Top tips for snagging a boyfriend

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    Oct 01, 2008 11:53 AM GMT
    I have decided to put together all the good advice from these forums on how to find and keep a boyfriend. Feel free to add your own:

    1. Don't have sex with him on the first date.

    2. Don't expect him to be anything like you imagine from t'internet.

    3. Don't swamp him with text messages.

    4. Don't turn up to the date in your wedding dress. Save that for the 3rd date.

    5. Don't have sex with him on the second date.



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    Oct 01, 2008 12:36 PM GMT
    Tip One, you can never force something to happen EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Tip Two, Stop trying to make it happen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Tip Three, Every guy you date isn't the greatest, hes just the next best thing.

    Tip Four, Learn to be happy single.

    Tip Five, Learn to be single and Happy!!!

    Tip Six, Do you really need a man???

    Tip Seven, Stop whinging that you are single, learn to be happy being single!!!!

    Tip Eight, Nothing good happens fast but the shit will fly out the window faster then you can get out of its way!

    Tip Nine, he is an addition to your life, not your life!

    Eh, I suppose thats what I have learnt..
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    Oct 01, 2008 1:59 PM GMT
    Thanks for those top tips Liltanker.

    I would go easy on the exclamation marks though as this can be indicative of a single man's state of mind and create a red flag for a potential date.

    cf: Black Narcissus.
  • Timbales

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    Oct 01, 2008 2:16 PM GMT
    Tip one - be honest

    Tip two - give him the benefit of the doubt

    Tip three - know when you are being played
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    Oct 01, 2008 2:25 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidI have decided to put together all the good advice from these forums on how to find and keep a boyfriend. Feel free to add your own...
    Your turn, bitches.


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    Oct 01, 2008 2:49 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidThanks for those top tips Liltanker.

    I would go easy on the exclamation marks though as this can be indicative of a single man's state of mind and create a red flag for a potential date.

    cf: Black Narcissus.


    eh, let little flags go up everywhere, cause I aint dating, I'm not looking and I'm happy being outta that stuff. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 01, 2008 3:09 PM GMT
    my biggest advice when i talk to people about this subject.....

    just be yourself. don't try to be what you think they or other people want you to be.
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    Oct 01, 2008 3:29 PM GMT
    Don't settle

    and

    Don't try to change them
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    Oct 01, 2008 3:52 PM GMT
    TIPS

    Make it clear that you do not want to be treated as an equal......what you want is to be treated better than he treats himself.

    Make it real clear that you are interested, but don't nag, stalk, call, email or text him to death.

    You know he wants your body..........don't put out until you are completely comfortable with him. This may take some time. You will know when you are ready.

    Show some class. Pay the whole damn check at the restaurant instead of splitting it. And eat all the food on your plate. A guy who just picks at his food or who doesn't eat like a man is boring.

    Get drunk with him and laugh a lot.

    Every once in a while, put on something other than the same old jeans and T shirt. Does anyone wear a suit anymore? A man gains instant status when he is wearing a suit.

    Get creative for dating. Do something different.

    Brush your teeth.

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    Oct 01, 2008 3:52 PM GMT
    Get him drunk, use sedatives icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 01, 2008 3:53 PM GMT
    Tip1 - Charm him with your smile... and don't have sexy time until the 3rd date or something..

    I just become uninterested.. typical Sagittariusicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 01, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    Its like you guys decided to make a post for me ^_^ lol, I'll have to remember those tips if I ever go on my first date >.>
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 01, 2008 4:00 PM GMT
    On your first date, don't lay out your whole life story before dinner arrives.

    Do not have sex right off the bat if for no other reason than that you can always say that you didn't have sex right off the bat.

    Don't be too "available" at first.

