HIV Risk from possible blood in mouth during oral and rimming?

  • achem

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    Feb 04, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    A week and a half ago I hooked up with a guy, and it didn't strike me until later that the odd metallic smell/taste when he kissed me could have been blood. He performed oral and a rimjob on me. He said he was tested in November and negative (which I believe), and hasn't been with anyone since, but honestly I can't trust him 100% on that (this was a one night stand sort of thing, which after worrying about this I am not going to bother with again). Anyway, I know the HIV risk for giving/receiving oral under normal circumstances is so very low it isn't much of a concern, but hypothetically if he were HIV+ and there was some blood in his mouth what are the chances of him infecting me either through oral (urethra) or the rimjob given the chance that I may have had a small cut down there from irritation. I know there probably isn't anything to really worry about, but a random hook up like this is new to me, and I never really had to worry about STIs or HIV before, so I'm being a bit paranoid; having to wait multiple weeks to get tested doesn't help either. Any input you might have to ease my mind would be greatly appreciated!
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 04, 2013 5:17 AM GMT
    The chances are much lower than anal intercourse. Thankfully you don't have to wait weeks for results. Just check in with some places they can give you rapid results. The sooner you get it done, the better you will feel.

    You will be fine.
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Feb 04, 2013 5:28 AM GMT
    achem saidA week and a half ago I hooked up with a guy, and it didn't strike me until later that the odd metallic smell/taste when he kissed me could have been blood.


    Was he maybe doing, or had already done poppers? That could be another explanation for the metallic smell and taste.

  • Medjai

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    Feb 04, 2013 5:39 AM GMT
    It's impossible to give you a numerical chance beyond saying greater than zero and less than 100%. There's some chance. Get the rapid results test now, then again in six months if you're concerned. Next time, play safer.
  • achem

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    Feb 04, 2013 5:39 AM GMT
    PolaroidSwinger said
    achem saidA week and a half ago I hooked up with a guy, and it didn't strike me until later that the odd metallic smell/taste when he kissed me could have been blood.


    Was he maybe doing, or had already done poppers? That could be another explanation for the metallic smell and taste.



    Not that I know of. We were also talking for a while before anything sexual happened, and from what I know poppers only last a handful of minutes, so I doubt he used them.
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    Feb 04, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    Let me get this straight...

    The risk of him passing it to you (assuming he is positive) through him giving you a blow-job with POSSIBLE blood in his mouth and rimming you?

    You really shouldn't be worrying.

    Not only does saliva contain enzymes that makes it extremely difficult for the virus to survive, it also cannot penetrate intact skin - and there would have to be a sufficient amount of it forced into your urethra for that to be considered a risk, and that sort of thing doesn't really happen outside of unprotected anal sex.

    As for rimming, again...there's a risk for other STD's but HIV cannot penetrate intact skin, so no risk. Move on, you are fine.
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Feb 04, 2013 5:45 AM GMT
    achem said
    PolaroidSwinger said
    achem saidA week and a half ago I hooked up with a guy, and it didn't strike me until later that the odd metallic smell/taste when he kissed me could have been blood.


    Was he maybe doing, or had already done poppers? That could be another explanation for the metallic smell and taste.



    Not that I know of. We were also talking for a while before anything sexual happened, and from what I know poppers only last a handful of minutes, so I doubt he used them.


    Well, you've been given good advice. If it's your first time getting tested, it's nice to have someone along for moral support (I did).
    I think you'll be fine though.
  • achem

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    Feb 04, 2013 6:10 AM GMT
    Thanks guys. Reading all of this information on the internet can make you think every little thing is a symptom or run over every possible scenario in your head.
  • monstapex

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    Feb 04, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    Usually if someome has bleeding gums ,they will have really bad breath..kinda smell like shit ..but then again you said he rimmed youicon_eek.gif
  • imbrad

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    Feb 04, 2013 7:39 AM GMT
    Unless you have an open sore or cut your chances of contacting HIV are pretty close to not much at all. would be more worried about the emotional effect of messing around with someone that you clearly do not trust (no judgment, story of my life for a while). It can definitely cause some damage to your proverbial heart. We all do it, promise yourself to move forward in sexual practices which you can really enjoy without the fear or guilt after.
  • achem

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    Feb 05, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    I just wanted to add something: Is oral sex and exposure to precum, etc. a much higher risk if a person is newly infected and in the "window period?" I know a newly infected person's viral load is much higher than the usual, and unprotected anal/vaginal sex is considered much more risky during this period of time, but is it also considered much more risky of a time to practice unprotected oral sex even though many deem oral as not a risk in the first place?
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Feb 05, 2013 5:02 AM GMT
    achem saidI just wanted to add something: Is oral sex and exposure to precum, etc. a much higher risk if a person is newly infected and in the "window period?" I know a newly infected person's viral load is much higher than the usual, and unprotected anal/vaginal sex is considered much more risky during this period of time, but is it also considered much more risky of a time to practice unprotected oral sex even though many deem oral as not a risk in the first place?


    Pre cum carries a significantly lower viral load than blood or semen; and you would have to have open cuts/sores in your mouth for there to be any sort of substantial risk of exposure during receptive oral sex.

    Really, don't drive yourself crazy.