The "Standards" Game

  • Blulava

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    Jan 23, 2013 8:27 AM GMT
    Curiosity led me to want to see what other guys like in other guys, so I came up with this, numbering your "standards" for each of these categories :3 Here's to hoping this shit doesn't start an argument!

    1. How masculine or effeminate you like your guys on scale of 1 to 10? (1 being as dainty as a fairy princess and 10 being a hot, smoldering sack of testosterone)

    2. How much of a "tolerance" for body fat do you have on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [Absolutely no "tolerance"] and 10 being [complete apathy])

    3. How much of a "tolerance" for body hair do you have, on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [Absolutely body-bald], and 10 being [complete apathy])

    4. How much do you care about a guy's clothing/fashion sense on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [complete apathy], and 10 being [of dire importance])

    5. How serious do you like a guy's demeanor to be on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [ridiculously goofy/carefree], and 10 being [fucking army sergeant])


    Do feel free to elaborate, I think this could be pretty educational for me personally since I have regular contact with all of 2.3 other gay guys :I
  • Puppymuncher

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    Jan 23, 2013 12:59 PM GMT
    1. 6+ I like my guys kinda manly, but just casually. Shouldn't be forced bravado.

    2. 4- As long as you can pull it off and I find you attractive, great.

    3. 8 Just don't have an amazon on your back or something. Or too much pubes.

    4. 3 Dress appropriately at appropriate times. *shrug*

    5. 5 Meh, whatever's appropriate, but whatever.
  • daveindenver

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    Jan 23, 2013 2:55 PM GMT
    Hey original poster: where are your scores?
  • spacemagic

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    Jan 23, 2013 3:22 PM GMT
    1. I want my guy to fall somewhere between a 4 and a 7. People's behaviors aren't a constant; they're more in flux. It's ok for my guy to have a few nelly qualities or moments, but I like men for a reason. On the other hand, I won't have much in common with a guy who exudes excessive masculinity.

    2. I like having something to grab onto. I'd peg myself at a 6 here. I'm attracted to beefier guys, so as long as he exercises and has some muscle under that fat, I'm happy.

    3. I'd say 8 here. I love chest hair, and hair anywhere else is fine. Back hair isn't exactly a turn on, but some sparse hair back there is fine. If its gorilla-y back there, I appreciate some effort to clean it up. However I have some myself and I know it's a bitch to remove by yourself.

    4. I'd say I'm a 4 here. As long as he at least knows how to match his clothes and knows what's appropriate for particular settings.

    5.I'm at a 3 here. I love a goofy guy I can have fun with. Someone I can laugh with, share inside jokes with, and won't think my own particular brand of humor is weird. Life is too ridiculous to be serious about it.
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    Jan 23, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    7- gotta b a man.

    8- i likes em in shape, non gym ppl dont rly get me.

    8- no hair is cool, but i actually think furry is pretty hot

    3- dont be a complete moron, but im rly bad at this too, my straight friends give me advice : p

    4-7 i like fun, im prolly a 6

    Added a few;
    8- sex drive, hey wat cn i say im a horny guy

    5- successful. More concerned w/ happiness.

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    Jan 23, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    1. How masculine or effeminate...?
    Other threads here have taught me how retarded gay men's idea of what masculinity is, so stating that would be of no value here. If I say I prefer masculine guys, you guys will picture some douche wearing a black leather harness and a cigar stuck in his mouth. icon_rolleyes.gif

    2. How much of a "tolerance" for body fat do you have on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [Absolutely no "tolerance"] and 10 being [complete apathy])
    A six pack has never appealed to me, so I would have to say my tolerance level would be a 4.

    3. How much of a "tolerance" for body hair do you have, on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [Absolutely body-bald], and 10 being [complete apathy])
    10 I guess. You went from totally bald to apathy, but I actually prefer body hair.

