Jan 21, 2013 7:37 AM GMT
Hello fellow friends
I really appreciate if you could help me with this "issues" I have right now... this is what is happening and I really need some advice!
I'm new to the city I live on now, I only have one friend and it has been real tough for me. I miss my family and my friends a lot, but where I am from I had no chances of making something out of my career, so here I am, working for my future.
The thing is I met this guy 3 months ago almost when I arrived, I fell for him like a rat for cheese, we dated, and suddenly this month he just ignores me, or just calls me when he wants to suck my dick, literally, I know the kind of relationship I'm on, I know he doesn't feel anything for me other than lust. But the problem is I have indeed fallen for him, and I'm really beginning to suffer because sometimes he just plainly ignores me.
I know Im not a super model, but neither is he, I know I don't have to take that BS, for example we arrange a date for dinner, and at the very last minute he doesn't answer the phone nor everything, have done that 3 times now... so today he did it again, I like him, a lot, but I decided it's not worth it... called him 3 times, no answer... and I feel lame with myself for craving for the attention of someone who doesn't even care about me. So I texted him that I'm not gonna be his disposable friend anymore. However a part of me still clinges to the fact that he might change... omg that part of me is so retarded...
The fact is, I'm kinda losing hope about love and relationships, I had one that was wonderful at first, we lasted 5 years until I realized he was cheating on me with everyone, even our "friends" so obviously I dumped him...
So am I wrong to keep searching for real love, those real love actually exists? A friend of mine tells me that I am too soft hearted and that I need to turn into a player... but that's not me. I'm after something more, something deep, something special.
I've had some relationships, more like relationship abortions... as I call them, either because they are dishonest, just want sex, or money... There are guys that are in love with me also but I really really don't like them, not one bit :/
So what should I do? about this actual "relationship", about this search for love.. and about turning into a player.... thanks in advance, first for reading and for the answers I'll get, I really need the advice, in fact right now I'm a mess emotionally. Thanks god there is excercise and work to keep my mind distracted...

I'm new to the city I live on now, I only have one friend and it has been real tough for me. I miss my family and my friends a lot, but where I am from I had no chances of making something out of my career, so here I am, working for my future.
The thing is I met this guy 3 months ago almost when I arrived, I fell for him like a rat for cheese, we dated, and suddenly this month he just ignores me, or just calls me when he wants to suck my dick, literally, I know the kind of relationship I'm on, I know he doesn't feel anything for me other than lust. But the problem is I have indeed fallen for him, and I'm really beginning to suffer because sometimes he just plainly ignores me.
I know Im not a super model, but neither is he, I know I don't have to take that BS, for example we arrange a date for dinner, and at the very last minute he doesn't answer the phone nor everything, have done that 3 times now... so today he did it again, I like him, a lot, but I decided it's not worth it... called him 3 times, no answer... and I feel lame with myself for craving for the attention of someone who doesn't even care about me. So I texted him that I'm not gonna be his disposable friend anymore. However a part of me still clinges to the fact that he might change... omg that part of me is so retarded...
The fact is, I'm kinda losing hope about love and relationships, I had one that was wonderful at first, we lasted 5 years until I realized he was cheating on me with everyone, even our "friends" so obviously I dumped him...
So am I wrong to keep searching for real love, those real love actually exists? A friend of mine tells me that I am too soft hearted and that I need to turn into a player... but that's not me. I'm after something more, something deep, something special.
I've had some relationships, more like relationship abortions... as I call them, either because they are dishonest, just want sex, or money... There are guys that are in love with me also but I really really don't like them, not one bit :/
So what should I do? about this actual "relationship", about this search for love.. and about turning into a player.... thanks in advance, first for reading and for the answers I'll get, I really need the advice, in fact right now I'm a mess emotionally. Thanks god there is excercise and work to keep my mind distracted...