Need advice

  • Lost_heart

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    Jan 16, 2013 1:29 PM GMT
    Okay here is the deal and I need some advice. Here is a short version of what has has happened.

    A few years ago I met this guy on RJ. I hot listed him and he returned the favor and then we started chatting. I instantly felt a connection to this guy and I guess I was kinda In love with him.

    Then his profile disappeared from RJ. I asked him about it and he said that someone from work had seen it or something like that and he removed because of his job. But something did not seem right. He had no profile on Hotmail or a Face book account. I continued to email him. But, I was still kinda skeptical. I even thought he did not exist and this was some joke. I was leaving for work soon and did not really care about it.

    He lived in Denver and I live in Florida. I was about to leave the states to go work overseas in Saudi. On a vacation he was supposed to fly down to florida and meet me. But, he never showed up and gave me some excuse. I offered to fly to Denver. He gave me some excuse that he was going to visit his family in California. I was only home for a short time so I did not go to Denver to meet him. I went back to work overseas and eventually we stopped emailing each other.

    The last week my yahoo got hacked and sent out spam email to everyone on my contact list. He replied back to me and we have started talking again. I have returned home for a while and waiting on my next job to get announced. He is still working for some research company. He told me he was in love with me and wished that I had never gone overseas and how much he wanted me to come live with him in Denver. But that was almost 4 yrs ago. When I first heard from him a week ago I was kind glad. But, now I am not so sure. He has a BF and he says they are not in love and that it is just a thing. He still wants me to live with him. So far we have never met face to face and only talked on the phone a few minutes while I was in Saudi. Other than that I have not even seen a pictures of him since since he sent me a few pics yrs ago.


    I am not really sure what I should do. Continue to email this guy and see where it goes or just forget about and move on.
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    Jan 16, 2013 1:51 PM GMT
    " He told me he was in love with me and wished that I had never gone overseas and how much he wanted me to come live with him in Denver. But that was almost 4 yrs ago. When I first heard from him a week ago I was kind glad"

    I don't know man. If I were you, I would save myself from heartache
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:13 PM GMT


    Remind him that he's never managed to meet you, even though you were available. If he can't manage that, how would he possibly be able to have a relationship?
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:17 PM GMT
    Lost_heart said just forget about and move on.

    This^^

    Also I'd have deleted his email from my contacts a long time ago.
  • ASHDOD

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    Jan 16, 2013 8:41 PM GMT
    and then superman came.....
    in what virtual reality do you live, if you have'nt met him ,he dosent exist icon_eek.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 16, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    Here's another guy you might like to get know

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  • FlyingWeegie

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    Jan 16, 2013 10:02 PM GMT
    If he really really wanted you, he'd go hell bent for leather to get you. Do all he could to make you happy. Give you no cause to feel upset or mentally drained. As they say, actions speak louder than words. The "real thing" will come eventually with someone who wants to keep you happy, making all effort he could. Don't mess your head up for someone who's all talk.
  • Import

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    Jan 16, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    dude, dont be so desperate for some crumbs.....

    he responds to an email that was spammed to him? Wanting to reconnect and expressing his love for u? Lame as fuck, IMO....Lame. As. Fuck.

    Move on. The guy sounds like a total dick face and honestly, dont u have any other prospects? C'mon now.
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    Jan 16, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    Lost_heart said...

    A few years ago I met this guy on RJ. I hot listed him and he returned the favor and then we started chatting. I instantly felt a connection to this guy and I guess I was kinda In love with him.
    ....

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    Get out of the house and meet people.
  • FlyingWeegie

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    Jan 16, 2013 10:44 PM GMT
    I agree with the guy above me. Good words bro.
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    Jan 17, 2013 1:09 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidHere's another guy you might like to get know

    Casper+the+Friendly+Ghost+Pictures.jpg

    +1. Move on. I speak from experience.
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    Jan 17, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    Do you love him or is it just a glad feeling?
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    Jan 17, 2013 2:30 AM GMT
    You've done everything humanly possible to try to connect with this guy and he's done nothing but disappoint you. I think it's best to forget him and move on.
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    Jan 17, 2013 2:50 AM GMT
    Well, probably his account is as fake as yours...
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    Jan 17, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    don't take decisions, unless you meet this guy in person....or else...mail him what you were thinking...(only if you are still interested in him)
    or else say "No, I'm sorry"
  • Lost_heart

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    Jan 17, 2013 1:08 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the replies. I appreciate them. I guess until I actually meet him I should just cool down.