City people have an easier life

  • metalxracr

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    Sep 28, 2008 12:10 PM GMT
    Apparently city slickers have it easy!

    In the past few months people from back in my hometown have gotten in contact with me just to see how I was doing.
    I thought that was really cool and I was excited, but now it's just the same thing over and over, and it's making me really mad!

    I was talking with an old friend and he asked if me and Lauren still talked. I said, yes, she lives in Houston, she's has an amazing resume now
    and she just landed an awesome photo shoot, in fact she's coming to live with me soon here in LA, and I'm taking her on as one of my clients (I'm a talent manager).

    And he said, don't you love how city people have it so easy? They just get things handed to them with no effort!
    That really made me mad, this girl has been perfecting her craft ever since she was four and I live in a city too! I don't get anything handed to me!

    Another person emailed me and asked me where I was and what I had been up to. I informed him and he said, "City life is easy, those people can never leave that place and do a real days worth of hard work."

    Coming to Los Angeles was so hard, I remember times when I would sit in my apartment and cry wondering if I was going to get a good job before I finished school! And going from Internship to internship to build up a resume! It was so fucking hard! All, while trying to maintain a job, and going to school at the same time.

    I have also been told: Those people in Los Angeles all just want to be successful in any way possible, there's just a bunch of losers there, they won't have a good life!

    Yeah no one here is successful there are just Mercedes and BMW's everywhere. And I see losers everyday when I'm driving to work, driving down sunset through Bel Air.. or the ones I see driving Lamborghini's and Ferrari's.
    But besides those people, there are so many people that I meet everyday that are extremely successful it's pretty intimidating, but their success stories are pretty crazy. These people worked ridiculous amounts to where they're at now.

    Just because some people don't do manual labor work doesn't mean that they don't get tired, stressed, and worn out! I know some people have really hard tough jobs, but I don't like when people tell me I have it easy and I don't know what hard work is! I would like to see them sit in front of a large format console in a recording studio for 12 hours trying to perfect the sound, or work with my clients and manage them and try to make tons of negotiations.

    Why are these people saying that because we live in a city we have it easier? I don't understand it at all!

    I left my hometown the day after graduation, already classified as a college sophomore and i've only been back a few brief times. I'm the only one that lives out of state, and lived where I've always wanted to as a kid. But I am the loser!

    Oh yeah most of these people failed out of college, and live with their parents. The others.. are still in college which is good, but still live with their parents because they don't want to leave their comfort zone! no joke!

    Sorry I just needed to vent I just got the final message that pushed me to the limit.

    If you're wondering where I"m from.. It's little West Texas town. You know that movie that was loosely based on the book, "Friday Night Lights" yeah that place. The place where peoples lives end with their high school Football careers!
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    Sep 28, 2008 12:34 PM GMT
    Being from a small town of 3000 people (including chickens, cows & dogs) in Southwest Arkansas, I can honestly say that it's 100% jealousy.

    Small-town-minded people have absolutely no idea what the "big city" is like, except for the few vacations they take. That's not enough to see it all.

    I've pretty much disowned my own childhood town, simply because of the mindset of people there. I'm a professional pilot & photographer, and worked my ass off at a factory to achieve that goal. Even while working at the factory & going to school, I was constantly badgered by people telling me I'm chasing a dream...damn right I chased it, and caught it! Now I work equally as hard in Miami, but I'm doing something I love. icon_biggrin.gif

    Yeah the "big city" has more opportunities, but you still have to work to get it. And if you're good at marketing yourself, it'll seem like things are handed to you; but in reality, they're not. Explaining that to small-town people is like explaining Rocket Science to an Aborigine.
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    Sep 28, 2008 5:16 PM GMT
    add to the fact that you're in LA AND in the "Entertainment Industry"! Look, don't sweat it, you had the balls to up & leave and realize something bigger and better and you're doing, so major kudos to you! As for the home town folks, man let them wallow in their own "crap"!
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    Sep 28, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    If they truly thought that city people had it that much easier than those who live in the outskirts, they would have moved to the city long ago. Green is not a good color people. icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 28, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    yeah, there is not much i can add to what has already been said but . . .

