A date

  • sam022

    Posts: 2

    Jan 30, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    Hello Everyone,
    sorry if some else have askedthis question before but i really need your comments. They will mean alot to me.

    My Question is
    Whats is the best way for a person whose new to being gay to have gay friends
    and have a date without advertising it?

    Iam 22yo university dude.I find it really hard to come out as a person whose interested in guys. i can't really put lots of pics around. even the once i have tend to be small enough. sorry for my inconfidence but its really hard when i don't have supporters.you might think or tell me whose who don't accept you are not worth being with but look at it from this angle, will there be alternative?

    Thanks
    looking to hear from you
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    Jan 30, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    Sorry dude but at this day and age, it's difficult to find gay friends and a date if you remain in the closet. Sorry I can't be of much help but you're more than welcome to ask your question again once you are comfortable with yourself.
  • MikeW

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    Jan 30, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    Date, as in going out to a movie and dinner with a love interest?

    It's a sad fact that growing up in a "hetero-normative" culture doesn't prepare us to date. It is "assumed" boys and girls will date. It is *not* assumed boys and boys and girls and girls will date. If it were assumed, things would be SO much easier for us all.

    Well, at least it wouldn't be thought odd.

    If you're not "out" (and it sound like you're not), "dating" is much more difficult. On the other hand, finding sex, maybe not *so* difficult. But you said "date."

    You'll have to find either a gay organization on campus or go out to a bar or just randomly pick someone you like and *ask* them out.
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Jan 30, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    I spent so much time worrying about how people were going to react to me when I came out. In the end no one gave a fuck.

    As others have said, you're probably going to find it difficult to make friends/get dates if you choose to remain closeted. Openly gay people probably won't enjoy sneaking around.
  • sam022

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    Jan 30, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    Thanks to your reply guys,still welcome more comments on this but what you said is very true
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    Jan 30, 2013 7:51 AM GMT
    PolaroidSwinger saidI spent so much time worrying about how people were going to react to me when I came out. In the end no one gave a fuck.


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