Question for people who frequent the forums but don't post...

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    Oct 01, 2008 3:00 AM GMT
    Why don't you? Are the rabid political threads not inviting enough for you icon_biggrin.gif

    I guess a thread asking non-posters for a response might not get a lot of feedback, but I thought I'd ask anyway. Out of honest curiosity, is there a reason why you don't like to post?
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    Oct 01, 2008 3:03 AM GMT
    I can answer for them since they won't.

    People cruise but don't post for many reasons:

    (1) they are just looking for sex
    (2) in-the-closet and getting anonymous vice by reading these forums
    (3) are afraid to post in fear of getting flamed
    (4) just want to read
    (5) don't want attention on themselves
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    Oct 01, 2008 3:47 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidJackassbenson believes he can answer for anyone by using her psychic powers. No need for anyone to respond. I've witnessed this before in the past. He's so awesome!


    I think you inadvertently answered my question.
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    Oct 01, 2008 4:55 AM GMT
    Oh god, I can't believe I'm doing this, but seriously, lay off him, MuchMore. First of all, he didn't make a mockery of your sn. Like if he could have called you MuchMoreWhoreThanMuscle, but he didn't. Plus, he didn't claim to know every reason people don't post, I recall reading him post that there are many reasons and then he took the liberty of listing five. Actually, it was much more an elegant and straight forward post than I'm used to seeing from him, so back off MoreMuscleMuch? . icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 01, 2008 5:24 AM GMT
    i get emails sometimes from people who enjoy reading but don't want to post. honestly, they often open with something like, "i enjoy reading your posts, and i don't respond to them because i'm scared of looking dumb in front of people." that's not the answer for everyone, i'm sure, but it's the one i hear most.

    i, however, make it a habit of looking dumb in front of other people, so i don't let this particular fear stop me.
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    Oct 01, 2008 6:08 AM GMT
    I don't post very often, but a lot of the time it is because I don't feel like I have adequate knowledge about a topic to contribute to the discussion in a meaningful way.

    Example: American Politics - I am Canadian, and a Canadian who is ignorant to foreign politics - so I wouldn't feel very comfortable posting in that sort of thread.

    Other times, I feel like posting is simply a way to invite hellfire into my inbox.

    Example: Christanity VS Atheism, Vegetarianism VS Non-vegetarianism. Any regular forum user/viewer knows that these threads rapidly disintegrate into a free-for-all brawl, one which I would rather not be part of.

    There are probably other reasons, but those two are the predominant ones.
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    Oct 01, 2008 6:29 AM GMT

    danerjack> i, however, make it a habit of looking dumb in front of other people, so i don't let this particular fear stop me.

    Don't they say: "it doesn't matter how dumb you look so long as you look good doing it"?

    Um, that wasn't a dumb post, was it...?
    (Not my fault I'm flexible enough to insert my foot in my mouth.
    Oh, that's not much of a feat around here? Never mind.)
  • OptimusMatt

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    Oct 01, 2008 6:41 AM GMT
    I tend to listen more than I speak. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 01, 2008 6:45 AM GMT
    Mostly I like to casually browse some of the posts, but by-and-large I don't have anything I wish to contribute, or maybe the time - scanning is faster than posting. In a way these forums are like reading a large blog - nothing wrong with that icon_smile.gif

    Most of the postings as surfsdown post mentions, are on American politics - at least lately, which believe me I am exposed to enough in the Canadian media. We have our own election going on, and all our eyes are on the American outcome instead.
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    Oct 01, 2008 6:54 AM GMT
    It's pointless posting in most threads, some of them are immature and some utter nonsense and yes lots of drama too.
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    Oct 01, 2008 7:00 AM GMT
    I wonder why I post...I like to lurk...but I AM MAD AS HELL AND I AM NOT TAKING IT ANYMORE!!!!
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    Oct 01, 2008 7:08 AM GMT
    I don't post much because people already posted what I was going to post.
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    Oct 01, 2008 7:15 AM GMT
    jakebenson saidI can answer for them since they won't.

    People cruise but don't post for many reasons:

    (1) they are just looking for sex
    (2) in-the-closet and getting anonymous vice by reading these forums
    (3) are afraid to post in fear of getting flamed
    (4) just want to read
    (5) don't want attention on themselves


    You forgot:

    (6) they puke on their keyboard from the mind boggling amount of shit pouring from the cracks of the various threads, thus preventing them from typing.

    It's like a old ladies home where everyone has herpes; little else but vitriol and whining.

    Good journey to those I would say it to.

