Anal sex question

  • Lehurrdurr

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    Jan 19, 2013 7:34 AM GMT
    Hey folks
    So I've got a bit of a dilemmas here. I'm a bottom, and I think I'm sexually active and every time I engage in anal sex I always end up bleeding as if I'm a virgin or something. It's weird and its starting to freak me out. The bleeding afterwards would be couple droplets and the next day it'll be fine but still painful for 1-2 days and back to normal and same thing keeps happening every time . I went to the doctor (proctologist), he stuck his finger up my arse and all he said was and I quote (in his Indian accent) "you too tight. Next time go smaller". Somehow his professional opinion doesn't satisfy me.
    What should I do? Should I be worried?icon_redface.gif

    My friends joked that I have a permanent virginity (aka tightness or something)
    :/
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    Jan 19, 2013 7:43 AM GMT
    Lehurrdurr saidI think I'm sexually active

    And I'm a little bit pregnant. icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 19, 2013 7:51 AM GMT
    Go see another proctologist for a different opinion. Did he not put a scope in your bum to visualize the wounds? But it sounds like the current doctor is correct. Your anatomical genes have given you a tight sphincter and there's nothing you can do about it. No matter how many times you bottom, you're going to have a little bit of trauma. So yeah, I agree that you should go smaller. If getting fucked by a small dick still produces blood, then it means you are not meant to get fucked.

    Also, I'd be extra careful. The severity of your problem can get worse. You can develop hemorrhoids and/or anal fissures and if they turn chronic, you'll need surgical intervention. Good luck to you!
  • Lehurrdurr

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    Jan 19, 2013 7:51 AM GMT
    Neight said
    Lehurrdurr saidI think I'm sexually active

    And I'm a little bit pregnant. icon_neutral.gif


    Lol.
    Well.. 4-5times/month. Is that considered active?
    Now, back on topic
  • Lehurrdurr

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    Jan 19, 2013 7:53 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidGo see another proctologist for a different opinion. Did he not put a scope in your bum to visualize the wounds? But it sounds like the current doctor is correct. Your anatomical genes have given you a tight sphincter and there's nothing you can do about it. No matter how many times you bottom, you're going to have a little bit of trauma. So yeah, I agree that you should go smaller. If getting fucked by a small dick still produces blood, then it means you are not meant to get fucked.

    Also, I'd be extra careful. The severity of your problem can get worse. You can develop hemorrhoids and/or anal fissures and if they turn chronic, you'll need surgical intervention. Good luck to you!


    Oh well isn't that just dandy.

    The only time I remember having a really, really, overly the top mind blowingly good sex was with this French dude and I didn't bleed. And he was 7".

    How much smaller do I need to sink down to ::cries::
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    Jan 19, 2013 8:16 AM GMT
    If the 7 inches didn't give you any problems, then great! Try it again and see!
  • Lehurrdurr

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    Jan 19, 2013 8:20 AM GMT
    But this was one of those time where I didn't bleed not as of recently. So basically in all my sex experiences I'd bleed 80% of the time and the rare 20% was with that French dude. I had sex 2wks ago and same thing happens. I'm starting to get worried. All I want is.. normal crazy sex
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    Jan 19, 2013 8:26 AM GMT
    Is dick size really that important to you? Try a 6 incher then and find out! Some of the hottest hookups I've had were with guys who were 6 inches and they were HAWT!
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    Jan 19, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    Am I the only questioning "go for a smaller dick"? I mean, what if he finds a guy he really likes and wants to be with but he's got an 8 incher? icon_confused.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 19, 2013 4:59 PM GMT
    Maybe you need relax more and do more foreplay. What's weird is that even a guy with a smaller sick can hurt if he's doing it wrong, or you're not ready for it. Also if you're too dry it could be a matter of too much friction.
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    Jan 19, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidAm I the only questioning "go for a smaller dick"? I mean, what if he finds a guy he really likes and wants to be with but he's got an 8 incher? icon_confused.gif


    Or worse...11.

    #gaybottomproblems
  • Lehurrdurr

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    Jan 19, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    IceBuckets saidAm I the only questioning "go for a smaller dick"? I mean, what if he finds a guy he really likes and wants to be with but he's got an 8 incher? icon_confused.gif


    Or worse...11.

