Six Month Celibacy

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    Jan 18, 2013 4:56 PM GMT
    Recently in my therapy sessions along with every other thing in my life I've been getting the recurring theme I need to find myself. Now of course whenever someone says that to me I think 'How?' but I think I found a way. I always try to define myself by the people I'm with, namely those I'm either sleeping with or trying to sleep with. Sex is a big part of my life and I think it's obscured the other pieces of my personality. So I'm going to go on a six month celibacy thing. No sex until mid July. I think it should really help me clear my mind. And who knows maybe at the tail end of it I might actually meet the right kind of person instead of just the usual horndogs I pick up on CraigsList.
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    Jan 18, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
    Does that include masturbation? Now THAT would be hard!
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    Jan 18, 2013 6:42 PM GMT
    S34n05 saidDoes that include masturbation? Now THAT would be hard!

    It should get hard when you masturbate. That's kind of part of masturbating.
  • stratavos

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    Jan 18, 2013 7:00 PM GMT
    I really don't think you should ignore sex completely (as challenging of a challenge as it may be), but simply put your energy into other tasks.

    Just being able to say "no I need to do this" instead of sex (like laundry, or taxes (those will be coming up soon) or even cleaning up your online profiles (not here bit like facebook)) should be helpful.
  • BeNiHiKoU

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    Jan 18, 2013 7:22 PM GMT
    ... Hmmmm... Celibacy.. I truly appreciated and enjoyed it - all 3.5 years of it... In many ways, it was empowering, insightful and really liberating... Not too much of a challenge for me, I must admit: I never was into - nor frankly that good at - sex to begin with and would choose a good night sleep over a good night fuck on most occasions...

    I wish for the outcome of your efforts to be to your liking.. icon_smile.gif
  • Felony84

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    Jan 18, 2013 8:57 PM GMT
    Good luck! It has been done and more power to you if you're able to do it. Of course I'm assuming this means no masturbation. If you're going to be doing that, then it should be a cinch and not truly celibate except with other people.
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    Jan 18, 2013 9:12 PM GMT
    Your problems are not caused by sex.....
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    Jan 18, 2013 10:01 PM GMT
    I never did care for celibacy. It tastes weird.

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    Jan 18, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    I did a month and half. Yes it was hard.

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    Jan 18, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    It's like putting off the inevitable........icon_eek.gif
  • TroyAthlete

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    Jan 18, 2013 10:22 PM GMT
    What does you therapist think of this plan?
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    Jan 18, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    i've done 3 of these so far in my life.. and well for various reasons...

    thought about doing another one, but honestly not sure i could manage at the moment. would be such a waste of my youthful sexual energy. lol

    good luck
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    Jan 18, 2013 11:13 PM GMT
    I've gone much longer than 6 months without sex, so this isn't a big deal to me.
  • calibro

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    Jan 18, 2013 11:41 PM GMT
    wasn't this a plot on kath and kim?
  • goodmagic

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    Jan 18, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    that sounds real boring.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jan 19, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    Life without sex is life without a reason to live. Don't do it bro!
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    Jan 19, 2013 12:55 AM GMT
    suppressing sex will make one become insane.
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    Jan 19, 2013 1:15 AM GMT
    Lol, been celibate my whole life. 6 months is nothing. But good luck with your journey.
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    Jan 19, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidLife without sex is life without a reason to live. Don't do it bro!


    Wow. I have two good buddies who lost their ability to have sex when they were blown up in IED attacks. Hope you don't mean this literally, man, because they are living very happy lives after suffering incredible recoveries. Sex is NOT everything, and you CAN be very happy without it.
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    Jan 19, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    Maybe try this strategy instead: Do not have sex with anyone until you've known them for at least 3 months.
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    Jan 19, 2013 2:20 AM GMT
    flyingdiamond saidMaybe try this strategy instead: Do not have sex with anyone until you've known them for at least 3 months.
    That's like 3x longer than most new relationships, regardless of the couples' orientation.

    All you're doing when you do that is push the other guy into "cheating" because he wouldn't have taken a liking to you if he didn't wanna do you. icon_wink.gif
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Jan 19, 2013 2:30 AM GMT
    flyingdiamond saidMaybe try this strategy instead: Do not have sex with anyone until you've known them for at least 3 months.
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    This seems like a healthier journey with more fruitful results.
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    Jan 19, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    flyingdiamond saidMaybe try this strategy instead: Do not have sex with anyone until you've known them for at least 3 months.
    That's like 3x longer than most new relationships, regardless of the couples' orientation.

    All you're doing when you do that is push the other guy into "cheating" because he wouldn't have taken a liking to you if he didn't wanna do you. icon_wink.gif


    The OP doesn't have to be monogamously dating the person, just know the person for 3 months. If they lose interest in that time, then it's just about tricking, which is the thing the OP is trying to avoid. It's not about what the other person likes in this case, it's what the OP needs to do to bring out "the other pieces of his personality".
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    Jan 19, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    coffeeabc saidsuppressing sex will make one become insane.

    A century ago the same was also once said about masturbation. But it's still not clear to me if we're talking about not having any orgasms at all for 6 months, or just not having them with other guys.

    Because there's some evidence that regular ejaculation is good for a man. And that a lack of ejaculation may cause some health problems, especially for the prostate. The tendency for celibate men to get wet dreams (nocturnal emissions) suggests that the body is intervening to do for us what we are choosing to not do for ourselves.

    It also means we aren't really preserving semen for some other health benefit, since we lose it anyway, but without having anywhere near the fun than if we had deliberately lost it while awake. And last, an orgasm releases chemicals into the bloodstream that are thought to be beneficial to a man both physically & psychologically.
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    Jan 22, 2013 4:46 PM GMT
    S34n05 saidDoes that include masturbation? Now THAT would be hard!


    Yeah that includes mastrubation. Nothing even remotely sexual.