    /wave

    ~Buckwheet
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    Oct 01, 2008 8:11 AM GMT
    jakebenson saidI can answer for them since they won't.

    People cruise but don't post for many reasons:

    (1) they are just looking for sex
    (2) in-the-closet and getting anonymous vice by reading these forums
    (3) are afraid to post in fear of getting flamed
    (4) just want to read
    (5) don't want attention on themselves


    Seriously, how about those who find it hard enough trawling through some of these topics that just seem outdated at times?

    I for one have to admit that since I joined up to realjock- - oh what, 2 years ago now? meh! - there have been more and more guys joining this site as an alternative to gaydar/manhunt whatever you like to use. I joined up cause it's a fitness website. The articles are interesting and I'm probably more interested in giving advice/motivation based on my fitness experiences.

    I guess I can say I'm getting old when you see the same topics time and time again popping up from people who perhaps don't know how to use the search feature on a forum.


  • RSportsguy

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    Oct 01, 2008 9:13 AM GMT
    jakebenson saidI can answer for them since they won't.

    People cruise but don't post for many reasons:

    (1) they are just looking for sex
    (2) in-the-closet and getting anonymous vice by reading these forums
    (3) are afraid to post in fear of getting flamed
    (4) just want to read
    (5) don't want attention on themselves




    How about number 6: Someone who obviously is brilliant has already posted what I was going to say! icon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif
  • johnnybravo79

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    Oct 01, 2008 10:27 AM GMT
    I go through them and i dont ever post, the reason is that someone has already said what i was going to say. But ill try to start posting.
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    Oct 01, 2008 11:13 AM GMT
    I used to post a lot more than I do now, but it is only due to time. I usually don't contribute to a thread unless it interests me, I think I have something to say that might interest/amuse/help someone, and I've read the postings above me. Since there are so many more member on RJ, there are more postings, and I have limited time, so I can't read/review/enjoy all the postings and still have as much time to write.
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    Oct 01, 2008 11:41 AM GMT
    i dont want to get caught up in the drama of some of the posts

    but i am going to try to post more on some topics
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    Oct 01, 2008 11:48 AM GMT
    I don't post much because I'm shy. icon_redface.gif

    Really! icon_lol.gif

    LOL, don't post much recently since The Invasion of the Killer Political Threads and busy with real life stuff. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 01, 2008 11:54 AM GMT
    Why do people have "No Photo Uploaded"? I don't get that.
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    Oct 01, 2008 12:11 PM GMT
    As I do post, I can't speak to that, but I can report guys that I've emailed with that don't post, or don't post anymore.

    Basically the biggest reason I've heard is that guys see someone post something innocently to be then raked over the coals for something, and they don't want to subject themselves to that. While I've seen posted here that some guys think that it's good to have a verbal sparring, many people don't want that and don't feel comfortable with it. But it's kind of like wanting it peaceful: if someone else doesn't agree with you, they will trash your view.

    I don't post all that much compared to others, and it's for the same reason that Rigsby mentioned. Is what I'm going to write going to improve the matter over my not posting? If so, I post.
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    Oct 01, 2008 12:45 PM GMT

    Here's an example of what turns away those that may feel like posting...you can find this farther down this same forum..

    "Info on Obama, a must read..."

    RJ apparently cherry-picks which forum rules it chooses to enforce on any given day.

    We've both seen people start a topic here, or comment on one, only to be singled out for obnoxious attention. We've also had the pleasure of being the recipients of said attention.
  • Abe13

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    Oct 01, 2008 12:56 PM GMT
    I don't post too often because I am new and still learning about the site. And I have gotten into to many disagreements ove politics lately, that I have chosen to stay out of it. I am a conservative(yeah I know the oxymoron of gays, lol). And I am way too opinionated in my mind, so I just don't post on politics. Maybe after the election
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    Oct 01, 2008 1:07 PM GMT
    I post once in a while - but it seems lately most the posts are politically motivated. I already know who I'm voting for and why. No one is going to change my mind and anything I have to say wont change anyone else's mind.

    This site is sort of an escape for me, something I do on my own w/ out my BF or friends. I enjoy talking to people about working out, going out, sports, movies etc.
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    Oct 01, 2008 1:22 PM GMT
    # 1 reason would be lack of time.

    I would rather see and talk to hot guys in the chatroom.

    Most threads seem to end in tears and drama,and reading through 100's of posts in a single thread is a waste of time.

    Lolcatz are an instant turn off, and fuck me it's not often you can read a thread all the way through without running into the little bastards.

    Don't get me wrong forums can be very interesting,but I think people should show more respect in here to others.