    #gaybottomproblems


    this is for real. this guy i met broke up with me because i couldn't take his 11.5"

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    Jan 19, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    IceBuckets saidAm I the only questioning "go for a smaller dick"? I mean, what if he finds a guy he really likes and wants to be with but he's got an 8 incher? icon_confused.gif


    Or worse...11.

    #gaybottomproblems

    Well, thats not really my point. My point is what if he really connects on an emotional and personal level. Sex isn't EVERYTHING. It's a big part of a relationship but it's not everything.
  • gabi23

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    Jan 23, 2013 6:18 AM GMT
    I had that with a room mate and it hurt much and happened the same as happened to you. It was ow full when going to the toilet for the next tow days and I didn't try again but later I met a guy who knows more how to do it and I learned that being my legs up it didn't hurt and his bone slide in easy. It was amazingly different and very elastic.
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    Jan 23, 2013 6:40 AM GMT
    Bleeding as if you're a virgin? I didn't bleed when I lost my virginity and I've never heard of anyone experiencing that.
  • gabi23

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    Jan 26, 2013 9:05 PM GMT
    Someone told me that it is because we have little blood vessels there
  • mybud

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    Jan 26, 2013 9:28 PM GMT
    You may have an infection...Go get checked out by a doc...Be honest about having anal sex.....Had a friend go through something like this.
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    Jan 26, 2013 10:12 PM GMT
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  • miral

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    Jan 29, 2013 12:12 PM GMT
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    Jan 29, 2013 12:27 PM GMT
    Lehurrdurr saidBut this was one of those time where I didn't bleed not as of recently. So basically in all my sex experiences I'd bleed 80% of the time and the rare 20% was with that French dude. I had sex 2wks ago and same thing happens. I'm starting to get worried. All I want is.. normal crazy sex

    I know this is mentioning the obvious, but just to confirm: you are using lots of lube, right? A kind meant for anal, not some cooking oil or something not specifically intended for sex? And the top is reapplying it if the sex goes on for a while?

    Because bleeding not directly related to penis size can be due to friction, and also rough technique without sufficient foreplay to relax a tight sphincter.
  • WApilot

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    Feb 03, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    If you're bleeding and suffer from pain for hours/days after sex. You're probably not using adequate/sufficient lubrication. Not to mention, that coupled with rough sex can sometimes cause the problems that you said you are having.

    The key is, use a better lubricant. I use 'Gun Oil', it's a silicone based lubricant. It's perfect. Apply the lube sparingly throughout. When your partner enters your ass for the first time, make sure he takes it easy. Maybe change positions if at a moment of pain.


    It shouldn't hurt (for the most part) or bleed (for the most part) after you have sex, if you take care of yourself in the process. I used to have the same problem as you when I first started having sex... I didn't quite understand the importance of lube.
  • nubScotty

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    Feb 03, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    You should go to another proctologist or even a GI specialist, bleeding can be caused from micro tears during sex which is quite normal, but there could be other issues going on.

    A digital exam isn't exactly the best test to assess for a problem, he should of at least used an anoscope to visualize the area. Could have an anal fissure or polyps that are responsible for the pain/bleeding; better safe then sorry.
  • takashi

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    Feb 08, 2013 3:51 AM GMT
    If you are talking about a real 11.5 incher and if you are a relatively small person, (maybe body size doesn't matter at that length) you may be taking on more than you can chew, or fit inside of you.

    I am a bottom and I prefer my men to be about 7" that is comfortable. 8" is nice too, a little more pressure and you can feel the substance...
    Its just that the bigger the man is the longer it takes for him to fully enter me. It is painful for me even if he goes slowly inside, until he is totally inside of me. Once my body gets used to the penetrating member, then its all good.

    I had a man that was little more than 9". That was amazing but....he was going past places where no man had gone before and maybe should not be going....
    There is like a second sphincter or some type of ring of muscle deeper inside and he got to that place and broke the barrier.

    Oh, my god it was the most amazing feeling, for some reason that ring is sensitive, at least for me and he just kept pushing. That was one of the most memorable times for me.

    Still I did not bleed. I am no doctor but bleeding can't be good.
    I would be more concerned if I were you.