Experiences of Coming Out when sports teams are involved?

  • hockeycanuck

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    Jan 16, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    Just curious to hear about any experiences positive/negative that anyone has had with regards to Coming Out and their sports teams reactions? Ths topic is definitely one that I have mixed emotions about and scares the sh*t out of me.
  • tazzari

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    Jan 16, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    hockeycanuck saidJust curious to hear about any experiences positive/negative that anyone has had with regards to Coming Out and their sports teams reactions? Ths topic is definitely one that I have mixed emotions about and scares the sh*t out of me.


    I can only speak as a coach, but when I came out to my high-school team no one minded; when I came out later when I was with the USST no one minded - and in both cases a number of the athletes are still friends.

    My only negatives were a few mutterings from some other coaches, but everyone felt that they made asses out of themselves; and when I was working for a former Soviet-bloc team the Head Coach asked me to keep it a little under wraps (the athletes knew and didn't care), and the Directors were still old-time, hard-line communists and he could loose his job if they found out. So I kept it pretty low key. Which is fine, because as a coach you're there to work, not talk about yourself.

    BTW, my boyfriend is a hockey-playing Canadian, and pretty out; again, no problems.

    If they respect you and what you do, they'll respect you as a gay man.
  • hanzo83

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    Jan 17, 2013 1:47 AM GMT
    I read about some on the outsports website. Some good, some bad.
  • MrBurnerd

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    Jan 17, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    I came out to my team a week before we had to play the National Cup Final.
    And i was super scared that i would be rejected from the team and i couldn't play handball anymore, but those worries were for nothing.

    After my comming out, i was sort of liberated and played better then ever before, now i'm even in the starting line up.

    comming out + teamsport = Happy Bernard icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 17, 2013 2:02 AM GMT
    I played for sports teams and for the most part they dont care.

    Best quote ever:

    "I would rather have a good player who is gay, than a bad one who is straight."

    Just play well and dont, you know, try to eye rape your teammates (which you shouldnt do either way) and you will be set!
  • MrBurnerd

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    Jan 17, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    Oh and my team was awesome about it...

    When i was done with my coming out. (infront of the group)
    Our captain said: "ooooh, i was afraid you were going to transfer to another club".
    Other player reacted; "so what, that doesn't matter" and "do you want a hug?"
    Then i got a lot of hugs and high fives... It was AWESOME icon_biggrin.gif

    Even till this day, i have supporters/sponsors/random people coming up to me and saying that they're proud of me and respect me.