Need advice on a new friend!

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    Jan 31, 2013 7:18 AM GMT
    Alright, sooo theres this guy in one of my classes. We met last semester in a class we previously had together and we got close enough to exchange numbers and made plans to hang out. Hes definetely straight, well hes always talking about chicks and titties and what not lol which i dont mind. Hes really cool, we get along great, and i planned on adding him to my close friend list. Hes one of those loud outspoken, dont care what anyone else thinks. Anyways we were suppose to hang out after class tonight and get some drinks and just chill.

    So, during break he asked if i would join him outside while he smokes and i declined just rather sit inside. after he comes back in, the questions started coming. First he asked me if i had ever made out with a chick that smokes. I thought about it and said no not when i was sober at least. He replied saying that was good. ok. Then later on he asked me if I had ever made out with a guy! Totally caught me off guard. I asked him what? he rpeated. I said with a guy, no. And THEN, he looked at me and asked me, Do you want to try it? i didnt know what to say at the same, so i was just kinda like wtf you ask the most random questions sometimes.

    I ended up bailing on him after class claiming i was tired and just going to go home and pass out. Later that night i get a text from him saying that he was so drunk.

    So, im cconfused and over analyzing. Any thoughts? Thanks
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    Jan 31, 2013 12:08 PM GMT
    He could be just toying with you to see if your really straight or gay. Or he could be bi-curious. I would just keep him under observation, and see if being random is who he is or if he's trying to get at something
  • dabcrt

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    Jan 31, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    Just fuck him allready.................icon_eek.gif
  • MidwesternKid

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    Jan 31, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    He seems curious. I would be prepared for him to ask questions as he gets more comfortable around you. Be prepared for him as well to make advances sexually. It seems he is interested in doing so. Yet you seem content on only being friends with him so if it comes to it, be sure to lay it on the table that you only want to be friends.
  • Fable

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    Jan 31, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    his body is ready.


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    Jan 31, 2013 8:53 PM GMT
    dabcrt saidJust fuck him allready.................icon_eek.gif


    Yeah...what is there to "over analyze".

    He asked and you screwed the pooch.
    hopefully you'll be ready the next time it happens, because it happens every day to every straight acting guy and their straight acting bro's.
    #Bready4whatUwish4
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    Jan 31, 2013 8:56 PM GMT
    He is definitely curious. He is into you and wants to experiment, I think. When he asked you to come out and smoke, he probably got nervous about you rejecting him because of the smoking when you turned him down. That is why he asked if you ever made out with someone who smokes. He was trying to see if that was something that turned you off. Sounds like he cracked the door wide open with his next couple of questions. If you are into him, I would say test the waters. Guide him through his experimental phase, this experiment may just lead to an answer for him, a gay one.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 31, 2013 9:04 PM GMT
    If you like him, you better jump on it while you can ...these moments don't ever come around again
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    Jan 31, 2013 9:10 PM GMT
    JrEvan91 saidLater that night i get a text from him saying that he was so drunk.


    How would you feel if he said that the day after you kissed him? If it would make you sad you might want to think about not kissing him or encouraging him. A safer alternative might be to go for a drink at a gay bar with him. If you must, you could say "for a laugh".
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 31, 2013 9:11 PM GMT
    If you think you'd like to date him as opposed to being just friends, when an appropriate moment comes up, YOU bring up the subject. Tell him he caught you off guard with the question about kissing a guy and that you lied. Then just ask him, "Why'd you ask?" And see what happens. If he's interested, he'll move the conversation forward. Or he may say he was wondering if you were gay. You can tell him you are and then wait and see what he says. Either way you've advanced your relationship in a good way. He may be deeply closeted and trying to come out to you as gay or curious, or he may just be gay friendly. You should find out. He sounds like exactly what your profile says you're looking for. Don't blow it! Or, uh, maybe, do. Here's your big chance!
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    Jan 31, 2013 9:23 PM GMT
    well he is a good looking guy ya know, blue eyes nice lips light brown hair; so ya hes attractive lol But once he told me about having a girlfriend, i placed him into the straight category. I do this because i dont like my sexual attractions to get in the way, it would just make things weird sometimes, get my hopes up ect. It kind of made me mad though when he asked me because the first thing that came to mind was him just beating around the bush of essentiallty asking me if i was gay. If this was the case he could of just asked ya know, if i was into girls or soemthing of that nature. But then i started thinking about it and ya lol

    So, i asked him what he was doing this weekend (after i canceled the plans) and we should kick it and go to this kick pack at a friends that i know.

    Any recomendations on what to say/do this saturday night whhen we meet?
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 31, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    Yes-- Get away from the crowd and create some private time to talk. The tell him you lied and say "Sorry. I was being defensive." Then ask him "Why'd you ask?" And take it from there. Lots of guys cover their fear of coming out with big talk about girls. He's probably in the same boat as you. If he turns out to be straight, just tell him "I hope you'll appreciate my privacy and not talk about this to others. I hope it doesn't affect our friendship." He'll be cool about it.
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    Jan 31, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    JrEvan91 said
    Any recomendations on what to say/do this saturday night whhen we meet?

    You should just enjoy him as a friend and let him initiate the conversation or questions again. If he doesn't, then maybe your answers satisfied him and you can just be friend. If he asks again, play it by ear and come out to him and start reverse psychology, ask him if he likes being with girls then if he's ever considered a guy. Follow that with a question about what kind of a guy he would think to be hot. Just go with the flow but most importantly, have fun and be careful.
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    Jan 31, 2013 9:43 PM GMT
    Alright i think ill try to Get him really drunk and messed up and see what happens lol maybe i should skip the party and juat go shoot some pool like one on one?
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    Jan 31, 2013 9:45 PM GMT
    eb925guy said
    JrEvan91 said
    Any recomendations on what to say/do this saturday night whhen we meet?

    You should just enjoy him as a friend and let him initiate the conversation or questions again. If he doesn't, then maybe your answers satisfied him and you can just be friend. If he asks again, play it by ear and come out to him and start reverse psychology, ask him if he likes being with girls then if he's ever considered a guy. Follow that with a question about what kind of a guy he would think to be hot. Just go with the flow but most importantly, have fun and be careful.


    I like that. So basically just go with the flow until something comes up. I think I'll be able to handle it too if ive been drinking. Def helps with things like this!
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    Jan 31, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    Yes plan an evening where you two can just hang, not a date, but like some beer and pool,.". I let several of these events pass in my life and i regret it.
    Dont be pushy, . Bi is the new gay,

    My recent boy crush is a guy who is straight... But curious, and still plans on raising a family later in life.