First Relationship

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    Jan 30, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    Hey guys, just want to know: when was your first legitamite relatioship with another dude and how did it work out? I just came out so I haven't met anyone yet so I'm just curious as to when some of you guys have and what happened.
  • MikeW

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    Jan 30, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    I didn't get into my first gay LTR until I was 40. My partner was 3 years older and had been in a previous LTR with a man. (A rather famous one, actually, but that is another story). My partner died of a brain tumor (not HIV related) 7 years later.
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    Jan 30, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    MikeW saidI didn't get into my first gay LTR until I was 40. My partner was 3 years older and had been in a previous LTR with a man. (A rather famous one, actually, but that is another story). My partner died of a brain tumor (not HIV related) 7 years later.


    Man that's rough. RIP.
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    Jan 30, 2013 3:43 AM GMT
    My very first boyfriend was when I came out at 22. I met him through an acquaintance and we hit it off instantly. At that time, I was in the college program at Disney World and because Disney is a gay-friendly environment, coming out was easy and so was finding a date. It was the best time of my life and one I'll never forget.
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    Jan 30, 2013 3:53 AM GMT
    I waited a long time for my first boyfriend and at 26 thought I really hit the jackpot. Pursuing me, he was a gorgeous, dirty blonde, green-eyed former runway and print model, soap actor and Johns Hopkins graduate, about two years older, a real "prince." I lived in the low west 70's of Manhattan, he downtown. After a few months together I had the notion to invite him to a Sunday afternoon picnic lunch in Riverside Park in what I envisioned as the perfect romantic date that I've always seen in the movies and never experienced. I packed a basket and a blanket, he brought the wine, and we laid out, watched the boats sail by, held hands and talked, enjoyed the sunset over the Hudson and ended it on an uncharacteristically chaste note to preserve the mood. I offered to walk him the couple of blocks south to the 72nd Street subway but he declined, choosing to walk crosstown instead. I sensed something was up. A couple of hours later I got two frantic calls at home within minutes of each other. The first was my boyfriend, upset that he was punched by a drunk friend of mine after ignoring him at the gay bar he'd happened to stop in at on his way home. The second was that friend upset that he was punched for calling my boyfriend out on sticking his tongue in another guy's ear at the bar after our date. Ultimately not the stuff of romance, but comedy? Now I look back on the gay drama of my twenties and laugh!
  • istw

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    Jan 30, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    My first boyfriend (actually is my coworker) came to my life when I got my first job after college. The company had a real estate project located in suburb. Due to that project was not starting just only with a huge fenced ground, so settled a shabby office using the farmer's barn besides that. Me, who was that staff what counting the Relocation compensation, and two guys be in charge of the security. We got on well, but that was a tough condition without heating in winter, so I slept with a security guy to keep warm (I am not whore, that was really cold, both of usicon_redface.gif). One night, we lie down sideways and chat something. when we talking of sexual topics, my lift hand no intention of encountered his tender, wow, that was not "tender", that was tough!...(omit 1 million wordsicon_cool.gif) That's all of the beginning.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 30, 2013 5:40 AM GMT
    I was 19, it lasted for 7 years. My advice to you is to enjoy being single while you can!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 30, 2013 5:45 AM GMT
    16 ... my first actual bf we went out for I think maybe 2 or 3 months, then he cheated on me and I found out when he told me I should go with him to get checked for stds ... oh isn't love romantic. He told me he wanted to marry me but that we should also have an open relationship and have sex with whom ever we wanted ... by that time school was over and he graduated ... he was, what I thought was the hottest guy in high school. He wanted me to move away with him that summer, but I told him I had to finish school. He came back a couple times and visited me. I have no doubt in my mind that he was in love with me, but eventually we both went our separate ways and drifted apart.
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    Jan 30, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    (taking notes)
  • Fable

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    Jan 30, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    I was... 21. It lasted two years. Had just got back from an exchange year in San Diego... and wasn't really looking for anything. Went out to catch up with friends and kinda bumped into him. Didnt think anything of it at the time... and we kinda kept in contact for my first semester of final year ( i was studying 6 hours away) and kept dating in that period. Became official christmas 2010 I think. We had a few ups and downs.

    I guess why we parted (aka I got my ass dumped) is cos I couldn't give him stability - he's 8 years older, got a great career and house... I've got a a part time job and live at home while I look to start my career. Meh. I miss him. But life goes on...
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    Jan 30, 2013 5:56 AM GMT
    I'm still waiting... ack. Better get on that!
  • LexLuthor

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    Jan 30, 2013 6:23 AM GMT
    I'm not fully out but I am to a lot of people, so that made it tough when I was in my first relationship. Though I still saw him everyday, so that part was fine, he wanted sex a lot more than I did, I love sex and all, but he wanted to do it in inappropiate places, also we had no real place to have sex. He always thought I was cheating, becuase his past relationships uhh they cheated on him, so he accused me all the time. Though I never did, then my brother ended up committing suicide, so I had to not see my bf for a few days because I HAD to be with my family and be there for them, mainly my mom, I wasn't going to leave her alone. He ended up cheating on me during that time, and when he told me I broke up with him. He used the excuse "You weren't there for me." when he wasn't going through anything, but yeah cheated on me while I was busy with my brother's death and helping my mom through everything. That's my first one! Sucked mega bad. I was really into him at the time too, didn't want to leave him, that I was with him every day, if I wasn't there he'd text me.
    But that was mine~
    Now he messages me like once a month asking to get back togther, I deny him every time.
  • crisisgray

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    Jan 30, 2013 6:35 AM GMT
    TheAlchemixt saidI was 19, it lasted for 7 years. My advice to you is to enjoy being single while you can!


    Yes. a premise that I won't be single forever...was meant for the OPicon_redface.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jan 30, 2013 7:02 AM GMT
    Bizarro saidI'm not fully out but I am to a lot of people, so that made it tough when I was in my first relationship. Though I still saw him everyday, so that part was fine, he wanted sex a lot more than I did, I love sex and all, but he wanted to do it in inappropiate places, also we had no real place to have sex. He always thought I was cheating, becuase his past relationships uhh they cheated on him, so he accused me all the time. Though I never did, then my brother ended up committing suicide, so I had to not see my bf for a few days because I HAD to be with my family and be there for them, mainly my mom, I wasn't going to leave her alone. He ended up cheating on me during that time, and when he told me I broke up with him. He used the excuse "You weren't there for me." when he wasn't going through anything, but yeah cheated on me while I was busy with my brother's death and helping my mom through everything. That's my first one! Sucked mega bad. I was really into him at the time too, didn't want to leave him, that I was with him every day, if I wasn't there he'd text me.
    But that was mine~
    Now he messages me like once a month asking to get back togther, I deny him every time.


    Wow what an egotistical douche.
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    Jan 30, 2013 7:09 AM GMT
    I am currently in my first one now.

    I'm 21, a senior in college, he is 27 and is about to finish his degree in business and go to Aveda(sp?) for cosmetology.

    I'm wondering, how can someone enter a relationship and sit around for 5+ years and it not work out? I mean I know things go south, but do people cling for far too long, or do they not see the signs or is it just wake up one day and you have both fallen out of love.

    I'm scared to dedicate my life to this guy now, but when we are together I can't help but feel we are meant to be together and I am in love with him. I dream about us spending the rest of our lives together, monogamously.

    I know quite a few hetero couples that were high school sweet hearts and are still married with kids my age (my friends parents!). I understand no one knows who they are really until closer to 30 but it still scares me!