Moving to a new city: Shared accommodation or living alone?

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:31 AM GMT
    Soon I will be moving to a new country and city. I am bit confused about whether to live alone (as I can afford it) or share with someone.
    Its a university city with lots of young crowd but I will be working full time.

    I have done this in past, moving to a completely new unknown place but then last time I had shared apartment with some friends of mine whom I knew already. For last few years I was with my ex bf. Then for last few months I have been sharing with flats with strangers and I didn't mind. Still I am leaning towards living alone but there is a bit of doubt that loneliness will take over me in the new place.

    Any thoughts?
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    Feb 02, 2013 12:10 PM GMT
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    Feb 02, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    Share. You can save money, have new potential friends and things like cable tv are more cost effective too. If they annoy you too much, you can always move out to live alone later.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:33 PM GMT
    I'd rather live alone. When I come home, I'm not sharing it with anyone so I don't have to worry about noise, mess and space. And when I am alone, I never feel lonely cuz I have enough to keep me occupied: Internet, books, movies, chores, etc. Having a roommate is definitely more economical but I'd rather pay the price for solitude.
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    Feb 02, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    Haha.. Erik101 & bus9ja2d just wrote the confusion going inside my mind.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:00 AM GMT
    bus9ja2d saidShare. You can save money, have new potential friends and things like cable tv are more cost effective too. If they annoy you too much, you can always move out to live alone later.


    THIS. Also, for safety reasons it's good to keep an eye out for each other in a new city until you get settled in.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:17 AM GMT
    same question I am having !! where are you moving to?
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    Feb 03, 2013 11:21 AM GMT
    mpyear2010 saidsame question I am having !! where are you moving to?

    Utrecht, NL.
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    Feb 03, 2013 2:28 PM GMT
    well, you've got two choices... icon_mad.gif
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    Feb 03, 2013 3:58 PM GMT
    Shagglot said
    mpyear2010 saidsame question I am having !! where are you moving to?

    Utrecht, NL.


    Expensive city. Try to find/make a friend before you move and room up for a while. I did this when I moved to San Francisco.
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    Feb 03, 2013 4:03 PM GMT
    GAMRican said

    Expensive city. Try to find/make a friend before you move and room up for a while. I did this when I moved to San Francisco.

    Ahh!! Do you know the city? Well I don't know how to find someone living up there. But now I am inclining more towards sharing apartment.
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    Feb 03, 2013 4:04 PM GMT
    Azzarro saidwell, you've got two choices... icon_mad.gif

    Yeah I tried this https://www.freakonomicsexperiments.com/.
    It didn't help me much.
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    Feb 03, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    I've actually never even considered living alone. It seems so strange, but I grew up in a large family. There were always people around. If I want solitude, that's what my bedroom is for.
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    Feb 03, 2013 4:12 PM GMT
    MileHighYo saidI've actually never even considered living alone. It seems so strange, but I grew up in a large family. There were always people around. If I want solitude, that's what my bedroom is for.

    Well I am not averse to living alone and if I shared this time, sooner in a year or so I will start living alone. I enjoy my solitude and would like to enjoy outside of bedroom in bathroom when you can take a dump without someone knocking on your door.
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    Feb 03, 2013 4:44 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidI'd rather live alone. When I come home, I'm not sharing it with anyone so I don't have to worry about noise, mess and space. And when I am alone, I never feel lonely cuz I have enough to keep me occupied: Internet, books, movies, chores, etc. Having a roommate is definitely more economical but I'd rather pay the price for solitude.


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    Feb 03, 2013 8:01 PM GMT
    If you can afford it, getting a place of your own might be the best move. At least at first. I have not had that option, a couple of times. It is really difficult to find compatible roommates on short notice. When you've had time to meet people and develop some friends, it might be more successful. Bad roommates can be a drag on the rest of your life.
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    Feb 03, 2013 10:12 PM GMT
    What have your roommate experiences been like in the past, if you have ever had them? Do you find that you're pretty easy to get along with? Have you ever noticed pet peeves with other people that you've lived with? Is there any way that you can make it to this city to get to know some people before deciding on who to live with. I always think it's a good idea to grab coffee with a potential roommate to chat about your expectations, etc.

    I really enjoy living with someone, but I am a very social person and really extroverted. I also check in all the time with my roommate to see if I'm keeping him up at night (I don't sleep much) and if we need anything, etc, when I go to the store.

    You can save a ton of money, and if you click well with the person then you can also meet each others friends, possibly share meals and chores.

    It's going to be whatever you make it out to be, but you'll have to have the ability to communicate effectively, just like with any kind of relationship.
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    Feb 03, 2013 10:20 PM GMT
    JerseyJames75 saidWhat have your roommate experiences been like in the past, if you have ever had them? Do you find that you're pretty easy to get along with? Have you ever noticed pet peeves with other people that you've lived with? Is there any way that you can make it to this city to get to know some people before deciding on who to live with. I always think it's a good idea to grab coffee with a potential roommate to chat about your expectations, etc.

    Yeah I have lived with few roommates and I get along well. I have been living right now in a shared apartment. I haven't had any pet peeves in past. I think I do well on not being an annoyance to my roommates.
    I am not sure how I can meet anyone sitting here. Its not possible at the moment until I finally move there. Then only I can try to do that.
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    I really enjoy living with someone, but I am a very social person and really extroverted. I also check in all the time with my roommate to see if I'm keeping him up at night (I don't sleep much) and if we need anything, etc, when I go to the store.

    Here I am exact opposite. I am more introverted. Apart from usual chit-chat of hi/hello I really don't try to engage myself in what's going on with someone's personal life.
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    You can save a ton of money, and if you click well with the person then you can also meet each others friends, possibly share meals and chores.

    It's going to be whatever you make it out to be, but you'll have to have the ability to communicate effectively, just like with any kind of relationship.

    Yeah these are the pros I am considering.
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    Feb 03, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    If you have no social network in the new city living in a shared space to start out is a great way for an introduction to the local community.
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    Feb 03, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    if you want to meet people in the new city, you can always use internet-based methods. Couchsurfing.com forums, websites like real jock, there are even roommate specific websites. You could even chat on skype a few times with potential people. I don' think it's unrealistic to want to get to know someone you are going to live with, and if a potential roommate has problems with a skype chat, it's probably a sign you don't want to live with them.