how to initiate a fuck buddy relationship

  • Piers40

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    Jan 20, 2013 1:38 PM GMT
    How did you guys end up with a fuck buddy?

    I always worry that when I'm initiating contact, it will be interpreted as me wanting a relationship and either scare them away or make them fall in love.

    How do you get to the point without being intense/full on where you can arrange hook ups?
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    Jan 20, 2013 2:10 PM GMT
    "Hey I really like having hot, nasty, fun sex with you, but right now, that's about all I can offer. Want to keep doing this?"
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    Jan 20, 2013 2:27 PM GMT
    I'm your man.....consider that position filled! Also, now that the topic of "positions" has been brought up........icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 20, 2013 2:45 PM GMT
    Piers40 saidHow did you guys end up with a fuck buddy?

    I always worry that when I'm initiating contact, it will be interpreted as me wanting a relationship and either scare them away or make them fall in love.

    How do you get to the point without being intense/full on where you can arrange hook ups?

    Consider that question but without the sexual component. How do you end up with an acquaintance, versus a friend, or a close friend, or your best friend?

    Don't those things sorta happen on their own, not deliberately planned?

    I've had fuck buddies because we tricked and liked the sex, but weren't into dating each other. Or the other guy didn't want to date anyone, just have sex with me and others.

    And how did we get to trick? Lots of ways. A simple bar cruise, where we left together for the purpose. Or a guy I hung with because he was the club DJ and I like music, and sometimes the winter weather would turn bad and he'd say don't drive in it, just stay here tonight, so I would and we'd fuck.

    In the 1960s & 70s the term was casual sex, and that's what a fuck buddy is. As soon as you start planning and overanalyzing it you're no longer having casual sex.

    Have the (safe) sex first, and then decide if you're connecting on any other levels. If you're not, then have the sex again anyway, and now you've got yourself a fuck buddy.
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    Jan 20, 2013 3:29 PM GMT
    I initiated a FWB with this hot guy and our first hookup was hot! When we met again, he said he wanted a relationship/date. I said I wasn't looking for a relationship, just something physical. He didn't understand why and I told him that I wasn't ready for a relationship. He ended up leaving and I didn't hear from him again.

    Smartmoney pretty much narrowed it down. Be upfront with your potential FWB. Always keep an open communication.
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    Jan 20, 2013 3:32 PM GMT
    Ask?
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    Jan 20, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
    smartmoney said"Hey I really like having hot, nasty, fun sex with you, but right now, that's about all I can offer. Want to keep doing this?"

    Always succinct and to the point icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 21, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    It usually starts with a one night stand which ends with a conversation about "just fucking" every now and then.
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    Jan 21, 2013 1:26 AM GMT
    Piers40 saidHow did you guys end up with a fuck buddy?
    By not being ugly and using fake pics to convince people otherwise.
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    Jan 21, 2013 1:46 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidIt usually starts with a one night stand which ends with a conversation about "just fucking" every now and then.


    This. I have had a few FWB and it's always nice to "test the waters" before hand. If they are good in bed, hot, and readily available I will usually contact them again a few days or weeks after. Most of the time it works out.

    We keep it simple and playful. Sometimes I'll sleep over but I usually drop hints that I'm not looking for a relationship and they get the idea.
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    Jan 21, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Piers40 saidHow did you guys end up with a fuck buddy?
    By not being ugly and using fake pics to convince people otherwise.

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