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  • bobod

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    Jan 19, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    So, here's the deal. After 3 years of not seeing or fooling around with anyone I finally meet someone. We make out and fore play a great deal, but the moment he touches my dick I loose it and cum!

    I have only jerked off to porn, and when I do that I am hard as rock and can last at least an hour (sometimes more) But when I am with him I don't really stay hard and cum the moment he touches my dick.

    Any thoughts or suggestions? It's really frustrating!! icon_mad.gif
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    Jan 19, 2013 2:52 PM GMT
    Some ideas:

    If you know when you're gonna be seeing him, jerk off 3 or 4 hours before at home. This should desensitize you a little, lower your beginning hormone level, and reduce the urgency of having a full load.

    Orchestrate things differently. If you do pop early then turn your attention to him. And compliment him on how much he excites you, that you shoot so easily with him. By the time he cums you may be ready to swap roles again for round 2, but now at a reduced pace for you.

    Have him do less foreplay on you, no direct touching, but you do it on him first (though admittedly for some guys even performing foreplay on the other guy is still exciting foreplay). Nevertheless experiment, change your routine a little, maybe less foreplay for you both until the initial novelty of this guy wears off, and you develop more self-control with him. Try masturbatng without the porn, just fantasizing about him those few hours before you see him.

    There are penis desensitizing creams, but I'm not sure that your problem is solely an external tactile one. It may be psychological.
  • bobod

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    Jan 19, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advice. I was thinking about taking a break from jo with the porn. Do you think that would help?
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    Jan 19, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    bobod saidThanks for the advice. I was thinking about taking a break from jo with the porn. Do you think that would help?


    I think it would! Also, you mentioned that you haven't been with a guy in 3 years and that could be a main factor. You're so excited to be with a guy after so long that your brain is telling your dick to start shooting after the first touch. I would ask the guy that your with to be patient with you, relax and enjoy the foreplay.
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    Jan 19, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    bobod saidThanks for the advice. I was thinking about taking a break from jo with the porn. Do you think that would help?

    Without the porn possiby. But a JO a few hours just before you see him might help. Most men find attempting successive orgasms in a relatively short period of time to be increasingly more difficult.

    If your first orgasm with him is too easy, too premature, then an earlier orgasm through masturbation may slow you down a bit. How you ever done that before seeing him?
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    Mar 10, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    it is pre cum
    its a biological fluid that acts as a lube when a top does his bottom in a bareback way

    its not entirely cumming
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 10, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    Zeriel saidit is pre cum
    its a biological fluid that acts as a lube when a top does his bottom in a bareback way

    its not entirely cumming


    It may be pre but most guys know the difference between the pre leakage and blowing their nut.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 11, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    bottom for him, then it doesnt matter right?
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    Jan 23, 2015 8:02 PM GMT
    You could practice with a fleshjack to increase endurance.
  • vhotti26

    Posts: 287

    Jan 23, 2015 11:48 PM GMT
    Having the opposite problem :/
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jan 25, 2015 6:43 AM GMT
    You are 30.

    If you shoot too soon, do not sweat it. Fool around a bit, and go for the next round.

    Do not burden yourself with the performance anxiety. Your BF/partner is another dude. He knows that shooting too soon happens. He won't judge you, and you should not take this too seriously at all.

    The main beauty of the m2m sex is that the other guy has a first-hand knowledge on how a male functions. Dump the heteronormative idea that you have to perform in order to please someone. Or your masculinity will be questioned.

    SC
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 25, 2015 7:07 AM GMT
    ^^
    this.