some of these people form cliques, and exclude others. Some people change their entire personalities in order to be in a clique. The rest must learn to be themselves at all costs. People can choose to be shallow phonies, or they can choose to be kind. Such is life.
    Is Santa holding a Pomeranian because the courts told him not to hold anymore children?
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    Blakes7 saidA lot of people live in a bubble, their own little world. A comfort zone. Once outside that, where someone questions them, or happens to have a different point of view, they are no longer in their comfort zone. Many of these people cannot cope with being outside the comfort zone, hence the belligerence.
    Some of these people form cliques, and exclude others. Some people change their entire personalities in order to be in a clique. The rest must learn to be themselves at all costs. People can choose to be shallow phonies, or they can choose to be kind. Such is life.


    Ignore Paul, he's just mad because he found out his boyfriend was a lesbian.

    ANyway, Wow! That was pretty insightful, I never thought of it like that.

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    Jan 16, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA said
    Blakes7 saidA lot of people live in a bubble, their own little world. A comfort zone. Once outside that, where someone questions them, or happens to have a different point of view, they are no longer in their comfort zone. Many of these people cannot cope with being outside the comfort zone, hence the belligerence.
    Some of these people form cliques, and exclude others. Some people change their entire personalities in order to be in a clique. The rest must learn to be themselves at all costs. People can choose to be shallow phonies, or they can choose to be kind. Such is life.


    Ignore Paul, he's just mad because he found out his boyfriend was a lesbian.
    Actually one of my boyfriends called tonight to tell me he wants to break up. I was like "uhhh, I was expecting that." icon_lol.gif

    So, it's off to South Beach this weekend to be with my other (and longer lasting) boyfriend. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 16, 2013 4:55 AM GMT

    Two words: Cognitive Dissonance
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    Jan 16, 2013 4:58 AM GMT
    He_Man said
    Two words: Cognitive Dissonance


    Is that like the precogs in Minority Report

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    Jan 16, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    I think you may confusing threatened with frustrated.
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    xrichx saidEveryone believes that they are right. That applies to everything in life.. religion, politics, social issues, driving, eating, walking, etc. If there's a rule/law, then everyone has their own interpretation of it.


    Very true, also some people feel they are inferior if they admit they are wrong about something and others simply don't like to be challenged because being challenged will require them to think and thinking is something they like to avoid.
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    meninlove said I think you may confusing threatened with frustrated.


    No I meant it that way but, either way, why would one be frustrated with a difference of opinion. We are different people right, shouldnt that be expected?
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:19 AM GMT
    i'm always frustrated by stupid people
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    sometimes you're just not gonna get along with everybody. Some people are just set in there ways and there is no changing it they have to. Whose to say your thought process is the best way? It may be good for you but shit don't work out the same for everybody. No perfect way to live man or else we'd all be doing it. Maybe be open to the idea that what you may think to be right is wrong. But keep thinking like you do and I'm sure shit will work out for ya dude. Question everything put that cabeza to work and maybe one day you'll find your answers put em in a book and make millions. Good luck
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    Some people want soapboxes (and often submission), others want discussions (and tolerance). It's that simple.
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:23 AM GMT
    Whitey89 saidsometimes you're just not gonna get along with everybody. Some people are just set in there ways and there is no changing it they have to. Whose to say your thought process is the best way? It may be good for you but shit don't work out the same for everybody. No perfect way to live man or else we'd all be doing it. Maybe be open to the idea that what you may think to be right is wrong. But keep thinking like you do and I'm sure shit will work out for ya dude. Question everything put that cabeza to work and maybe one day you'll find your answers put em in a book and make millions. Good luck


    Very nicely stated.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:32 AM GMT
    Many people think they're always right forming their opinions without actual facts and are too lazy to do the research. Once someone with that knowledge the first individual lacks confronts their distorted views, they tend to get defensive, completely closed-minded and totally irrational.
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:39 AM GMT
    I never once, tell people that they are wrong, they tell me their side and I tell them my side.

    That's it. If I start a topic I start off with my POV and tell them where I come from, things can turn into a debate and that's fine. Yet, when someone believs a certain thing it is natural to explain why.

    You don't know me, or why I do the things I do. And you won't find anyone here who I have told them that they are "wrong".
    However I can say you are wrong now, because you know nothing about me. At all, you can't tell me what I do and my purpose for doing it. You make up what you want about me and pass it off as the truth.

    You have no idea what you are talking about, atleast not when it comes to me. And something that you aswell as others don't see is that I often welcome constructive criticism when it comes from a good place. I send thank you emails to people all the time when they give harsh reality advice or real deal opinions, or make me think differently. I do it all the time, but you guys don't see that.

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    Jan 16, 2013 5:42 AM GMT
    This is a huge problem I think with people of a more leftist slant.If you don't believe in gay marriage and abortion on demand you should be hanged drawn and quartered.I actually think conservatives are more open minded.I am an Aries and speak my mind.I dont purposely offend but if you can't take opposing views you def won't like me.icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:49 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidSome people create threads pretending to look for people's opinions because they want to hear them. Others (YOU) ask for people's opinions so you can tell them they're wrong. There's a big difference. icon_rolleyes.gif

    YOU are the threatened person you speak of.

    And I've shown a great kindness by keeping this post this short. icon_wink.gif


    Well, yes. I was waiting for the readers to draw their own conclusions. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 16, 2013 6:05 AM GMT
    O.M.G!!
    Yes I am also quite puzzled why people just don't know how to be content with agreeing to disagree.
    Heck sometimes I'll try offer a perspective that isn't what I necessarily think myself just to help put things into context on how the person on the other end might see things, and even with that people just love to have a go at you.

    The problem is, even when you just genuinely ask for an opinion for the sake of diversity, people are always going to try state why their opinion is "right".
    I don't see why people can't just accept that someone else's opinion is different and leave it at that.