Jan 23, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
While I was in New York for Christmas, I went out with this guy one night (it was the night before I came back to Philly, so there was no chance of us going out again). I had a great time, but I didn't really consider it a date and I didn't realize that he did. He's a really nice guy, I can say a bunch of good things about him, but I'm not attracted to him, and I wouldn't be down for a long distance deal anyway. I'm happy to be his friend, but he seems to think there's more. He texts me every once in a while, but not so often or anything that too off the wall. Here's the kicker: I absentmindedly invited him here to teach him a few cooking basics. It's now turned into where he wants to come for a weekend so I can show him around town, and I get the hint that he may think he can stay in my apartment. I need to know how to tactfully let him know that I'm happy to be his friend, and I'm happy to have him come down for a day, but I'm not interested in him and I'm not comfortable having him stay at my place. I'm afraid that no matter what I say, I'm going to make him feel bad and I don't want to do that.