    Make sure he knows that YOU have a LIFE, one that he isn't necessarily a part of -- yet.
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    Oct 01, 2008 4:03 PM GMT
    Keep the relationship "in the now" until he's completely hooked. Focus on the good times immediately in front of you, not months or years down the road.
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    Oct 01, 2008 4:03 PM GMT
    ActiveAndFit saidGet him drunk, use sedatives icon_lol.gif


    Get Sedative drunk, use him. icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 01, 2008 4:03 PM GMT
    only timber and red vespa have bfs....so, like, the rest of you are a great bunch to be getting advice from ... icon_rolleyes.gif

    ok...Munchie slipped in there....and like his 2 cents is that great.
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    Oct 01, 2008 4:03 PM GMT
    Keep dating until you find your guy, he's out there.

    You gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.
  • D972

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    Oct 01, 2008 4:22 PM GMT
    No offense TylerSF, but you are such a bottom. LOL. Just so passive. But then again, maybe that is why Im having problems with my love life. icon_redface.gif
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    Oct 01, 2008 4:27 PM GMT
    Oh... I was thinking maybe a treble hook.
    Maybe a gill net?

    A couple of years ago I met a guy, and we had a bike-ride and breakfast date. Then a hike. Then we were staring at each other and he finally said something like, "Let's just have sex now and do the third date later."
  • D972

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    Oct 01, 2008 4:34 PM GMT
    TylerSF said
    D972 saidNo offense TylerSF, but you are such a bottom. LOL. Just so passive. But then again, maybe that is why Im having problems with my love life. icon_redface.gif


    I may appear to be passive but he knows who's stringing who along in the relationship ! lol icon_wink.gif

    R u referring to # 8? haha icon_wink.gif


    Well just in general, but it works for you ... Yeah #8 is kind of passive. LOL. But a good bottom always pulls the strings.

    *thinking* Ive really nothing to add to the subject. Well actually i do.

    Take off the rose colored glasses and see him (and yourself) for what you really are early on. Be yourself but be open to other ideas.
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    Oct 01, 2008 4:41 PM GMT
    1. Keep it simple in the beginning; don't go over the top, expectations can get weird/odd. If you can't afford a $200 meal every week, don't act like you can!

    2. Go with the flow; if he's moving at Lesbian speed & you're cool with that, then go for it. If it's more like chasing a snail and you're cool with that, then follow suit. Just make sure you're both moving at the same speed.

    3. Remember, everyone has had different life experiences & their experiences may not make sense to you, so keep that in mind & don't cut them loose because of that.

    4. Have FUN!!!! Period!
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Oct 01, 2008 4:55 PM GMT
    I don't agree with the no sex on the 1st three dates statement.
    Often you might lose someone if you make them think you are not interested in them sexually.... this is a difficult play to make.


    As a straight friend puts it; "If there is no sex or interest on the 1st date, there won't BE a 2nd date! " icon_smile.gif (maybe too harsh)

    What I do agree with and by the way I have had 2 LTRs lasting over 8 years is to be yourself. Do NOT try to act pr dress like you think the other guy wants.
    The fastest way to lose someone is is to be miss-leading or deceitful in any way. It ALWAYS comes back to haunt you.

    Pay FULL attention to your date and of course do NOT take your date to a bar or club with many gay singles looking to hit on either one of you.

    (Don't bring the meat to the banquet)

    DO let him know you like him by some romantic text or Email(careful not to overdo) and DO let him know what you like in life and to do together.

    Last thing; HONESTY ALWAYS!
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    Oct 01, 2008 4:58 PM GMT
    Don't turn 45 because that is when you fall into the 45-60 profile search range.
  • swimbikerun

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    Oct 01, 2008 5:02 PM GMT
    friendormate saidDon't turn 45 because that is when you fall into the 45-60 profile search range.

    The looong summer of my youth is also drawing to a close. It'll be a cold winter I think!
  • auryn

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    Oct 01, 2008 5:06 PM GMT
    Get over the fact that you will not always get your way; compromise is not settling. If you settle you lose, if you and compromise on a value that you've long held (other than keeping the place clean) you both can win.

    When in doubt be co-dependent and clingy. (kidding)