Feb 01, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
After being out for some 8 years now, and being a Psychology major; it seems most gay men fit in 2 categories. "Mean girls" vs "Cool girls". I feel that these terms don't need to be explained lol. I recently noticed this in volumes a week ago, when my friend, Aaron, came to visit. This guy has always been a total package. He has a handsome face, smart/great personality, but he recently gained some weight. He doesn't look like a before contestant on "The Biggest Loser", but still he's "gay fat!" Alright, to give the Cliff's Notes version... When he was in town, he and some of our friends all went out to a gay bar to hang. I swear, some of the same guys who would hit on this guy a year before; these same guys acted like they didn't even know him! Giving their replies of, "Well, I haven't seen you out in so long." Later, to over hear the "click groups" making snide remarks like, "he needs Jenny Craig"..."girl done got fat"..."I'm def going to the gym in the morning, after seeing that" What's sad is, these are all guys past the age of 25!!! I really took this to heart, cause the next day, Aaron told me that his feelings were hurt. It's sad that gay culture is the first to call blame for bullying, but some will do the same. Not trying to bash gay culture, but why are so many guys so shallow. I know this is a question as old as time, but I don't feel I'm alone in feeling this. This also raises the question, are we just being socialized to be shallow. Has breathing in too much Abercrombie cologne, listening to too much Beyonce, and watching every Real Housewives...created a super shallow modern day gay? In conclusion, they're def 2 different types of gays. The relaxed and chill guys, that are always up for making new friends. And the others, who whenever shake your hand, have to take a few seconds to give a reply....You all know these types! And leave the big question...Are you a Mean girl, of are you a Cool girl???