The Cost Of Being Gay

  • cityguy39

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    Sep 30, 2008 1:52 AM GMT
    Did any of you guys check out this article in the latest Advocate? What did you guys think?
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    Sep 30, 2008 6:41 PM GMT
    sn0dawg saidHey guys just here wondering if you guys are interested in joining manhunt.net its $20.00 For 90 day trial. Since gay.com is down.



    Apparently he thinks the cost is twenty-dollars
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    Sep 30, 2008 9:18 PM GMT
    What article? I see no link.
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    Sep 30, 2008 9:30 PM GMT
    I'd like to see a link too please. If possible.
  • cityguy39

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    Sep 30, 2008 10:41 PM GMT
    Sorry gents, I didn't know I was supposed to supply a link :

    http://advocate.com/issue_story_ektid62089.asp
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    Sep 30, 2008 10:50 PM GMT
    Yeah, I read it, and although the information presented was fascinating, I couldn't help but feel absolutely NO connection with the author at all. Bragging that he "only" spent $145 for a pair of stupid jeans? I get most if not all of my clohes at thrift stores. My last pair of jeans cost me less than $5. My shoes cost less than $10. That same thrift store had the proper shirts, pants, shoes and jackets to enable me to build two nice, classy tuxedos (for when I photograph weddings) all for under $20. I even bought a vintage tuxedo made in 1895 off Ebay for about $15, and it actually fits me. I'm proud of being frugal.

    Sorry, but as a man who has lived in poverty for most of my life, I've become very good at stretching a buck. I buy food that's usually on sale or discontinued, with a few exceptions. I buy most of my DVD's when they go on sale at Target at $10 down from $24.95, or in the $5 bin at WalMart

    Yeah, I know there are plenty of people who will sniff disdainfully and brag, "I only buy NEW clothes. I wouldn't wear (or own) something used!" Well bully for them. The burgeous elite has always been a mainstay in the Gay community, but it's one of the areas where I and my Gay brothers are at polar opposites. Even if I get rich someday, I'll still haunt those thrift stores, garage sales, and Target.
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    Sep 30, 2008 10:51 PM GMT
    OP shopping. Great fun.
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    Sep 30, 2008 10:56 PM GMT
    cityguy39 saidSorry gents, I didn't know I was supposed to supply a link :

    http://advocate.com/issue_story_ektid62089.asp
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    Oct 01, 2008 1:16 AM GMT
    That article made me sick and thankfully I am not alone. When I first started going out to gay bars and such I noticed how a lot of the guys were dressed up to the nines. Brand names, stylish clothes and it felt that in order for me to fit in and be liked, I had to be like them..Buy $300 jeans, $100 T-shirts, $500 shoes, regardless of whether I could afford them or not. I've moved around the world a lot and in one of my last moves, I had 15 boxes full of clothes and 4 or so with shoes. I thought that the more I had, the more I would be liked..Yeah right. I only wear about less than half of all the stuff I have and with starting to work out and my body changing and gaining weight, now I have all this stuff that I may have only worn once, if that, that doesn't fit anymore.

    We get sucked into this belief that what we wear is what makes us. Nothing could be further from the truth. I do like wearing nice clothes and dressing well but I realized that you don't have to go over your head in debt in order to accomplish that. Instead of buying the brand new pair of shorts at Abercrombie for $89, I wait until they are on sale and buy them at half price or even less than that. Designer underwear? Why bother anymore, I'm the only one who knows what type of undies I'm wearing...I can't say that I'm not going to splurge occasionally but I'm definitely making better and smarter choices. If someone won't hang out with you, date you or socialize with you just because you don't have an LV bag or Diesel jeans or because you don't go out all dressed up in Prada from head to toes, then they are not worth it.
  • Koaa2

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    Oct 01, 2008 1:44 AM GMT
    I don't think it is just a gay thing, all of society is sucked into this kind of bullshit.
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    Oct 01, 2008 2:33 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidI'm going to Filene's Basement. Anyone wanna come join me? icon_smile.gif



    That sounds dirty...hmmm I like it