    4. How much do you care about a guy's clothing/fashion sense on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [complete apathy], and 10 being [of dire importance])
    Fashion conscious guys turn me off, but I also like a guy who knows how to dress himself if we're going to a five star restaurant or an important function, so I'd say 4.

    5. How serious do you like a guy's demeanor to be on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [ridiculously goofy/carefree], and 10 being [fucking army sergeant])
    A serious guy can be hot in the beginning, but if a guy can't make me laugh or horse around, there's not a chance in hell it's going to last. I know it's weird, but I find goofy guys hot. So I'd say 1.
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    Jan 23, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    1.) 5-7

    I don't have a problem with being effeminate. Unfortunately more often than not people also contrive an attitude and a lot of other negative things that go with it. Also, I'm probbably a 8 or 9 on this scale.. so the last thing I want is this image of me being the guy and my partner the "girl"

    2.) 3

    I used to be a 5, but as a person who was always skinny its just something I can tolerate very well. The expection I guess would be if the increased bodyfat was part of a regime to gain weight for health or for muscle reasons.

    3.) 7

    I prefer trimmed, Shaving consistently is hard if you're a hairy person.. I get that. But I don't think people need to have neck and back hair :S

    4.) 5

    Also a 5 on fashion, but its context dependent. I don't want to dress my guy but I want him to know when and how to dress appropriately. If I look amazing to go out and he looks like we're going to the gym.. its bad.

    5.) Definitely a 2-5 here.

    I have a very serious profession and academic career. That is my place to be serious... At home and with my friends I am laid back and like to be silly.

    The caveat here is that the guy (like me) needs to know when it's time to be serious. Nobody likes their legitimate concern to be laughed off.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 23, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    Interesting thread....

    I find I have a great deal of flexibility!

    1. Masculinity: Probably a 4-9. It really is all in the individual

    2. Body fat.. Anywhere from about a 4 to about an 8 or 9. I like in shape guys... you don't have to be perfect, but respect for oneself is important.
    We all aren't born perfect. It is how one lives their life.

    3. Body Hair... 5
    I'm a hairy guy, but I trim and have now shaved. I like change and hairy or non all have their assets.

    4. Clothing sense: Probably about a 6 or 7. It can be important, but I don't live and die by looking "clothing awesome". There are some who'd disagree with that, being Mr. Ralph Lauren polo" here, but I mow my lawn with just a simple pair of shorts or bum around my house in a pair of old jeans and a nice sweat jacket.

    5. Structure: I'm about a 7 honestly. I'm a serious guy about what I do, albeit I've had to learn to be spontaneous, I love laughter and a fun evening, but "care free" only has its moments...haha. I'd say a 5-7.
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    Jan 23, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    I like this questionaire.

    1. How masculine or effeminate you like your guys on scale of 1 to 10? (1 being as dainty as a fairy princess and 10 being a hot, smoldering sack of testosterone)

    About a 5+. I watch rupaul's drag race as well as NFL football but I can't date someone who does drag.

    2. How much of a "tolerance" for body fat do you have on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [Absolutely no "tolerance"] and 10 being [I prefer "chubs"])
    FIFY but I only care if he can't bench his weight. So I'll give it a 5 as well.

    3. How much of a "tolerance" for body hair do you have, on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [Absolutely body-bald], and 10 being [complete apathy])
    10- flaunt what god gave ya

    4. How much do you care about a guy's clothing/fashion sense on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [complete apathy], and 10 being [of dire importance])
    2. I like a guy who wears gym shorts and sweats

    5. How serious do you like a guy's demeanor to be on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [ridiculously goofy/carefree], and 10 being [fucking army sergeant])
    I'm a 1, so I'm not sure if opposites attract or birds of a feather...
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    Jan 23, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
    1. 6-10

    2. 5-6

    3. 10 - he can be as hairy as a bear..... i would still cuddle him at night.

    4. 3-5 anything but just not weird.....

    5. 5-7 not too serious and not too goofy....
  • Blulava

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    Jan 23, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    daveindenver saidHey original poster: where are your scores?


