the gay "snatch"

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    Feb 02, 2013 12:22 PM GMT

    ive noticed several times, when around men, like in a gay bar, i start talking to somebody im interested in and their "friend" snatches them away, it seems on purpose sometimes, why is this?, they dont seem to be other than just friends, and if we hit it off, we might go home or start getting to know eachother better, why this protective behavior? seems kinda childish and caddy among adult men, i had the greatest conversations among the "taken" men, but single guys with their friends........whats up? please shed some light here on clique
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    Feb 02, 2013 12:47 PM GMT
    Perhaps when the others see you , they feel competitive icon_smile.gif

    When you're talking to someone & their friend snatches them...you can do 2 things..
    1.go back & talk to them or
    2.Ignore him(consider him a unlucky person) & move to next person!

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    Feb 02, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    Cock-blocking and territoriality are not unique to the hetero community.
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    Feb 02, 2013 2:55 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidCock-blocking and territoriality are not unique to the hetero community.


    Why not just pee on their friends?
    Animals do that to mark their territory. icon_lol.gificon_razz.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 3:05 PM GMT


    When that happened I used to grin at them, walk off and get a drink, leaving a door open so to speak in case the man I was interested in walked back over.

    However, I often thought that if a man I was interested in was snatched away by a friend, then I wasn't that interested as I wanted a man that knew what he wanted and didn't let friends meddle. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    gayusasian82 said
    DOMINUS saidCock-blocking and territoriality are not unique to the hetero community.


    Why not just pee on their friends?
    Animals do that to mark their territory. icon_lol.gificon_razz.gif


    that's really more of a second date thing
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    Feb 02, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    You know why. I know why. WE ALL KNOW WHY! icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    If the guy liked you I think he would come back to you. More likely the friend recognized cues that you wouldn't necessarily know and he was just saving face for everyone.
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    Feb 02, 2013 5:58 PM GMT
    If the friends are jelly, you are toast.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:11 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidCock-blocking and territoriality are not unique to the hetero community.




    I had to Wiki that one icon_lol.gif

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cockblock
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidPerhaps when the others see you , they feel competitive icon_smile.gif

    When you're talking to someone & their friend snatches them...you can do 2 things..
    1.go back & talk to them or
    2.Ignore him(consider him a unlucky person) & move to next person!




    guess that is why the gay bar scene gets old for some people with all the cock blocking going on by friends and friends of friends icon_razz.gif, they feel competitive? when i go with my friends, they are on there own if they meet someone they are interested in, i dont do and wouldnt do cock blocking for a friend, your friends for a reason, am i missing something?
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:32 PM GMT
    Yeah, usually people who are there with friends or in a group stick to who they came with. If you're actually trying to meet someone it's a lot easier to approach someone who's there looking for the same thing. Also, he may have used his friend as an excuse to reject you, so it's kind of a waste of energy to pine over him. I'd just move on and chalk it up to his loss.
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:33 PM GMT
    i used to have friends that were overly possesive about me, and would rarely allow a new person to enter my space,,,, i think they thought they were doing me a favor.... in the end they were stupid friends, and i told them to get lost...
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    meninlove said

    When that happened I used to grin at them, walk off and get a drink, leaving a door open so to speak in case the man I was interested in walked back over.

    However, I often thought that if a man I was interested in was snatched away by a friend, then I wasn't that interested as I wanted a man that knew what he wanted and didn't let friends meddle. icon_wink.gif



    what do you do in a crowded room and the friend blocks by physical push or nudge?, this has happened to me before on several occasions, im like, bitch, icon_lol.gif, if i looked like Jake Gyllenhaal, would i have a bunch of friends that were cock blockers? gay men are a caddy bunch
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
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    Harry7785 saidPerhaps when the others see you , they feel competitive icon_smile.gif

    When you're talking to someone & their friend snatches them...you can do 2 things..
    1.go back & talk to them or
    2.Ignore him(consider him a unlucky person) & move to next person!




    guess that is why the gay bar scene gets old for some people with all the cock blocking going on by friends and friends of friends icon_razz.gif, they feel competitive? when i go with my friends, they are on there own if they meet someone they are interested in, i dont do and wouldnt do cock blocking for a friend, your friends for a reason, am i missing something?


    I meant it as a joke! About that copetitive thing..
    But, if you want my suggestion, I wouldn't take it seriously...if I keep on thinking about it, it only will lead me to depression & agony :/
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:43 PM GMT
    jonnyboy saidi used to have friends that were overly possesive about me, and would rarely allow a new person to enter my space,,,, i think they thought they were doing me a favor.... in the end they were stupid friends, and i told them to get lost...



    wow, ive never had friends like that, did you and those friends actually discuss this blocking technique or does this happen unconsciously?, why did they feel the need to protect you, and from what? meeting someone else? ive been out for 22 years, it was much easier for me in my straight days, with women icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    Times have changed I suppose. I remember going to the bars with friends, and we never spent the evening in a group. I recall many times throughout the evening saying that I was going to make a "lap" around the bar to see who's there. No one got miffed if one of us left with someone.

    Now it seems guys go out in groups and stay like that. The days of sending a handsome guy a drink across the bar are over, I regret.
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    Feb 02, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    garyinla saidTimes have changed I suppose. I remember going to the bars with friends, and we never spent the evening in a group. I recall many times throughout the evening saying that I was going to make a "lap" around the bar to see who's there. No one got miffed if one of us left with someone.

    Now it seems guys go out in groups and stay like that. The days of sending a handsome guy a drink across the bar are over, I regret.


    good point, same hear, unless the friend was my ride home and im stranded, maybe its all about GPS Grindr now icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    That's like.. standard for most people.
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    Feb 02, 2013 7:24 PM GMT
    Mrap saidThat's like.. standard for most people.


    what is standard, openly possessive friends?
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    Feb 02, 2013 8:13 PM GMT
    Exactly why I dont hang out in Bars- with Stupid straight, or gay people. That type of behavior is just annoying in my opinion.

    I'd rather go to coffee with someone in a quiet place and then maybe a walk- however if your looking to get laid usually those aren't the venues for that ;)
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    Feb 02, 2013 8:21 PM GMT
    That was not what I thought this thread was about AT ALL. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    That's why you need a wingman to counter the cockblock. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 8:34 PM GMT
    Damn, I dint even read the OP after I saw the word "Snatch"
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    Feb 02, 2013 8:56 PM GMT
    If I'm interested in getting to know a guy my friends wouldn't be able to drag me away.I wouldn't let my friends run my evening for me. If I really had to leave with them because I was depending on them for a ride or we had made other plans, I would let the guy know I was interested and would either invite him along or give him my number and ask that he call so we can set a date where friends wouldn't be an issue.

    Hey, Here's an idea. Before his friends drag him off say something like: Oh I see you're busy, but I really enjoyed our talk and would like to go to dinner so we can talk somemore. He's my number; call me if you're interested. If he's interested he'll call. If not, you know he wasn't.