Coming Out To Parents: Phone Call, Text Message or Face to Face?

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    Jan 16, 2013 8:33 PM GMT
    What's your opinion on the matter? Do you think it's better to come out face to face or does it not matter how it's done?

    I personally don't think I could ever tell my parents face to face so the other options may be the only way. That, or I could leave a letter for them.

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    Jan 16, 2013 8:37 PM GMT
    The letter is a good idea if you do not like confrontation. It will also give them time to cool down until they see you in person next time.
  • Ej101

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    Jan 16, 2013 8:38 PM GMT
    Write them a letter but I think face to face is better
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    Jan 16, 2013 10:10 PM GMT
    There's always the old-fashioned method of letting them discover your porn stash icon_razz.gif

  • Import

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    Jan 16, 2013 10:11 PM GMT
    Just text ur mom like "hey ma, m gay. ttyl"
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    Jan 16, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
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    Jan 16, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    You could always invite your bf over while they're at church, and get caught in the act when they come home early.

    Worked for me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 16, 2013 11:01 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidThere's always the old-fashioned method of letting them discover your porn stash icon_razz.gif



    In my personal experience, they tend to ignore that one.
  • WApilot

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    Jan 17, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    I came out to my parents over the phone one week prior to my 23 birthday. It was probably the best thing I did because, it wasn't a face to face thing and it allowed my parents time to really take it in without me being in their presence. At that time I was living in California in the military (before DADT repeal), it was about 2 months before I came home for vacation to visit family and by that time, they had already accepted that I was gay and it was old news.

    But you need to know your parents, everyone is different. Some people are better in person. Don't come out if you rely on your parents for financial support and you can't support yourself.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 17, 2013 8:36 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidcomiccomingout1.png


    This is the cutest thing ever!
  • Webster666

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    Jan 17, 2013 8:45 AM GMT
    I would be too emotional to call or to tell them, in person.
    I think that texting is a terrible idea, because it's too impersonal.
    I would write a letter to them.
    But, I never actually came out to anyone.
    I let everybody figure it out for themselves.
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    Jan 17, 2013 8:50 AM GMT
    What ever happened to the time-honored tradition of them walking in on you and your "roommate?"
  • Generaleclect...

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    Jan 17, 2013 9:23 AM GMT
    Depends on the parents, and your relationship with them. Do whatever feels right. I came out to both of 'em in person and it was a piece of cake, though I was hesitant at first.

    My sister, however, found my porn stash a couple years before then. icon_wink.gif Though I "officially" came out to her later on as well.
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    Jan 17, 2013 10:24 AM GMT
    TheOmegaMan saidWhat's your opinion on the matter? Do you think it's better to come out face to face or does it not matter how it's done?

    I personally don't think I could ever tell my parents face to face so the other options may be the only way. That, or I could leave a letter for them.



    You don't need to come out. But if you decide I think face to face is more appropriate.
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    Jan 17, 2013 10:24 AM GMT
    Face to face shows You´re strong personality. It shows ,,I´m gay, not junk, I can face chalenges."
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    Jan 17, 2013 10:38 AM GMT
    Show some gonads. If you really think they need to know, talk to them face to face. HAVE SOME FUCKING RESPECT.

    Even YouTube is better than a text. What the fuck are you thinking?

    Show a teeny, tiny, bit, of respect, and maturity.
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    Jan 17, 2013 11:50 AM GMT
    Rent some family friendly gay movies, and watch them with your parentals?
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    Jan 17, 2013 11:58 AM GMT
    I like the idea of a letter, which gives you a way of organizing your words and thoughts. But instead of mailing the letter, I would read it to them face to face and leave the letter with them.
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    Jan 17, 2013 12:31 PM GMT
    Write the letter, but only so you know what you want to say and have thought through how best to express yourself. Don't give it to them.

    Tell them face to face. Honor them, honor yourself.
  • crisisgray

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    Jan 17, 2013 1:09 PM GMT
    Well you could try and open up a casual conversation that will lead you to eventually come out.
    what I did was purposefully leave out gay magazines(non-sexual) on my bed because my mom always sneaks in my room. Her way of finding out things about me. So it did happen and the result was she confronted me 2 days after her discovery and I was labelled as someone with a personality disorder.
    I'm so happy I'll be moving away for college...
    Hope you learned something from thaticon_redface.gif
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    Jan 17, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    Always face to face!
  • spacemagic

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    Jan 17, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
    Of course everyone here is going to tell you "Be a man, do it in person" but you should take all the advice you get and make your decision based on what you know of your parents and your personal situation. Every family is different. I will say I think it's acceptable to have this conversation over the phone, especially if you don't live close to your parents. A text message, though, is not the right avenue.

    If/when you decide come out to your parents, good luck. I hope it's a positive experience for you.
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    Jan 17, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    I did it by email, which was for the best, since my mother had a very hard time talking to me, and my father refused to talk to me for a couple of months. They came around eventually. It aint easy. Good luck.
  • owen19832006

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    Jan 17, 2013 8:43 PM GMT
    in my case it was a phone call because im 7000 miles away but couldve done it face to face.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 17, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    Import saidJust text ur mom like "hey ma, m gay. ttyl"


    A week later:

    "hey ma, in jail need bail. luv u!"