How did you handle the change from normal guy to Muscle guy?

  • maximumrisk

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    Sep 25, 2008 3:40 PM GMT
    Hey Guys,

    I know the Question is a bit hard to understand, but I had no idea how to put it in other words. So far I had usually been the unattractive chubby (Low self confidence and depressions included) who had a hard time to get guys interested. Things have changed a lot and I get the feeling that my previous self-confidence issues turn me into a slut now. Its not like I sleep with everything on 2 feet, just that I seem to enjoy flirting to much. Especially in Bars I have a hard time concentrating on just one guy. icon_twisted.gif


    I know that everyone here started at some point. So my question to you Guys is if and how you changed.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 25, 2008 9:39 PM GMT
    Well my suggestion to you is you need to understand that looking better (to others and yourself) carries with it some degree of responsibility. If you want to look good (and feel good) about yourself, I'd suggest you act appropriately for your own self esteem and to others. Others will notice the difference and will react. Your a role model... a success. Show others what that means.
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    Sep 25, 2008 10:16 PM GMT
    There are way too many do gooders are on this site ;-)

    Kansan and MuchMorethanMuscle are the worst do gooder offenders icon_biggrin.gif

    Remember, that if there was no evil, there could be no good.

    So it must be good to be evil sometimes
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    Sep 25, 2008 10:28 PM GMT
    I remember being this little weed at primary School, with big calves. Now I'm a man with great calves. Since it's not safe to post pictures here without them being abused. I want be able to show you.

    But in my early teen My shoulders chest started to fill out, still have big shoulders, and a great chest too.

    Going to gym only enhanced this, it did not make it happen. So there was nothing to handle, as it was in my genetics.

    I also had a gay man noticing me, and wanting to be sexually active with me from the age of 5. So being noticed and desired has never been an issue for me either. If anything. I desire the opposite.


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    Sep 25, 2008 10:30 PM GMT
    sdn8 saidThere are way too many do gooders are on this site ;-)

    Kansan and MuchMorethanMuscle are the worst do gooder offenders icon_biggrin.gif

    Remember, that if there was no evil, there could be no good.

    So it must be good to be evil sometimes


    and we must have bad days to enjoy the good days too.
  • maximumrisk

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    Sep 26, 2008 12:47 AM GMT
    Okay, I already knew this would come. I know what you Guys mean. I just meant that the change to me seemed to fast and I enjoyed it to much. I know and make clear that I go there for fun and no more, but then suddenly deciding gets hard and thats something I really have to work on.

    It doesnt interest me if the same guys ignored me before. We all change over time, the moment counts and not what was or will be.

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    Sep 26, 2008 6:23 PM GMT
    maximumrisk saidHey Guys,

    I know the Question is a bit hard to understand, but I had no idea how to put it in other words. So far I had usually been the unattractive chubby (Low self confidence and depressions included) who had a hard time to get guys interested. Things have changed a lot and I get the feeling that my previous self-confidence issues turn me into a slut now. Its not like I sleep with everything on 2 feet, just that I seem to enjoy flirting to much. Especially in Bars I have a hard time concentrating on just one guy. icon_twisted.gif


    I know that everyone here started at some point. So my question to you Guys is if and how you changed.


    Man, Congratulations bro! No, you are not a manslut! enjoy the feeling and just be 100% SAFE!

    Hurray for flirtation icon_biggrin.gif.
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    Sep 26, 2008 6:30 PM GMT
    If you find yourself with your focus drifting from guy to guy, you will eventually alienate enough of them that there will be very few who are interested. Of those that are left, they may hear 'bad' things about you and if enough of that goes around, it will make little difference whether it's true or not. You will then become the 'hot guy that no one wants to be with".

    You don't get respect by being attractive. You get it by respecting others.

    If you want to be slutty, then fine. Just make sure that the guy your talking to, knows that in advance.

    bgcat57: Do-Gooder
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    Sep 26, 2008 6:48 PM GMT
    when i was in high school i was no where near attractive. sometime around half way through college I just grew into my body and my face. it was a really strange transition. I all of a sudden i was getting so much attention from guys. Luckily I knew that it was superficial. Just be true to yourself and you should be alright!
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    Sep 26, 2008 8:21 PM GMT
    It wasn't so much the muscles as the turning green I found ackward... icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 26, 2008 8:46 PM GMT
    BodyWork4 saidIt wasn't so much the muscles as the turning green I found ackward... icon_eek.gif


    ...and all those hot outfits your burst out of!!!
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    Sep 26, 2008 8:49 PM GMT
    I've been working out since I was 15, so I never really had to deal with this transition.

    However... it reminds me of an adorable story from several years back. I started dating a guy who had a tight little body, but who had never worked out. He started working out with me, and started showing results fairly quickly/easily.

    About four months into it, we were out at a dance club, and I saw him chatting with some guy on the dance floor. A little while later, he (the guy I was dating) comes up to me EXTREMELY EXCITED and says,

    "I was just talking to that guy over there, and he leaned over to me and was like, 'Man, going out dancing on legs day is really tough, isn't it?""

    I didn't understand why this was so exciting to him, so I asked. And he explained it to me:

    "He was talking to me like, I would know what he's talking about. I mean, he looked at me and just ASSUMED that I work out, too. Like I'm one of the 'in crowd' now. That's never happened to me before!"

    I thought it was adorable.
  • maximumrisk

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    Sep 28, 2008 10:34 PM GMT
    Its not like it is easy to find something more serious in this country. So I gonna take your advice and try to be more mature about it. I dont want the reputation that I am a slut icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 28, 2008 10:49 PM GMT
    Hmm... I don't think I've changed so much as everyone around me who used to be so hot has gradually gotten fat. I feel more like the troll at 10:30 who is suddenly worth chatting up at 01:45.

    Not that there's anything wrong with that...