    I figured I'd post 'em eventually, I didn't wanna start the thread off with my own. Buuuuuutttttt

    1. How masculine or effeminate you like your guys on scale of 1 to 10? (1 being as dainty as a fairy princess and 10 being a hot, smoldering sack of testosterone)

    Between (4-7), I like that comment that gay guys have a retarded sense of masculinity, so fucking true lol. I tend to like guys who are less masculine or more boyish than I perceive myself to be.

    2. How much of a "tolerance" for body fat do you have on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [Absolutely no "tolerance"] and 10 being [complete apathy])

    I say a (9). I'm a pudgy 215, I don't mind guys pudgier than me, in fact I eat short, pudgy guys, I think they're adorable. B3 But I think 315 would be pushing it.

    3. How much of a "tolerance" for body hair do you have, on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [Absolutely body-bald], and 10 being [complete apathy])

    A (10.) Hairless is cool if that's how you're wired, but I tell every guy I'm talking to that I do not give a fuck, and to never even thinking about manscaping "for me." If I knew they were exerting a lot of effort to change how they look naturally, that would probably turn me off right away.

    4. How much do you care about a guy's clothing/fashion sense on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [complete apathy], and 10 being [of dire importance])

    A (2.) It would be a 1 if guys who put such a ridiculous amount of effort into their clothes wasn't like penicide for me, but it is. Maybe I'm using the wrong number, but I just don't like them to look like they're trying too hard.

    5. How serious do you like a guy's demeanor to be on a scale of 1 to 10? (1 being [ridiculously goofy/carefree], and 10 being [fucking army sergeant])

    (1-4) My brain's made out of oatmeal most of the time, so I get excited when I see people who are the same way :3

    BLAO.
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    Jan 24, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    I hope you start a frenzy of arguments!

    1)5
    2)5
    3)5
    4)5
    5)5

    6. How much do you care about Financial status/expendable income of a guy! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 24, 2013 2:12 AM GMT
    Are we actually assigning numerical worth to men we haven't even met yet? Come on. We're better than that.
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    Jan 24, 2013 2:17 AM GMT
    huhwhat saidAre we actually assigning numerical worth to men we haven't even met yet? Come on. We're better than that.


    No were not! icon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gificon_twisted.gif
  • Jerebear

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    Jan 24, 2013 2:25 AM GMT
    huhwhat saidAre we actually assigning numerical worth to men we haven't even met yet? Come on. We're better than that.


    Its not numerical worth of a guy you havent met, its the numerical worth of your own standards.

    ....standards that usually dont mean that much in reality anyway, depending on how horny/desperate you are, and depending on if you meet someone whose je-ne-sais-quoi makes you thrown them out entirely.
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    Jan 24, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    Jerebear said
    huhwhat saidAre we actually assigning numerical worth to men we haven't even met yet? Come on. We're better than that.


    Its not numerical worth of a guy you havent met, its the numerical worth of your own standards.

    ....standards that usually dont mean that much in reality anyway, depending on how horny/desperate you are, and depending on if you meet someone whose je-ne-sais-quoi makes you thrown them out entirely.

    When I was younger, I didn't think I would be into feminine guys; but then I met one that changed everything. I used to think back hair wasn't sexy, but then I met someone that I loved so much, I had hairballs whenever we had sex - and loved it. The list goes on, and I continue to be surprised as I get older. Thank god for that!
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    Jan 24, 2013 2:38 AM GMT
    Cool thread idea!
    1. Maybe around 6.5? I play rugby and am not very trendy, so I don't think an effeminate guy would even want to be with me. That being said, I don't want someone who is overcompensating for something.

    2. Around 4...I need someone who can keep up on runs/workouts/bedroom adventures.

    3. 8...some trimming is nice, but flaunt that chest and leg hair!

