Awkward work situation?

  • Onemoresummer

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    Jan 18, 2013 10:31 AM GMT
    We met at work. Been hooking up for a bout a month.
    Last week I looked after him after he threw up/passed out at a club - meanwhile he basically ignored me the entire night out.

    Anyway, now I've moved position in work and he's right next to me. But he didn't say hi or anything at all in the past 2 days. This is despite him saying week "we should hang out more" etc

    I sent a text saying "hey...are we not talking anymore" which responded with "aren't we?"
    I basically just said you didn't bother saying hey last 2 days so I wasn't sure what was happening. He just said he didn't realize.
    Not sure what to do now - he's only 19. It's kind of obvious that I'm more into him than he is with me. Obviously doesn't really care.
    I started to like him but it's clear he was only after I quick fuck and doesn't think more of me at all.
    I was kinda hoping we could at least continue having fun but that appears out of the question.
    How do I handle it at work now? Flirt with someone else in front of him? Do i just say "hey" and walk away?
    I wanna forget and stop crushing
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    Jan 18, 2013 4:56 PM GMT
    You have WAY too many problems. Look at all the threads you've started asking for advice for complicated situations. Just do what you said and forget and stop crushing. If your crushing is causing this much complication in your life it's not really worth it to be honest.
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    Jan 18, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
    If you're crushing on him then I don't think having just sex with him is really going to help at all...
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    Jan 18, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    Flirt with someone else in front of him? lol yeah that's going to get you over him real quick

    He probably wasn't looking for anything serious and just some fun. Move on.
  • runnin_stud

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    Jan 18, 2013 5:12 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidIf you're crushing on him then I don't think having just sex with him is really going to help at all...


    Totally agree... and making him jealous by flirting with someone else is only going to hurt the both of you. Just focus on you and if he really likes you, he'll come around. icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 18, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    Punch him in the neck.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jan 18, 2013 6:17 PM GMT
    Don't crap where you eat
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    Jan 18, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    Your situation is a good example of why we shouldn't "fish off of the company pier" at the office. But with that being said, in your case - I'd just focus on work conversations with this guy. Say hello and show zero attitude with him - - - as though you have no history with him. Try to turn the clock back to before anything happened and just consider him a co-worker. Be happy, productive and get together outside the office with new guys that you don't work with.
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    Jan 18, 2013 6:23 PM GMT
    You are at work to work. Focus on work and forget about him.

    Problem solved.
  • Splendidus_1

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    Jan 18, 2013 6:28 PM GMT
    Simply say a quick "Hi" when you see him, as it's impolite not to do so. After all, you're co-workers (dangers of getting involved with someone from work).

    He's over you, so don't get into "games". You just need to move on. Want to stop crushing? Think about how he's ignoring you and how that makes you feel, instead of thinking about the moments when you were together, and the movies you play in your head.
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    Jan 19, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    He sounds like a fwb... and a poor one at that.
  • EricLA

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    Jan 19, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
    "Don't fish off the company pier" as they say. He's clearly incapable of being mature in expressing himself. It's clear he's just not that into you.

    Yes, you have to stop crushing and move on. You're not going to be able to forget, but you need to find something else to focus on.
  • EricLA

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    Jan 19, 2013 12:13 AM GMT
    Splendidus_1 saidSimply say a quick "Hi" when you see him, as it's impolite not to do so. After all, you're co-workers (dangers of getting involved with someone from work).

    He's over you, so don't get into "games". You just need to move on. Want to stop crushing? Think about how he's ignoring you and how that makes you feel, instead of thinking about the moments when you were together, and the movies you play in your head.


    Good advice.
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    Jan 19, 2013 12:16 AM GMT
    Don't shit where you eat. icon_biggrin.gif

    Hook up with someone that doesn't work with you.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jan 19, 2013 1:02 AM GMT
    vla8 saidDon't shit where you eat. icon_biggrin.gif

    Hook up with someone that doesn't work with you.


    If he's not pounding on your door, hoping to share your bed, it's a fantasy. Move on.
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    Jan 19, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidDon't crap where you eat


    Ditto!
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    Jan 19, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    He's 19 and not that into you (or anyone perhaps). Get back to work, and find a new friend with benefits.