Meeting Guys

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    Jan 23, 2013 6:56 AM GMT
    Why is it so hard to meet a guy? At this point I would settle for just a friend. Any suggestions on how to meet guys? Realjock hasnt exactly been working for me :/
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    Jan 23, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    Hit them clubs
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    Jan 23, 2013 7:36 AM GMT
    RealJock discriminates against Asians.
  • MikeW

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    Jan 23, 2013 8:03 AM GMT
    If homely old me can, surely a young hottie like you can. (Make friends here, I mean.) Just participate in the forums more. Say what's on your mind (other than just complaining about not being able to make friends). If someone says something you find genuinely interesting or impresses you in some way, email them and let them know. Yeah, you may not always get a response or the response you'd like but, hey, sometimes you will.
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    Jan 23, 2013 5:17 PM GMT
    Giolewis1018 saidWhy is it so hard to meet a guy? At this point I would settle for just a friend. Any suggestions on how to meet guys? Realjock hasnt exactly been working for me :/


    what sort of guy are you trying to meet? what are your criteria? what are your preferences?
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    Jan 23, 2013 5:39 PM GMT
    I've met some great guys and made friends through this site.

    Sadly, most live far from me - Guadalajara, Budapest, Ontario. It's funny that it seems easy to make friends with people far away but the ones in your own backyard are the ones least interested in meeting in person. I remember meeting one local RJ guy in person at a function and I introducted myself and mentioned RealJock. He just ignored me! I think it probably has something to do with our noncommital society we live in these days. With friendship comes a commitment of time and energy and obligation - things people today do not want to invest.

    Good luck
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    Jan 23, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    Giolewis1018 saidWhy is it so hard to meet a guy? At this point I would settle for just a friend. Any suggestions on how to meet guys? Realjock hasnt exactly been working for me :/


    something i have noticed, especially as i get older, is that people tend to socialize within their field of work... and often folks meet partners from that same pool of people....

    yes young folks have wide circles of friends, but that narrows as one ages... my advice is to find work and school subjects, that offer your "kind" of people...

    if your a scientist, hang with other like minded people, and so forth.... in the long run, this can pay off.... so to speak....

    cheers Jon
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    Jan 23, 2013 5:55 PM GMT
    There is a saying- "First impression is the best impression"

    try to introduce yourself in much nicer way...
    keep your profile clean...fill your profile with some good looking pics....either delete or move your adult pics to adult or private pics!(many people will have a strong opinion when they read your profile for the first time)
    use forums...
    read other peoples profile before you contact them...

    It will surely work(though it may take some time)!

    have a gr8 day!
  • WhoDey

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    Jan 23, 2013 5:55 PM GMT
    Maybe because you have such a long checklist:

    caring
    lovable
    smart
    handsome
    gentleman
    thoughtful
    has manners
    TALLER
    BIGGER THAN ME
    GREAT BODY
    I can workout with, hangout with, cuddle with
    make me laugh
    smiles a lot
  • Aodhan

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    Jan 23, 2013 6:03 PM GMT
    grindr, it's working for me anyway icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 23, 2013 6:09 PM GMT
    Painted saidRealJock discriminates against Asians.

    Oh I see.
    Sucks to be me then.
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    Jan 23, 2013 7:47 PM GMT
    WhoDey saidMaybe because you have such a long checklist:

    caring
    lovable
    smart
    handsome
    gentleman
    thoughtful
    has manners
    TALLER
    BIGGER THAN ME
    GREAT BODY
    I can workout with, hangout with, cuddle with
    make me laugh
    smiles a lot

    True. For a friendship you have so many criteria.icon_eek.gif
  • kyleburke

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    Jan 23, 2013 7:51 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidThere is a saying- "First impression is the best impression"

    try to introduce yourself in much nicer way...
    keep your profile clean...fill your profile with some good looking pics....either delete or move your adult pics to adult or private pics!(many people will have a strong opinion when they read your profile for the first time)
    use forums...
    read other peoples profile before you contact them...

    It will surely work(though it may take some time)!

    have a gr8 day!


    Well said! When it comes to me looking for a great guy and not for sexual reasons...I'm turned off by some of the pics people display...It feels desperate and sometimes I look at their profile and wonder "Do they know how foolish they look standing there taking a pic of themself half naked?" Feels very egotistical and self involved...BUT AGAIN...thats only when Im creeping for dates...

    If its sexually related the pics are YUm icon_razz.gif hahah
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Jan 23, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    I've met 2 guys as friends. No sex. Just friends.
    I have found it easier to become friends first and see where it goes.
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    Jan 23, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    You're 20, so I'm assuming you're still in school. Team sports will provide a good supply of guys to meet. Your housing situation too - might be helpful. There ought to be more guys in your age group living near you.

