Would you date a guy half a foot taller than you?

  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Feb 01, 2013 12:30 PM GMT
    I just started seeing this guy. He's, of course, probably the most stable and wittiest and most attractive guy I've met. I really feel like we're on the same page with things, he's actually smart enough to get my lame ass jokes, and the sex is amazing.

    Yet whenever I'm standing right in front of him...I feel so...inadequate. I feel, I don't know, emasculated or like I'm his little brother or something...I know that sounds shallow and there could be so many worse things than a height issue, but the dude's got like 5 or 6 inches on me. To make out, I have to like look at the stars above me. I'm just accustomed to being with men around 5'8-5'11 range.

    Is this normal or am I just stressing over nothing? Can I get a general consensus here.
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    Feb 01, 2013 2:39 PM GMT
    I personally don't find guys who are very tall attractive. I draw the line at 6'3"-6'4". I guess it's normal too feel awkward, but if you like him and he treats you well then that's all that matters.
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    Feb 01, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    I would absolutely date him. I actually prefer guys who are bigger/taller than myself. Makes me feel comfortable and secure when I'm around them and I LOVE getting hugs from bigger guys icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 01, 2013 2:44 PM GMT
    Not much of a choice for me, every is taller than me ha ha. I usually try and keep it at up to 6'0-6'2. Preference for guys that are 5'7 and belowicon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 01, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    IAmTheOneWhoKnocks:

    I just started seeing this guy. He's, of course, probably the most stable and wittiest and most attractive guy I've met. I really feel like we're on the same page with things, he's actually smart enough to get my lame ass jokes, and the sex is amazing.

    Steve:

    Sounds like you have reasons to be grateful and content with life.


    IAMTheOneWhoKnocks:

    Yet whenever I'm standing right in front of him...I feel so...inadequate. I feel, I don't know, emasculated or like I'm his little brother or something...I know that sounds shallow and there could be so many worse things than a height issue, but the dude's got like 5 or 6 inches on me.

    Steve:

    I'm 5'9". I generally lose hope if a man is taller than 6'2".

    Second, I sleep in either a twin size bed or a full size bed. Now I'm sleeping in a full size bed of standard length. I don't want to deal with the added expense of larger mattresses, bed clothing, washing, drying, and folding the larger dimensions--and turning the mattress--by myself. If I was living with a sleeping partner, I guess, I'd agree to go to a queen or king size bed.

    Feeling emasculated is normal: yes: he is taller than you--he towers over you. But remember, he's a human being who likes you. You've helped him with pleasurable orgasms. He's not a wild animal stalking you who has a physical advantage over you. You guys don't engage in competitive sports where his height defeats you every time.

    Even if you two liked to swim together. You can swim cooperatively. However, if you tried to race each other, taller guys have an advantage over shorter guys.

    Even when I was playing tennis. I would play cooperatively with a man I loved. We couldn't play by the regular rules because he hadn't reached the skill level I had.

    As for feeling like the little brother, as the relationship grows in commitment, the income you bring to the household wealth must be respected by him. He must be grateful for the since contributions you bring to his life: how you cook, how you clean, how you stay employed, how you entertain, how you pray for the well being of yourself, him, and the relationship, how you navigate family politics. Whatever you do to build a home or a lesser relationship with him, you earn your height with him that way.

    IAMTheOneWhoKnocks:

    To make out, I have to like look at the stars above me.

    Steve:

    That's about the most romantic thing I've heard from you.

    Besides, height differences heterosexually can be as much as what you're going through.

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    Feb 01, 2013 3:14 PM GMT


    this is like Deja'vu thread.
  • Medjai

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    Feb 01, 2013 3:21 PM GMT
    Ian dating someone 6" shorter... We're doing great.

    I couldn't date someone 6" taller though. It's tough to find guys over 6'10"... (They'd need to be that tall. I'm 6'4")
  • stratavos

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    Feb 01, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    IAmTheOneWhoKnocks saidI just started seeing this guy. He's, of course, probably the most stable and wittiest and most attractive guy I've met. I really feel like we're on the same page with things, he's actually smart enough to get my lame ass jokes, and the sex is amazing.

    Yet whenever I'm standing right in front of him...I feel so...inadequate. I feel, I don't know, emasculated or like I'm his little brother or something...I know that sounds shallow and there could be so many worse things than a height issue, but the dude's got like 5 or 6 inches on me. To make out, I have to like look at the stars above me. I'm just accustomed to being with men around 5'8-5'11 range.

