Bisexuality is the new gay

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    Jan 21, 2013 2:31 PM GMT
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    The importance of bisexual destigmatization in the United States.

    Bisexuality is the new gay. By this I mean that since homosexuality is becoming increasingly acceptable in the United States, the proverbial torch has been passed to bisexuals and their allies. Now their cause needs championing because bisexuality remains stigmatized, stereotyped and discriminated against. Soon the term "biphobia" will become as commonly known as "homophobia."

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/20/bisexuality-accepting-attraction-across-gender-lines_n_2511906.html?ref=topba

    http://www.yourtango.com/experts/denise-lafrance-cta-cc/stigma-bisexuality
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 21, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    Sounds like hyperbole.

    GLBT has always included bisexuality. I've known bi people for as long as I've been out. It's really no biggie.
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    Jan 21, 2013 8:45 PM GMT
    Yeah... somebody just had some column-inches to fill. I tend to believe the Kinsey hypothesis that everyone is inherently "bi" to some extent.

    That said, I've been rejected by both men and women over the "bi" thing. Excuses range from some weird fear of contamination (I just couldn't ever touch an organ that's been there.) To "I just wouldn't be able to compete." Whatever that means.
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    Jan 21, 2013 8:49 PM GMT
    Unless I read this article on Gawker...I shall not believe such a trend exists!icon_lol.gif
  • mgmt88

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    Jan 21, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    I think all humans are a little bisexual.
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    Jan 21, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    I think more men are becoming increasingly comfortable with their sexuality.

    I went to the bar Saturday night that's here at Austin Ranch, and Ryan kept hitting on me, telling me he wasn't gay, but, wanting my picture, and showing me pictures of guys, and saying to his friend something about topping me. I told Ryan I found it very confusing. Debbie says "Tell him. Chuck's not the pushy sort." Ryan says, "He knows." Ryan, Babe, I need you to just ask the question..."wanna fuck?" Ryan was showing me side profiles of him naked (along with his 4 brothers who all have tattoos on their right ass cheeks...lol. I think Ryan didn't wanna be pushy either, so...we both ended up going home and jerking off. Boys...

    I KNOW there's lot of guys, like Seth McFarland, who "enjoy a good butt fucking as much as the next guy." and..guys are finding guys know what makes guys get off, but, they may well not have a romantic interest in a guy.

    I think it is a very healthy thing, and trends towards what Kinsey said, but, gay folks need to take it for the sex that it is, and, understand, that "bi" guys are much different than some gay guys, and make the distinction between romance and sex. Gay guys that think that a "bi" guy is going to go gay is mostly wishful thinking.

    Frats, and Marines, are well known for having some fun.. LOL :-)

    Those who chose to hide behind a face less profile, are closeted, or head fucked by religion get what they deserve. They choose to be miserable.

    I can show a girl a good time, but, I could not keep her happy in the big picture. Just about everyone likes tits.

    Real Jock, by its nature, trends towards, masculine, athletic, confident sorts (and those wanting to stare at us), but, some gay guys try to identify in the "gayborhood" way, and, sometimes, I find it a huge turnoff.

    The saying goes..."Allow you need is a 6 pack and a dirt road to get a guy." Most days, you don't need the dirt road.

    Some of the best sex I've had is from so called bi guys, that went on to get married.

    I don't mess with married, closeted, down low, or partnered folks but...I like a good butt fucking as much as the next guy.

    I think guys that can go either way, ultimately, have to make a choice, in any kind of committed relationship, which leaves everyone wondering which direction they are headed. I've seen them go down either path.

    I always tell folks the truth is in the jerk off test. If you jerk off to guys, you lean gay, and vice versa.
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    Jan 21, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    Oh sure! Then we're just on the slippery slope of their asking for marriage to be redefined as a man-man-woman or woman-woman-man.

    Where does it all end for crying out loud! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

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    Jan 21, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    Bisexuals have it tough, as they dont fit neatly into either the gay or straight world.....hence outsider status is what they given.

    I think also, to some degree, some gay and straight people find bi sexuals both distasteful and threatening............this is unfair.....
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 21, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
    I think bisexuality is increasing in women. It seems to be completely acceptable in the college years. Men, somewhat more open but I don't think the number of guys in that category is increasing. I really think it's easier for gay women to accept a straight sexual relationship and while times are changing, being straight in society is still the "normal" path. That and womens' drive for kids is stronger than ours.
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    Jan 21, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
    BarryPT saidBisexuals have it tough, as they dont fit neatly into either the gay or straight world.....hence outsider status is what they given.

    I think also, to some degree, some gay and straight people find bi sexuals both distasteful and threatening............this is unfair.....


    I agree, although I thought true Bisexuality was quite rare. The norm these days is to say you are Bi then come out in a year or so once you build up the courage. The few Bi men I have met have done this or have dated both men and women but prefer men...confusing but it is their life.
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    But there's no such thing as bisexual, it's just pregay.
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:10 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidBut there's no such thing as bisexual, it's just pregay.


    I agree with this. No true bisexual and they can definetly not stand under the GAY umbrella alongside the gold card gays
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:10 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidSounds like hyperbole.

    GLBT has always included bisexuality. I've known bi people for as long as I've been out. It's really no biggie.


    To some people, e.g. you and I, it's no biggie. However, in real life and even on this site, I constantly see how bi men are treated as outsiders. One of the common mantras slung at them by gay and straight alike is, "Pick a side!" I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for them to be held with such disregard from both ends.

