Big Gay Question

  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:40 AM GMT
    Where do y'all find relationship partners? I'm not talking about one-time hook-ups but where do you find men who are interested in relationships?

    A lot of the gays I know drink lots and take drugs but I don't want to be with someone that bases their whole life round that. I don't mind if they drink every know and again (most people do), I just want someone who isn't an alcoholic

    Any tips?

    I go to my uni's lgbt society but a lot of the guys there drink lots/do drugs and the ones who have expressed interested in me aren't guys that I find attractive, I was seeing one guy from there but he cheated on me, none of them make me thing 'phwoarrrr'

    Where do I find 'phwoarrr'? haha
  • ESL_Asian

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    Feb 02, 2013 12:04 PM GMT
    Tombo saidA lot of the gays I know drink lots and take drugs

    Too badicon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 12:09 PM GMT
    I feel sorry for your situation!...
    I think more or less it's common everywhere!
    I've seen many posts in RJ that, people were being cheated!

    you can search for people you like on online, but I think some of them may not be genuine!

    Well, If you don't want alcoholics then don't look at place where you'll find most!

    stop going to your uni's lgbt society! look for another lgbt societies!
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    Feb 02, 2013 5:36 PM GMT
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    Feb 02, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    I feel you man, I've been trying to solve that problem since highschool. I always ended up with guys who were not ambitious and just wanted to have sex. I'm guessing, to find the right guy we both need a better social network?
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:05 PM GMT
    I met my BF on manhunt lol. we've been together for over 3.5 years now.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:07 PM GMT
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  • monet

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    Feb 02, 2013 6:09 PM GMT
    You're 20, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship. You should be looking for hookups. Wait until you're a grown-up before trying to settle into a relationship.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:12 PM GMT
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  • HottJoe

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    Feb 02, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    monet saidYou're 20, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship. You should be looking for hookups. Wait until you're a grown-up before trying to settle into a relationship.


    Don't be a tool. He should go for what he wants.

    OP, talk to people and you'll find someone who wants the same things you do.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    monet saidYou're 20, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship. You should be looking for hookups. Wait until you're a grown-up before trying to settle into a relationship.


    Says who? Contrary to popular belief, not all guys are into hook-ups. Sure, we all like sex, but for some of us, pump and dump doesn't really do it. There are always suggestions, but telling him to do something he's clearly not interested in doing is totally counterproductive.

    Tombo, if you want to find a relationship, go for it. As for where to look, my suggestion is not to look. Make friends with guys and see what happens.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:54 PM GMT
    I agree 100% with RedSox.

    We all go through stages at different times and if you want a BF then go for it. I wouldn't go searching for one though, just let it happen. It is so much more fun and romantic when a guy just comes out of no-where and into your life.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:54 PM GMT
    Have you ever tried to go to a gay club?
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:57 PM GMT
    Don't look. All my previous relationships just happened when I was not looking for anyone.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:59 PM GMT
    bars are full of drunks... try joining athletic teams., book clubs, any group of people which share something that YOU are passionate about....

    there.... you will meet people, and...... like they say 10% of people are fabulous!!!!icon_biggrin.gif
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
    KKim11 saidI feel you man, I've been trying to solve that problem since highschool. I always ended up with guys who were not ambitious and just wanted to have sex. I'm guessing, to find the right guy we both need a better social network?


    Yeah, keep expanding my horizons icon_biggrin.gif
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
    willular saidI met my BF on manhunt lol. we've been together for over 3.5 years now.


    Awww, nice one mate icon_smile.gif
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:09 PM GMT
    monet saidYou're 20, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship. You should be looking for hookups. Wait until you're a grown-up before trying to settle into a relationship.


    Ewwww... I don't want anymore grim hook-ups, have fun getting STIs whoever you are!
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    monet saidYou're 20, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship. You should be looking for hookups. Wait until you're a grown-up before trying to settle into a relationship.


    Don't be a tool. He should go for what he wants.

    OP, talk to people and you'll find someone who wants the same things you do.


    Yeah, exactly! Cheers pal icon_smile.gif
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:11 PM GMT
    redsoxfan791 said
    monet saidYou're 20, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship. You should be looking for hookups. Wait until you're a grown-up before trying to settle into a relationship.


    Says who? Contrary to popular belief, not all guys are into hook-ups. Sure, we all like sex, but for some of us, pump and dump doesn't really do it. There are always suggestions, but telling him to do something he's clearly not interested in doing is totally counterproductive.

    Tombo, if you want to find a relationship, go for it. As for where to look, my suggestion is not to look. Make friends with guys and see what happens.


    Cheers for your advice buddy! Also, I love the phrase 'pump and dump,' not heard that one before lol
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    Feb 02, 2013 11:11 PM GMT
    Tombo saidWhere do y'all find relationship partners?
    Usually on planet Earth, but Mars looks promising, too.
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    Mrap saidHave you ever tried to go to a gay club?



    Yes, I have been groped in many gay clubs and hit on by a variety of guys, some hot, some not so much

    I met one great guy who was my ideal type but unfortunately he had a partner, his high morals made me like him even more

    Also, in a bar, if lots of alcohol is consumed then perceptions can be altered and people can look more attractive and if you get to drunk then who knows what will happen
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    jonnyboy saidbars are full of drunks... try joining athletic teams., book clubs, any group of people which share something that YOU are passionate about....

    there.... you will meet people, and...... like they say 10% of people are fabulous!!!!icon_biggrin.gif


    Awww, thank you for you useful reply icon_biggrin.gif
  • Tombo

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    Feb 02, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Tombo saidWhere do y'all find relationship partners?
    Usually on planet Earth, but Mars looks promising, too.


    I heard Venus is good this time of year!
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    Feb 02, 2013 11:18 PM GMT
    gay ____ groups or gay ____ teams (e.g. gay book groups or sports teams). You might not have had much luck with uni lgbt so far but it is one of the best ways there is. You might end up liking a friend of a friend from there etc.