INSENSITIVE FRIEND OF MINE REALLY SURPRISED ME TONIGHT

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    Feb 03, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    I Have a friend I known since I was a kid who really pissed me off tonight. I seen aside of her that I never thought I would see.

    I told her how there was a Guy who I knew who looked up to me who was really cool Guy. One day I seen him coming out a store from around the way and I seen his nails and how brittle they were and she abruptly started laughing hysterically. I said "What is is so funny?" She says you said his nails were brittle. I thought you was gonna say he was skinny or something. I said he was skinny. He was dying of cancer.

    What the FUCK IS So funny about somebody dying of cancer. Laughing uncontrollably about their blemished body.

    I know I couldn't do anything bout his dilemma but I was so fearful of seeing him fade away that I went into flight mode.

    Afraid of seeing him like that. But for Hearing her laugh at something so dear to me makes mecsee her ass a piece of shit.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:13 AM GMT



    I'm unsure how she would know a comment about brittle nails means someone has cancer.

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    Or were you already talking about the guy having cancer before you said anything about his nails?
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    I think if you were talking about cancer she found it absurd that you would mention he had brittle nails when he is dying of cancer. Who cares about brittle nails if you are dying. It would be like saying he can't go in the sun and get a tan because he has skin cancer. I think she was laughing at your correlation between something so fatal and something so insignificant.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:28 AM GMT
    I told her that they were brittle because he was dying of cancer and she still continued to laugh. I'm sick of people being insensitive about things in life. Major things in life catastrophes. Where do we get off. Yet we cry mercy when the shit happens to us.

    The man I am today would have been there for him till his last breath.to show this lil young dude that I cared for him I wish he knew that I cry that he gone I wish he knew that his departure and his life is not forgotten.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:31 AM GMT
    She is not a friend.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:31 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI think if you were talking about cancer she found it absurd that you would mention he had brittle nails when he is dying of cancer. Who cares about brittle nails if you are dying. It would be like saying he can't go in the sun and get a tan because he has skin cancer. I think she was laughing at your correlation between something so fatal and something so insignificant.


    Please understand what I'm saying. I asked him what happened to him. Its not insignificant. It was an effect of the cancer.he told.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:33 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidShe is not a friend.


    I'm starting to realize it now.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:42 AM GMT
    People laughing at other people's pain!

    you can leave them to their Illusion of ignorance, ridicule, mockery!
    they will keep on laughing until they experience it themselves! & when that happens, I'm sure they will start crying! icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:46 AM GMT
    Harry7785 saidPeople laughing at other people's pain!

    you can leave them to their Illusion of ignorance, ridicule, mockery!
    they will keep on laughing until they experience it themselves! & when that happens, I'm sure they will start crying! icon_neutral.gif




    That's just what I just said. You are very smart. You seem to be very poetical.
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    Feb 03, 2013 12:20 PM GMT
    azariah1982 saidI told her that they were brittle because he was dying of cancer and she still continued to laugh. I'm sick of people being insensitive about things in life. Major things in life catastrophes. Where do we get off. Yet we cry mercy when the shit happens to us.

    The man I am today would have been there for him till his last breath.to show this lil young dude that I cared for him I wish he knew that I cry that he gone I wish he knew that his departure and his life is not forgotten.


    I don't reply here often, but that last statement of yours warranted one. Always remember dude, it's alright to have made a mistake. Based on this statement, you did what you had to which is learn from it. Looking back is never easy when you realize you made a mistake. As far as your friend goes, well...I had some enlightening views of some people I used to know. We're no longer friends because when I thought about it...we never really were.
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    Feb 03, 2013 12:33 PM GMT
    azariah1982 said
    GAMRican saidShe is not a friend.


    I'm starting to realize it now.

    Open doors, let new ones in....
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    Feb 03, 2013 12:46 PM GMT
    Thanks man. That really helped. I have a big heart. At the time it scared the living daylight savings time of me. I can't deal with people who pretend to be caring but are counterfeit. She's very two faced. Shallow. She cracked up like I I would accept something like that.

    "Blessed are those that show mercy,
    For they shall be shown mercy"
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    Feb 03, 2013 1:25 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidShe is not a friend.

    This, and she is scary. Sometimes in a similar situation you need to shake your head and just walk away, never to speak to such an insipid individual again.
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    Feb 03, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    Did you ask her why she laughed? You've been friends since you were kids so I wouldn't rush to throw away the friendship. I would dig deeper. Maybe she reacts to pain with laughter. I remember reading a Vietnam memoir where the Viet Cong, when faced with extreme tragedy, started dancing. Not b/c they didn't know how to mourn. But b/c that was how they did it. Just find out her past and motivations, is all I'm saying.
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    Feb 03, 2013 2:12 PM GMT
    I've laughed at things that I shouldn't have before.
  • jayatl56

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    Feb 03, 2013 3:21 PM GMT
    People react differently to things. Some people do in fact react to tragedy by laughing. It's not unusual but that's their coping mechanism.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:30 PM GMT
    jayatl56 saidPeople react differently to things. Some people do in fact react to tragedy by laughing. It's not unusual but that's their coping mechanism.


    This.

    I laugh at horrible situations all of the time. It's not coming from a place of disrespect, but I tend to cope with things by trying to find any humor in it that I can.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:35 PM GMT
    jayatl56 saidPeople react differently to things. Some people do in fact react to tragedy by laughing. It's not unusual but that's their coping mechanism.


    Agreed. Sometimes it's all they've got. That, or insensitivity being cool is on the rise again.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 03, 2013 5:35 PM GMT
    I would have given her the benefit of the doubt initially.. it would have been the supportive behavior that might have been at issue. Did she comment on how sad and difficult it must be for your friend or indicate some degree of concern or just curiousity. If she didn't, I probably would have been with you about wondering a bit about what kind of person she is.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:36 PM GMT

    azariah, she's been your friend since you were both little. has she ever done this before? Consider that you may be judging too harshly and too swiftly.


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    Feb 03, 2013 5:42 PM GMT
    I told her last night but he died a long while ago but every now and then. But it was how she was laughing I asked what's funny about something like that she said how I was saying brittl she's not usuallylike that.I love Bert to death.
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    Feb 03, 2013 5:51 PM GMT


    "she's not usuallylike that"

    Then be a good friend and give her the benefit of the doubt. Remember your first topic on here? She stood by you and was your friend though all of that and all those years. Reciprocate. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 03, 2013 6:26 PM GMT
    I actually forgive her. I just think I need to be more watchful of her cause for many years shehas been a Blabber mouth. Always

    But I always give her the benefit of the doubt
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    Feb 03, 2013 6:28 PM GMT
    I dont get what she did wrong.
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    Feb 03, 2013 7:27 PM GMT
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