nomadfornow saidSome of my closest friends are straight men. No topic is off limits. They know my fully, and I them. We are very affectionate, but not sexual. It's a wonderful thing.
This. Friendships with straight guys are, in some ways, more comfortable since the potential for sex is nil.
Over the past year, my trainer and I have moved increasingly into the friend zone. We've been out to eat; Saturdays, we go to another gym and work out together, then swim laps. Today, he hinted at going on a vacation together. And this guy is totally straight. He's engaged to the girl who cuts my hair.
We say someone "is just a friend," as though friendship were a lesser category when, in fact, platonic friendship is one of the highest forms of human relations.
I think people (particularly men, gay or straight) confuse sex with intimacy. Someone told me once that the definition of intimacy was "the sharing of self." Everybody want that. But a lot of times, guys begin to experience intimacy and get uncomfortable because they think it implies something sexual.