    im 18 and i have been born and raised in Los Angeles, one thing i have constantly realized is that NOTHING is handed to you, there is always competition for ANYTHING, not matter how big or how small

    i have only lived in L.A. so i cant comment on any other city or town but i know that to be successful people MUST work hard
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    Sep 28, 2008 5:43 PM GMT
    From Forbes (America's Most Stressful Cities):No. 1 Chicago, Ill.
    With 7.3% unemployment and a gallon of gas going for just under four bucks, the Windy City has some economic headwinds that result in a perfect storm for stress. Chi-town’s pollution problems (it ranked No. 7 in terms poor air quality) and lack of breathing room (it's No. 2 in terms of population density) couple to create a Midwestern Molotov cocktail of stress.
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    Sep 28, 2008 6:12 PM GMT
    metalxracr saidApparently city slickers have it easy!

    The ease or difficulty of a place is determined by what it is you are seeking there. If you're seeking a hypothetical Broadway career in East Podunk, that's basically impossible.

    If you're seeking that career in NYC you're at least in the right place, but now you've gotta be better than some very strong competition. You might have better luck getting started and building a resume in some other major US city before you try the Big Apple.

    There's no lack of examples for other careers in other places. One might even be absurd and postulate the difficulty of being a wheat farmer in Manhattan, but the point is that every occupation, every career, has its best place and its worst.

    You come from West Texas, an area I know from my 4 years living in that state. I also spent a number of years in North Dakota, though raised just outside NYC, so I know the difference between desolate and divine. LOL!!!! Seriously, you can work hard wherever you are.

    Just last night I got home after midnight, from a musical production following grueling rehearsals. And I slept-in until 9:30 this morning, rare for me, because I was totally exhausted. Physically I did little on stage, but I worked hard in other ways.

    Yet I'm also acquainted with "real" work, too. Things I did during 25 years in military uniform that would kill a plow horse. Work can be work, no matter how you label it, where it takes place, and what it involves.

    And finding success in a big city can be just as hard, or harder, as knowing what crops to plant and when, or how to manage a herd of cattle, whether in the middle of North Dakota, Texas or anyplace else. And trust me, hun, I lived on a farm.

    Don't let others rag you. Maybe it's simple jealousy, as someone else here also said. The only person you need to satisfy is yourself. What country folk often don't understand is big-city competition. All you need to ask yourself is did you give your best effort, try to overcome all obstacles & difficulties, basically give it your best shot.

    You and I know the true story behind "big cities." If some of your friends don't, then maybe someday you can teach them. Until then, work hard and prosper.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 28, 2008 6:57 PM GMT
    I don't think that's necessarily true

    People always feel people other than themselves might have better lives
    when you work all day
    and have to come home and do the same old routine day in day out

    you will project better lives onto others

    when in reality there are just as many sorry asses if not more so in cities as there are in small towns

  • metalxracr

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    Sep 29, 2008 6:36 AM GMT
    Thanks guys. I was just really upset at all this stupid stuff. But you guys are right! Thanks a lot icon_biggrin.gif
  • roadbikeRob

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    Sep 29, 2008 10:54 PM GMT
    It all depends on what city you are living in and its economy. In economically sluggish cities like Buffalo, Cleveland, and Youngstown living is pretty easy if you have a decent job because the cost of living in these cities is very reasonable. However if you choose to live in popular, economically prosperous, rapidly growing cities like Charlotte, Atlanta, Denver or Las Vegas than the cost of living is going to be astronomical and life is going to be considerably more stressful. As for the nation's three biggest cities- New York, Chicago, and Los Angeles forget about them because they are outrageous in living costs and you literally have to have two jobs if your primary job does not pay enough. I say fuck that there is more to life than work, work, and work. That is what causes very high stress levels and health problems in some of these big, major cities. Living in a big city is not all excitement and fun, there are disadvantages to living in big cities and their surrounding suburbs just like there are drawbacks to rural and small town living. It has little to do with jealousy.
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    Sep 29, 2008 11:42 PM GMT
    O... M... G... I would bitch slap those people. I grew up working on a farm in Kentucky, bailing hay, cutting tobacco, and doing all sorts of labor. Since I've graduated high school I've moved WAY out of state, without any family. I put myself through school full-time by waiting tables in New York, and I can put this one to rest immediately..


    Yeah.. they're both rough.. >__>