Gay Guilt

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    Jan 27, 2013 3:30 AM GMT
    So I hope this doesn't sound f'ed up, but I'm curious if anyone feels guilt or shame for being gay. If you have, did you overcome it and how?

    I grew up in East Texas amongst a lot of evangelical people and I was always taught that being gay is unnatural and perverse. I have since left, and for the most part I feel ok with myself. But sometimes I feel bad about being gay. I don't know how to just get rid of it forever.

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    Jan 27, 2013 3:41 AM GMT
    Why do you feel bad about it?
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    Jan 27, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    xrichx saidWhy do you feel bad about it?


    I grew up around hardcore conservative people who literally would tell me being gay is disgusting, I've had friends disown me because of it, discrimination---doesn't really make me feel like a welcome part of society.
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    Jan 27, 2013 3:53 AM GMT
    I've never felt guilt or shame for being gay. Confused at one point during my younger years but that has come and gone.
  • Jerebear

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    Jan 27, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    You get rid of it forever by confronting it in your mind every time it happens. You choose to define yourself instead of letting the voice of the past do it. Evenutally you become too strong to be hurt by memories.
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    Jan 27, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    Eventually you realize and accept that you cannot change being gay, and that you, too, are allowed to live and love someone. God has His reasons for things, and we will all have to account for various sins. Somehow I don't think homosexuality is His biggest concern. And being gay doesn't mean you can't try to be a good person, and treat others kindly. This is what lifted my guilt. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 27, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    You have to find the source of your gay guilt. Is it because religion, gay culture, negative experiences with gay people, or ...etc. Try to think and rationalize it. It takes time. Sooner or later you have to accept it because you have no choice. Love your self as a person not because you are gay.

    You will lose friends...depends on the type and their mindset. Isn't it better to lose the one that are not really meant for you?

    You will see things in society and every day life that will make you question about your sexuality and what your life could be like. I would say try to find some nice gay people to be friend with if you can. I know from experience that when you have bad experience with gay people or you will think differently about them.

    Know that you are not the only one feeling that way.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 27, 2013 5:35 AM GMT
    Sounds like the same guilt relitions do to get kids to swear to stay virgins until they get married. Part of religion is convincing you to feel guilty, so that you will stay loyal to the congregation and continue to contribute 10% of your annual income. If they couldn't keep their congregation they couldn't make money.
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    Jan 27, 2013 7:12 AM GMT
    Since my full awareness of it, my sexuality has been one of the few things I'm absolutely certain about kn my life.