    I've met guys though school, sports (my H20-polo team) and through my fraternity. After graduation, I met more guys through work (be careful not to sleep with co-workers though - - especially if they're in your department). I've met guys through my alumni association gatherings & serving on the board. I've met guys though other friends, and at my gym. I've met guys though my historical association and antique car club things I've done. Volunteer work though the National Trust has been one more place I've met guys.

    Last, but not least - - - I've met a good number of R.J. guys over the years - - - in person and on the phone. I also met my s.o. here several years ago - - - starting out in Forums, and later e-mailing each other sometimes, and then phoning each other. Finally we met (we lived on opposite coasts).

    Just be open and approachable - - in a good mood - - happy and confident. Guys are turned on by that. Just have fun in your life & people will be attracted to you.
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    Jan 23, 2013 10:27 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidYou're 20, so I'm assuming you're still in school. Team sports will provide a good supply of guys to meet. Your housing situation too - might be helpful. There ought to be more guys in your age group living near you.

    I've met guys though school, sports (my H20-polo team) and through my fraternity. After graduation, I met more guys through work (be careful not to sleep with co-workers though - - especially if they're in your department). I've met guys through my alumni association gatherings & serving on the board. I've met guys though other friends, and at my gym. I've met guys though my historical association and antique car club things I've done. Volunteer work though the National Trust has been one more place I've met guys.

    Last, but not least - - - I've met a good number of R.J. guys over the years - - - in person and on the phone. I also met my s.o. here several years ago - - - starting out in Forums, and later e-mailing each other sometimes, and then phoning each other. Finally we met (we lived on opposite coasts).

    Just be open and approachable - - in a good mood - - happy and confident. Guys are turned on by that. Just have fun in your life & people will be attracted to you.



    Agreed.
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    Jan 24, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
    >>>>"Just be open and approachable - - in a good mood - - happy and confident. Guys are turned on by that. Just have fun in your life & people will be attracted to you.">>>

    wait.... does a good mood have to be part of the deal????icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    its one of my tougher deals...
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    Jan 24, 2013 12:51 AM GMT
    Did you try putting out? That usually works.
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    Jan 24, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    Well from what I have seen and be through, only money and muscle matter, every other character trait and shortcomings are downplayed or ignored for vain selfish sexual greedy reasons. icon_twisted.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 24, 2013 6:40 AM GMT
    NerdMonastery said
    Painted saidRealJock discriminates against Asians.

    Oh I see.
    Sucks to be me then.


    Nah, everyone knows that a lot of men from non-Asian background have some sort of an Asian-gay men fetish! Just look at all the race threads in the past. icon_lol.gificon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 24, 2013 10:52 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with having a long list. Better to get it right than waste his time or the other guys. More importantly, thing is worse than being partnered with the wrong person and feeling lonely.
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    Jan 24, 2013 11:46 AM GMT
    I started being comfortable with my sexuality in Orlando, where you live. I found it to be great city to meet any type of guy you could imagine from the married guy to the craziest out guy. To develop friendships it became easier the more I went out and focused on having a good time and not just about having sex. Over time I started seeing some consistent people and we became friends. Today you have so many online outlets it may not require random meetings but in the end it may require focusing less on hooking up and more on spending time with someone who likes actually talking to you.

    Good luck! Respect yourself first it has a magnetic quality to it!
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    Jan 24, 2013 11:49 AM GMT
    Painted saidRealJock discriminates against Asians.


    That's not entirely true. I love Asian men! Also, its all about preference. This comment mirrors the multitude of other RJ members who have claimed the same type of racial prejudice when trying to meet guys. The fact is, its all about preference. Some guys just don't date outside their race or date a certain race. I doubt MOST of it has anything to do with discrimination but moreso the lack of attraction. However, there are a bunch of guys out there who do like Asians, namely me.

    OP, where exactly are you looking to meet guys? Also, considering that I've never seen you before, I doubt many members of RJ have also. If RJ is your main vehicle to meeting guys, give it time. It took me over a year to finally meet a guy on here. Also, could it be that YOU are discriminating against other races? I'm not trying to call you out but your hotlist doesn't exactly promote "I'm open to race" which likely factors into why you haven't meet anyone. If that's your preference, there is definitely nothing wrong with that but being open to other races will only increase your chances of finding a guy.
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    Jan 24, 2013 11:50 AM GMT
    NerdMonastery said
    Painted saidRealJock discriminates against Asians.

    Oh I see.
    Sucks to be me then.


    Don't believe that! So not true
  • crisisgray

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    Jan 24, 2013 12:03 PM GMT
    aww...don't feel so lonely. There will always be those random messages you get like the one you're going to get now icon_wink.gif