    Is this normal or am I just stressing over nothing? Can I get a general consensus here.


    you're stressing over nothing. If you haven't talked to him about this yet, and he hasn't literally swept you off your feet yet (like picked you up), TELL HIM.
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    Feb 01, 2013 3:33 PM GMT
    Kai808 said he treats you well then that's all that matters.


    ^ This

    If you haven't dated someone that tall before then it might take some getting used to. I'm 5-11 and was seeing someone that was 6-5, never felt awkward. Plus, finally being able to be the little spoon was a big bonus.
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    Feb 01, 2013 4:12 PM GMT
    IAmTheOneWhoKnocks saidI just started seeing this guy. He's, of course, probably the most stable and wittiest and most attractive guy I've met. I really feel like we're on the same page with things, he's actually smart enough to get my lame ass jokes, and the sex is amazing.

    Yet whenever I'm standing right in front of him...I feel so...inadequate. I feel, I don't know, emasculated or like I'm his little brother or something...I know that sounds shallow and there could be so many worse things than a height issue, but the dude's got like 5 or 6 inches on me. To make out, I have to like look at the stars above me. I'm just accustomed to being with men around 5'8-5'11 range.

    Is this normal or am I just stressing over nothing? Can I get a general consensus here.


    I once dated a man who was 6' 7" and I'm 5' 9". We had such a good time making fun of each other's height. I called him bigfoot and he called me munchkin... but the actual height difference was never an issue. The fact that he was hooked on cocaine became the issue.
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    Feb 01, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    I think you should stfu and be very happy that you landed a tally.

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  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Feb 01, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    Well I'm 5'6 so most guys are taller than me
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    Feb 01, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    well I'm 5,6 and all i gone out with guys who are 6 feet and more, right now I'm talking to a guy who is 6,7 so idk how weird it will be to go out on a date with him, 6,6 standing next to a 5,6 guy like meicon_eek.gif lmaoo i think i won't be able to hold my laughter lol.
  • conservativej...

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    Feb 01, 2013 4:19 PM GMT
    Don't worry about how you feel, just inquire as to how he feels. I suspect you are worryig for no reason at all.

    I am an old gizzard of 55. To top that off I've never grown taller than 5'4". Over the years it has never been the case that most guys I have dated are either 1/2 foot or perhaps 1 foot taller than I. Just a fact.

    Relx. True relationships are not based upon height.
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    Feb 01, 2013 4:22 PM GMT
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 01, 2013 4:28 PM GMT
    I'm the opposite. When a really short guy turns me on I feel almost like a pervert or something, lol. I feel more secure with a partner who is taller than me.
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    Feb 01, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    socalfitness said


    that tall guy there is sexy lol.
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    Feb 01, 2013 4:35 PM GMT
    +1 for stressing over nothing
  • Midas426

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    Feb 01, 2013 5:18 PM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 saidI would absolutely date him. I actually prefer guys who are bigger/taller than myself. Makes me feel comfortable and secure when I'm around them and I LOVE getting hugs from bigger guys icon_biggrin.gif
    +1 (couldn't say it better)
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    Feb 01, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    I'm 6'2", so it's not very likely I'd find a guy getting close to 7 feet.

    But yeah, I'd date him. It'd be a silly reason not to.
  • ftwcycle

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    Feb 01, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    I'm very glad my partner is secure...I'm 6'1" and he is 5'5", but our height difference has never been a negative thing. It made sex interesting for a while but it worked out fine. He fits easily into my arms and its all good...12 years on February 4th and we are still rockin' it! Don't let this be a hurdle to your happiness!
  • Aodhan

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    Feb 01, 2013 5:34 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN saidI think you should stfu and be very happy that you landed a tally.

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    +1
    Agree so much, everything the OP said sounds like the prefect guy icon_biggrin.gif
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Feb 01, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    Thank God I am over the:

    Height or short

    Skinny or Extra pounds

    Native or Foreigner

    Masculine or Effeminate

    Black or White

    ......ISSUES!!!

    At this stage in my life what matter to me the most is finding a guy who enjoys my company as much as he does mine, loves me for me as much as I dig him, and where neither one of us have no sexual hang ups whatsoever!!

    Leandro


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    Feb 01, 2013 6:08 PM GMT
    I am 5'8" and have dated several Guys 6'4" (and above) and lived with one for 3 1/2 years.

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    Feb 01, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    Love me a threesome with some midgets.