Why are most of the Hottest Guys that look or styled more or less like Brian Kiny from QAF such assholes?

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    Aug 30, 2007 11:36 AM GMT
    I mean, i met a guy the other day. very hot . nice body. was gay for a fact. Tried to talk to him and before i could get anything out as i sat next to him at the bar he grabbed his beer bottle got up and said "sorry, not my type." I was like, sorry for even being a live. it kinda makes one feel like they have to either do a lot better in the gym or get a face life. what the HECK?!?!?!?!
  • Laurence

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    Aug 30, 2007 11:51 AM GMT
    Oh dear. What a loser. Don't take it personal Wolf, he's just a jerk.

    Remember just because a book has a nice cover doesn't make it a good book.

    It is a shame that some guys have no manners and I'm sure that if karma does exist that he'll get some nasty little STI that'll make him seem less attractive.


  • cityguy39

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    Aug 30, 2007 12:45 PM GMT
    Just because a man is gay, doesn't mean he has to be PC or even nice. Jerks are jerks no matter what shape size or color. Your a great looking guy, there are plenty of other men out there who will notice you.
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    Aug 30, 2007 2:14 PM GMT
    I'm with the others. The guy was a turd. I hate people like that. Here is my turd guy story:

    I was in a crowded club with some friends. I went to the bar, and on my way back, I was doing that thing where you sort of say excuse me and smile a lot so people don't get cross when you're bumping through the throng. One of the guys thus smiled at beckoned me over (I'd already gone past him) and said "You can save your smile, I don't do pity f**ks." I couldn't come up with anything cleverer to say than, "Neither do I."

    What was extra weird was that the guy actually had to tap me on the shoulder and shout it into my ear. At least your horrible turd of a guy didn't make any extraneous effort to be horrible to you.
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    Aug 30, 2007 5:31 PM GMT
    A similar story happened to a friend of mine, where he simply started talking to this guy and the guy stopped him and said, "like at me, now look at you," and then walked away.

    I think that there is a sense of fear in reactions like that. It has to do with a level of self awareness and confidence.

    I knew a guy who was fat in high school. Then in university he became very fit and absoltuely gorgeous, now, even in his late 30s he models and is very attractive. He confessed something interesting to me, that he wants to be around attractive people cause he worked to be one himself.

    He is normally not an asshole, but the fear in his thinking revealed that he feels his own person is weak, like he needs to be affirmed by being around people "on his level."

    What's the point of being around "beautiful" people if you all have the personality of plywood?

    Basically, ungracious responsees mean more about what's goiong on in the "hot" guy's head about himself than you, and it reveals a deep fear if not incredible self-doubt.
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    Aug 30, 2007 6:37 PM GMT
    Cityguy is right when he says, "Jerks are jerks no matter what shape size or color." The main thing to remember is that guys who act like that are usually terribly insecure. However, you have to be careful about generalizations and judge people individually by their behavior. I know a lot of nice guys who are very attractive but people treat them badly because they think they are going to get rejected by them - so they reject them first.

    And, sadly, sometimes you do have to be a jerk to get people to leave you alone. I don't like acting like an asshole but I've had to on occasion when a guy doesn't get the polite messages I've given that show I'm not interested - or if he's rude, drunk, and grabby.

    I've been saving up the stories of rude guys though and it's fun to discuss them with friends. Plus it takes the sting away when you can laugh at it. I've had all sorts of people tell me I'd be better looking if I did this or that, if I lost weight, if I changed the way I dressed, etc.. I just make sure that the important people in my life aren't rude and mean, and that's all that matters in the long run.
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    Aug 30, 2007 11:41 PM GMT
    Look at it this way - you didn't end up wasting a bunch of your time and energy before finding out he's a self-absorbed asshole.

    I'd rather see the ugly side right up front rather than discover it weeks or months down the road.
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    Aug 31, 2007 2:00 AM GMT
    I agree with most of the guys on this one. Although being black and gay is pretty tough.Believe me I know! Comming from New Orleans blacks gay are treated like a dime a dozen. You still have alot of prejudices out there against you considering this guy was like Brian Kiny I'm guessing.Also your in germany they will tell you to your face the truth! To walk in the truth is always a good thing. I'm not telling you not to go after what you what but know that there is consequences for trying to find that type of guy.

  • GQjock

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    Aug 31, 2007 10:57 AM GMT
    Being gay doesn't exempt you from being an asshole
    ...just chalk it up to having met one and move on
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 31, 2007 11:51 AM GMT
    The last time I was at the club. I saw an extremely goodlooking , muscular guys in the twenties. I was kinda think this is a no chance , no way, no hope for me, after all I am middle ages slightly overweight. Until he keep starring sorta wanted me to approach him.

    I take my chances, turn out he do interested with me. He is into older guys and yes, he take me home to his hotel. To bad , it only a one nite stand . But nevertheless, a wonderful, unforgetable one.

    Hunky , handsome guys need attention,companion, love and sex just like the rest of us. Dont worry about a few jerks, you might ended with one nite of steamy love making or who know the love of your life. Approach them....just do it.
  • duglyduckling

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    Sep 01, 2007 11:47 PM GMT
    Often times, some of the hottest guys are also some of the most insecure guys out there. Some of them resort to putting down others in a pre-emptive strike fashion so that they can feel better themselves. They need serious professional help!
  • iHavok

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    Sep 04, 2007 6:03 PM GMT
    I believe the best response to any sort of rudeness like this is a firm and simple "thanks for the information", or in the case of the pity f^ck guy, "I'll try to keep that in mind". It doesn't show your intent, nor show that it left you flustered.
    It's terrible how many people, guys and women alike believe an attractive body and/or face allows them the freedom to completely lack all social skills.
    Good news is karma is rather forthcoming with this behavior. They will attract people who are similar in nature, and that rarely leads to happiness.
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    Sep 06, 2007 4:40 AM GMT
    Miss Manners, a staple in the Washington Post, would, I think, say the proper response to such an offensive remark is a cold stare, with unspoken overtones of " who the F**k are you to say this to me".

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    Sep 06, 2007 10:24 PM GMT
    I just googled Brian Kiny, as I haven't seen the series. Well, why would you care what someone who looked like that said anyway, what a boring clone.

    And if it makes you feel any better, you're definitely my type ;-)
  • Sayrnas

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    Oct 27, 2007 8:16 AM GMT
    Yup Yup and Yup. Take those jerks with a grain of salt. Really what do they have going for them? If they didn't have their self-esteem (which is just one layer thick) what would they have? They probably have no friends and their home life sucks. don't worry about um.