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    Singalong said
    smartmoney saidBut there's no such thing as bisexual, it's just pregay.


    I agree with this. No true bisexual and they can definetly not stand under the GAY umbrella alongside the gold card gays
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
    colboy saidI don't get why bisexuals always feel like they are being discriminated against. When you're in a relationship, you can only be in a same sex (gay) or opposite sex (straight) one. Why do bisexuals always feel the need to distinguish their preference for both sexes unless they're planning to have a polygamous relationship?


    I think it's more about being honest with themselves and others. As a gay man, essentially your advice to the bi guys is to remain in the closet about their sexuality. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidOh sure! Then we're just on the slippery slope of their asking for marriage to be redefined as a man-man-woman or woman-woman-man.

    Where does it all end for crying out loud! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    That's not a redefinition...that's a return to the original marriage. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    colboy saidI don't get why bisexuals always feel like they are being discriminated against. When you're in a relationship, you can only be in a same sex (gay) or opposite sex (straight) one. Why do bisexuals always feel the need to distinguish their preference for both sexes unless they're planning to have a polygamous relationship?


    I kind of agree with this statement. Now, I don't hate bisexual men/women, if they like both sexes, great for them. But the whole "picking a side thing" has some truth to it.But with the few bi men I have met, they told me in the long run, they'd prefer to be with a woman.
    This is why I sometimes wonder if it would be easier if a bi guy dated another bi guy. But then again, you can't help what you like. It's truly a complex thing to me...
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:32 PM GMT
    colboy saidI don't get why bisexuals always feel like they are being discriminated against. When you're in a relationship, you can only be in a same sex (gay) or opposite sex (straight) one. Why do bisexuals always feel the need to distinguish their preference for both sexes unless they're planning to have a polygamous relationship?
    Two of my neighbors are bisesxual, and married.

    They're called "swingers."

    It's not that uncommon. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:34 PM GMT
    colboy saidI don't get why bisexuals always feel like they are being discriminated against. When you're in a relationship, you can only be in a same sex (gay) or opposite sex (straight) one. Why do bisexuals always feel the need to distinguish their preference for both sexes unless they're planning to have a polygamous relationship?
    Stupidest post ever...

    Bisexuals dont argue that being in a relationship with a man is a gay relationship and when their with women they are in a heterosexual relationship. But when Bisexuals are not in relationships they really don't care who they are going to be with.

    But when women find out about their past they can get disgusted and not want to date and same with men...or they just think cause they are bisexual they are going to cheat on them with the opposite sex.

    And if you don't want bisexuals to come out and be open about themselves then why the hell should you be allowed to be open about your sexuality?
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    I've seen that people discriminate bisexuals the most....
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    Hawk_Guy13 said
    colboy saidI don't get why bisexuals always feel like they are being discriminated against. When you're in a relationship, you can only be in a same sex (gay) or opposite sex (straight) one. Why do bisexuals always feel the need to distinguish their preference for both sexes unless they're planning to have a polygamous relationship?


    I think it's more about being honest with themselves and others. As a gay man, essentially your advice to the bi guys is to remain in the closet about their sexuality. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I'm not like that. When I was meeting up with an older bi gentleman (he was around 39), he was a closeted bi who separated from his wife 10 years ago and recently called it off with his girlfriend. I remember we'd talk about all sorts of things and he asked me one time if he should stay in the closet. I honestly told him that he should do whatever makes him comfortable. I don't think it's right to take advantage of the situation and tell them to do so and so. The true answers lies within the individual.
    He did end up getting back with his girlfriend and while it sucked to see him go, I'm happy that he is happy. icon_smile.gif

    So not all gay men have the type of thinking (not implying that you were saying that... Just saying it for the sake of the conversation lol)
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    If he loves me anyways, I couldn't care less what he's done in the past. icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    I have the ability to love a man or a woman. I have also in the past been deeply in love with both a man and a woman.

    For those who say my love somehow can't exist, that it's just lust or confusion or a phase, I'll simply submit it as proof that bigotry and ignorance are not the sole ownership of our opponents.
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    RadRTT said
    colboy saidI don't get why bisexuals always feel like they are being discriminated against. When you're in a relationship, you can only be in a same sex (gay) or opposite sex (straight) one. Why do bisexuals always feel the need to distinguish their preference for both sexes unless they're planning to have a polygamous relationship?
    Or they just think cause they are bisexual they are going to cheat on them with the opposite sex.


    I've seen this comment is pretty common with how some people think of bisexual men/women. I used to have this sort of thinking years ago but I learned that you [b]shouldn't/b] think that way. They are people like any other people and if they truly did love and respect you, they would never do that. So now I am open to bi guys, as long as they are honest and sincere, I could care less if they were bi or not.

    And besides, people might forget that gay guys and straight guys can cheat just as much as a bi guy.
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:43 PM GMT
    thatirishbastard saidI have the ability to love a man or a woman. I have also in the past been deeply in love with both a man and a woman.

    For those who say my love somehow can't exist, that it's just lust or confusion or a phase, I'll simply submit it as proof that bigotry and ignorance are not the sole ownership of our opponents.


    *Standing ovation (even if it is only just me)*
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    Jan 21, 2013 9:43 PM GMT
    I am bi...I have been open about it. I was desperately in love with a woman, who I was with for 5 years. She ripped my heart out when I found out she cheated on me with multiple guys.

    Bi Guy- Never cheated or looked at anyone
    Straight Girl- Cheated