Just to confirm, I approve of Dave's (Yourname2000's) message here, as the other one in the relationship. We were talking just last night about sharing our experiences with RJ, and he certainly has my permission to talk about "us" at any time. So, to the OP:
You need to do some soul searching first. What is most important to you? What is a relationship to you? Is what you have with this guy in -line with that? If not, how far out-of-synch are you?
Having a good sense of the above would be important prep work for a conversation with your guy. You need to know what you want and where you are, as far as possible, before getting down to "brass tacks" and hopefully resolving this.
And yeah, as Dave said, what makes sense for you both, or singly, may change over time. Reflecting on your individual and mutual needs, and then talking about it as things change, is VERY important.