Where have all the cowboys gone?

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    Jan 30, 2013 7:22 PM GMT
    Is there a place a gay or bi guy can live where he'd have an easier time finding a boyfriend/lover/partner?
  • RaggedyMan

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    Jan 30, 2013 7:24 PM GMT
    seattle
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    Jan 30, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    I was thinking Toronto.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 30, 2013 7:46 PM GMT
    I'm not sure location makes much of a difference, assuming there are other gay people around.

    If you're making the moves on someone, you just have to be able to suck up rejection when it happens and keep putting yourself out there. Don't act desperate, or ask them why they don't like you. You'll hate their answer, no matter what it is. Just keep it real, and someone will respond.

    If you're looking to attract someone to you, you have to figure out what type of guys are into you and make yourself desirable to them and approachable. You'll attract more bees with honey than vinegar, so smile.icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 30, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI'm not sure location makes much of a difference, assuming there are other gay people around.

    If you're making the moves on someone, you just have to be able to suck up rejection when it happens and keep putting yourself out there. Don't act desperate, or ask them why they don't like you. You'll hate their answer, no matter what it is. Just keep it real, and someone will respond.

    If you're looking to attract someone to you, you have to figure out what type of guys are into you and make yourself desirable to them and approachable. You'll attract more bees with honey than vinegar, so smile.icon_smile.gif

    Had tunnel vision for a guy, usually works that way with me. I tend to pull out all the stops when it comes showing a guy how much I like them. The only drawback is that I'll make just as much effort to stop showing any attention to them once I've been rejected and/or hurt. A guy can either be everything to me, a friend, or nothing. My problem is the expectations I work myself up to. Hard for me to believe a guy can be capable of so much as a person, but fail to share any of that with me; if he's interested that much.
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    Jan 30, 2013 9:00 PM GMT


    It doesn't matter where you go if you're going to play red light-green light with your potential relationships.
    The relationship is navigating the times when you're not both moving in the same direction or at the same speed. That's where communication and compromise come in to play.
    Moving in the same direction at the same speed just means you're passengers on a train, not in a relationship.
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    Jan 30, 2013 9:57 PM GMT
    Macaque said

    It doesn't matter where you go if you're going to play red light-green light with your potential relationships.
    The relationship is navigating the times when you're not both moving in the same direction or at the same speed. That's where communication and compromise come in to play.
    Moving in the same direction at the same speed just means you're passengers on a train, not in a relationship.

    Exactly the type of reply I was hoping for! I'm clueless with guys for the most part; though it doesn't stop me from trying.
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    Jan 30, 2013 10:52 PM GMT
    Long time passing.

    ♪da-dih-dih, da-dih-dih♪

    I don't know how anyone finds a boyfriend unless he's super unpicky. We don't have numbers on our side.

    Multiply the percentage of people you like x percentage of people who tend to like you x percentage of gay guys in the population x number of people you will meet in your life. This should give you the number of possible men you could date. Subtract all the dealbreakers of each and hope there are some still standing!icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 30, 2013 11:38 PM GMT
    "Where is my John Wayne, where is my Prarie Son..."

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    Jan 31, 2013 3:53 AM GMT
    Montreal, even if you're not bilingual. It's a gay centre in Canada (like Toronto).
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    Jan 31, 2013 3:57 AM GMT
    To Dallas.

    Duh!
  • Webster666

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    Jan 31, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    JR_Lore said
    HottJoe saidI'm not sure location makes much of a difference, assuming there are other gay people around.

    If you're making the moves on someone, you just have to be able to suck up rejection when it happens and keep putting yourself out there. Don't act desperate, or ask them why they don't like you. You'll hate their answer, no matter what it is. Just keep it real, and someone will respond.

    If you're looking to attract someone to you, you have to figure out what type of guys are into you and make yourself desirable to them and approachable. You'll attract more bees with honey than vinegar, so smile.icon_smile.gif

    Had tunnel vision for a guy, usually works that way with me. I tend to pull out all the stops when it comes showing a guy how much I like them. The only drawback is that I'll make just as much effort to stop showing any attention to them once I've been rejected and/or hurt. A guy can either be everything to me, a friend, or nothing. My problem is the expectations I work myself up to. Hard for me to believe a guy can be capable of so much as a person, but fail to share any of that with me; if he's interested that much.



    Ha.
    HottJoe gave you great advice.
    And, your response sounded exactly like me.
  • calibro

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    Jan 31, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    have you tried the gay rodeo?
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    Jan 31, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    calibro saidhave you tried the gay rodeo?


    I'd ride you icon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_razz.gif
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    Jan 31, 2013 10:35 AM GMT
    blasiankid said
    calibro saidhave you tried the gay rodeo?


    I'd ride you icon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_razz.gif

    I'll hogtie the two of you!
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    Jan 31, 2013 10:53 AM GMT
    They are out there... I don't think its any easier in one place over the other. It just depends on how you approach it.

    I so needed to hear this song... It's Rodeo season here in San Antonio and the other day I know I saw a few clearly gay cowboys and the conversation quickly turned when I mentioned I was part of the local gay football league. I made some new friends and recruited a few new members haha!