Is there a way to relieve my bottom when im F*cking him ?

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    Jan 31, 2013 10:45 AM GMT
    My Bf is a bottom nothin' very steep, but when im horny i just bite him , chew him lips , bring bruise on him neck , press him ,hold in face against the bed , put every part of my D*ck in him

    & thats the problem , all throughout the pleasure time , he keeps on avoiding my vampire behavior & i dont really dont want him to suffer coz of my addiction to the "rape" fetish i always have on performing on my lover-boy

    I dont wanna hurt him , is there any way i can comfort him when im on top . especially for the bottoms what do u prefer when someone is on top of you ?

    what exactly do you do to relieve the pain or what do you want your bf to do to make you get rid of the pain ?

    he's now in America & when he's here after a month my vampire would just pounce on him as excited i am to see him , so i better be prepared not to harm him .

    what lube should i buy , or what music should i play , what should i actually do to make him surrender & get of with the tense pleasure sometimes that happens when i am very very charged (sexually)
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    Jan 31, 2013 12:01 PM GMT
    I can understand the whole vampire fetish, I used to dream about it as well icon_lol.gif

    But I think it may be important to make him comfortable before playing those fantasies. I would suggest just good ol' passionate loving with a lot of hugging and soft kisses.
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    Jan 31, 2013 12:01 PM GMT
    It sounds to me that you're into being really rough and S&M style sex and he's not really that into it. Can you not enjoy sex unless you're biting and bruising him?

    If you're hurting him and he doesn't like it then I think you should either see if you can tone down your behaviour or reasses whether you're actually that sexually compatible with him. Some bottoms like to be totally used and abused and beaten, and some just want a good fuck!
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    Jan 31, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    You have a lot of learning to do. You need to remember that BDSM, sub/dom, and similar practices are supposed to be consensual--i.e., the parties involved enter into a pseudo-negotiation before they engage in any of those acts. You just don't start caning, gagging, asphyxiating, raping, blindfolding, binding, restraining, Japanese roping, etc., your sex partner without having engaged in some preliminary discussions with him as to his limits, comfort level, etc. BDSM (which may include rough play, role play, sub/dom, etc.) must be practiced with all ethical considerations. For example, if your sex partner doesn't want marks on his body, then a good BDSM sex partner must make every effort to avoid inflicting marks. Likewise, if your partner's pain threshhold is relatively low, you need to take that into consideration very seriously and figure out a way to satisfy him and you without traumatizing him. Take some BDSM classes immediately if you wish to continue this practice. You're traversing a very dangerous line and you need some practical training.
  • theodor_n

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    Feb 01, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    i do understand this and, as a bottom and a top(depends on the partener), i do say that if i wanna make him suffer, i try things like biting his lips, handcuffs or things like that, however i do my best on stopping before it gets painful for the partener, and then comfort him with icon_razz.gif, :* and icon_smile.gif