did you ever have a really big crush on a close straight friend?

  • terrwoods

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    Jan 31, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    bisexual discreetly, nobody knows, but
    its almost as if he hints on that he is interested, even though i am in a close relationship with a girl...

    we are both acutally in a music project together, and when i listen to his lyrics, its like they are about me, or us, or maybe i'm just imagining things....
  • terrwoods

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    Jan 31, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    anyway, list your experiences with this and it will help me out or something
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    Jan 31, 2013 5:13 PM GMT
    i think most of us have already crushed on a straight boy
    there's just something so reassuring and charming about a laid back guy who's just funny, easy going, drama free, masculine and who likes to look after you...
    BUT, the highest level you can aim for is friendship
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 31, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    Sure, my best friend in high school. I'd get chills anytime he touched me. Thought I was in heaven one time when he sat in my lap trying to get six guys in a sports car to go somewhere. He had a cute, short haircut, very masculine in a boyish way, beautiful lively eyes, high energy, and an easy smile. I'd have done anything for him. Lost touch when I left for college. He's a Republican politician now.
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    Jan 31, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    There are a couple of tall, slim guys I had a crush on for years.

    One is married and has two daughters. The other, much to my amazement, is single to this day, and I have known him since 1982 when he left college with a degree in maths and began work as a computer programmer.
  • imbrad

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    Jan 31, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    I have come to a point where I can be very oppenly affectionate with my straight friends (sometimes moreso than my gay friends). It was not always so easy but now I know that I am honest with my friends. They get my humor, they get my body language. We are able to be closer because we are open about our sexuality and grew friendships that are deeper than that. Of course there are crushes but they know that.

    Eventually you'll find yourself and you can be honest with the person that you find yourself to be as well as with the people you find in your life.
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    Jan 31, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    In the past, but not since I started joining online dating and started swapping messages with attainable guys. A straight guy can't compare with someone you have a chance with.
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    Jan 31, 2013 11:00 PM GMT
    Yeah, but it was all lust.
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Jan 31, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    When I found out they were straight, they stopped being attractive to me, at least in that way.
    I don't have time for self-destructive shit like that.
  • shutoman

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    Jan 31, 2013 11:46 PM GMT
    Duh!

    It would be a sign of great progress if there a re guys on this site who didn't.

    Mine? Ian Meakin. Handsome and ruggedly clean cut, Captain of the University swimmers, Shoulders that covered the horizon, nice edge to him, strong as an Ox with a body you could bounce pennies off.

    He's greyer now, but he hasn't really changed. Although he's much richer and is an International Arbitration lawyer with three grown-uppish kids. He lives in Geneva and the City suits him down to the ground. It was not meant to be on a number of levels :-)
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    Jan 31, 2013 11:58 PM GMT
    JR_Lore saidYeah, but it was all lust.
    That's the whole point. And when that lust is mutual, it's full of win. icon_wink.gif
  • GraffitiMySou...

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    Feb 01, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    I wouldn't get my hopes up, because it never works out. Well, almost.
    Let me tell you a story.

    1st year of college. There was this guy in my German class. We became friends, but I soon realized I had a crush on him. I knew he was straight, but being 18years old you still believe that miracles can happen so I kept on dreaming. Every time he smiled at me or said something nice I felt like 'Oh my God, maybe he's gay?', but I never got the courage to even ask him out because of my insecurities. 6 months in and he had to move to the UK. I felt horrible at that time, but I didn't want to make a fool of myself so I just let things go... Then one day, 2-3 months ago, I was browsing through gaydar.co.uk and guess what happened? I stumbled upon his profile. Thought I was gonna pass out when I saw his pics. I immediately sent him a message and he replied withing seconds. He seemed just as shocked as I was. We talked a lot and he told me he was attracted to me ever since he saw me for the first time. It was just insane, because I felt the same way about him. None of us got the courage to do sth about it and now it was too late. He already had a boyfriend and I was dating someone else. Still, that was a bit of a downer, but most of all, an eye opener. Now when I think some guy might be gay and we get along well, I just ask him. You never know what may happen... Just saying.
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    Feb 01, 2013 12:48 AM GMT
    I only remember one straight crush. I was 16 and he was 21. He was the manager of the McDonald's I worked at. He was half filipino, and to this day, one of the most effortlessly beautiful and charming guys I ever met. For some reason, I just don't get crushes on straight guys.
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    Feb 01, 2013 1:31 AM GMT
    My straight crush was on a fraternity brother and I was out to him. We remained good friends and I actually had the balls to tell him how I felt. He said we would have been compatible if he was gay also or if I had been a girl. I told him I'd rather have him be gay and we laughed about that conversation for years.
  • calibro

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    Feb 01, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    every time someone asks this question a baby seal is killed
  • Montague

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    Feb 01, 2013 2:11 AM GMT
    Every time someone answers this question a baby human is clubbed to death.
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    Feb 01, 2013 2:38 AM GMT
    I've made so many moves on my friend when we were drunk together.. we have a lot of inside jokes about being "borderline boyfriends" ahhh... only if he really knew... lolicon_razz.gif
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    Feb 01, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    yes, and it sucked
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    Feb 01, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    Yes and it's the worst type of crush...
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    Feb 01, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    Yeah, I was 17...
  • DKnight

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    Feb 01, 2013 3:02 PM GMT
    JRaRJ saidYeah, but it was all lust.


    You win!
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    Feb 01, 2013 3:44 PM GMT
    It really got crazy one day,after we worked out, when he insisted he needed to take a shower at my place. He expected me to realize that that was his code for wanting to get naked with me. It was an amazing shower scene with him.
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    Yeah, I fancied my best mate all through college, mmm he is so fine! phwoarrrrr

    I also fancied my flatmate of 2 years at uni, he turned out to be gay (wahey), we got it on, he tried to bum me, i wouldn 't let him, the next day he said i wasn't attractive (what a dick) now we don't talk
  • Aodhan

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    Feb 02, 2013 2:08 PM GMT
    This only happens me ...... All the time hahaha
    For some reason best friends always end up sexy as hell and are too good to me so silly as I am I get a huge crush in them
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    Feb 02, 2013 2:08 PM GMT
    Tale as old as time, song as old as rhyme.