    4. 1--I dress and look like shit almost everyday right now, so who am I to judge? lol

    5. 1--I need a goofball...I work in cancer research and routinely volunteer in pediatric oncology so it'd be nice to come home to someone silly after a depressing day.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 24, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    Everyone is a 10+ when I'm drunk!
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    Jan 24, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    He has to have been MOTD at least once or I won't even acknowledge him. That's my only test for future dates and mates.
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    Jan 24, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    1) 6+. I don't care if he's masculine, but I doubt I'd be able to understand someone who is extremely effeminate.

    2) 5. I'm not really sure how to answer. I'd like someone who is average to athletic/muscular, but if they had a combination of muscle and fat, I wouldn't mind.

    3) 5. I like some hair, but if all I'm getting is hair in my mouth during intimacy, it would start to bug me.

    4) 3. I don't really care about what a guy is wearing, but if he's wearing womens clothes or something extremely revealing or inappropriate then i would care.

    5) 4. I like a guy who doesn't take life too seriously, but knows when to be serious.
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    Jan 24, 2013 8:30 AM GMT
    1. Fairy princess (1) and testosteroni (10): 7
    I like men. Manly men, who have slightly more testosterone than my sister. And of course he should have had enough therapy to let me see him cry when his grandma dies. Neither of us have any desire to see Jennifer Aniston or Matthew McConaughey in a movie.

    2. No "tolerance" for body fat (1) and complete apathy (10): 4
    I like the quotation marks; it makes the tolerance seem ironic. I like trim men, who are muscular. If he has a little cake with his shake, I don't mind all that much.

    3. Bare body (1) and apathy (10): 5
    This fun, false dichotomy can only be a 5. I like a trimmed man, but baby-breath naked is a little too pedophilic for my tastes. And the silver-back gorilla look just smacks me as lazy about appearance. Like, set your lawnmower on mulch, at the very least.

    4. A guy's fashion sense, with apathy (1) and dire importance (10): 3
    It only matters to me that the man can flatter himself with his clothing, from a shape and color standpoint. Not from a label standpoint. If he has cut-off shorts and his tree-trunk legs extrude from the bottom and cause tiny tears along the seam I will accidentally orgasm. If his legs are sticks--sure, skinny jeans are all right.

    5. Ridiculously goofy/carefree (1) and fucking army sergeant (10): 5
    I have to be serious, most of the time. Which allows me the leeway to lash out with--what my frightened victims have convinced themselves is--humor. I need my husband to be similarly balanced. Able to get up and do a job, make money, earn respect of clients and friends, and still tongue-torture my belly button.

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    Jan 24, 2013 8:36 AM GMT
    cookies
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    Jan 24, 2013 8:54 AM GMT
    Narciso saidcookies


    up and bored too?
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    Jan 24, 2013 8:55 AM GMT
    Jewlicious said
    Narciso saidcookies


    up and bored too?


    I just had a "get me sleepy" jackoff, so off to bed I go!
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    Jan 24, 2013 8:58 AM GMT
    1. How masculine or effeminate you like your guys on scale of 1 to 10?
    5- I hate overly macho men because they are generally just douches who swing their dicks around like evolution did not happen. A balanaced guy is what I'm after.

    2. How much of a "tolerance" for body fat do you have on a scale of 1 to 10?
    10- As long as he knows how to get my cock rocking I don't give a fuck about his bf %.

    3. How much of a "tolerance" for body hair do you have, on a scale of 1 to 10?
    5- Don't like bald eagles but I don't want a bunch of pubes in my mouth everytime I wanna give my man a blow job either. Also friction burns can be a bitch if their hair is coarse.

    4. How much do you care about a guy's clothing/fashion sense on a scale of 1 to 10?
    3- Don't really care at all as long as I can actually be seen with them in public without them looking homeless. Besides, there is only room for one superficial a hole in a relationship right ? icon_lol.gif

    5. How serious do you like a guy's demeanor to be on a scale of 1 to 10?
    2- I prefer the carefree types who are just chilled out to the max and aren't stress heads. If I wanted a drill sargent for a bf I would have joined the army.