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redheadguy Posts: 2262	Oct 01, 2008 11:53 AM GMT Quote I have decided to put together all the good advice from these forums on how to find and keep a boyfriend. Feel free to add your own: 1. Don't have sex with him on the first date. 2. Don't expect him to be anything like you imagine from t'internet. 3. Don't swamp him with text messages. 4. Don't turn up to the date in your wedding dress. Save that for the 3rd date. 5. Don't have sex with him on the second date. Your turn, bitches.

lilTanker Posts: 1265	Oct 01, 2008 12:36 PM GMT Quote Tip One, you can never force something to happen EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tip Two, Stop trying to make it happen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tip Three, Every guy you date isn't the greatest, hes just the next best thing. Tip Four, Learn to be happy single. Tip Five, Learn to be single and Happy!!! Tip Six, Do you really need a man??? Tip Seven, Stop whinging that you are single, learn to be happy being single!!!! Tip Eight, Nothing good happens fast but the shit will fly out the window faster then you can get out of its way! Tip Nine, he is an addition to your life, not your life! Eh, I suppose thats what I have learnt..
redheadguy Posts: 2262	Oct 01, 2008 1:59 PM GMT Quote Thanks for those top tips Liltanker. I would go easy on the exclamation marks though as this can be indicative of a single man's state of mind and create a red flag for a potential date. cf: Black Narcissus.
Timberoo Posts: 2847	Oct 01, 2008 2:16 PM GMT Quote Tip one - be honest Tip two - give him the benefit of the doubt Tip three - know when you are being played
Red_Vespa Posts: 1525	Oct 01, 2008 2:25 PM GMT Quote redheadguy saidI have decided to put together all the good advice from these forums on how to find and keep a boyfriend. Feel free to add your own... Your turn, bitches. Build a Malayan tiger trap and bait it with a gay porn magazine, a steamy cappuccino, and a FABULOUS collection of Southern Decadence throw beads tossed by the hand of RuPaul himself.
lilTanker Posts: 1265	Oct 01, 2008 2:49 PM GMT Quote redheadguy saidThanks for those top tips Liltanker. I would go easy on the exclamation marks though as this can be indicative of a single man's state of mind and create a red flag for a potential date. cf: Black Narcissus. eh, let little flags go up everywhere, cause I aint dating, I'm not looking and I'm happy being outta that stuff.
danielryan Posts: 560	Oct 01, 2008 3:09 PM GMT Quote my biggest advice when i talk to people about this subject..... just be yourself. don't try to be what you think they or other people want you to be.
JF221 Posts: 4	Oct 01, 2008 3:29 PM GMT Quote Don't settle and Don't try to change them
KissingPro Posts: 387	Oct 01, 2008 3:52 PM GMT Quote TIPS Make it clear that you do not want to be treated as an equal......what you want is to be treated better than he treats himself. Make it real clear that you are interested, but don't nag, stalk, call, email or text him to death. You know he wants your body..........don't put out until you are completely comfortable with him. This may take some time. You will know when you are ready. Show some class. Pay the whole damn check at the restaurant instead of splitting it. And eat all the food on your plate. A guy who just picks at his food or who doesn't eat like a man is boring. Get drunk with him and laugh a lot. Every once in a while, put on something other than the same old jeans and T shirt. Does anyone wear a suit anymore? A man gains instant status when he is wearing a suit. Get creative for dating. Do something different. Brush your teeth.
ActiveAndFit Posts: 2834	Oct 01, 2008 3:52 PM GMT Quote Get him drunk, use sedatives
Sean_85 Posts: 1048	Oct 01, 2008 3:53 PM GMT Quote Tip1 - Charm him with your smile... and don't have sexy time until the 3rd date or something.. I just become uninterested.. typical Sagittarius
chinosurfguy Posts: 155	Oct 01, 2008 3:55 PM GMT Quote Its like you guys decided to make a post for me ^_^ lol, I'll have to remember those tips if I ever go on my first date >.>
CuriousJockAZ Posts: 2329	Oct 01, 2008 4:00 PM GMT Quote On your first date, don't lay out your whole life story before dinner arrives. Do not have sex right off the bat if for no other reason than that you can always say that you didn't have sex right off the bat. Don't be too "available" at first. Make sure he knows that YOU have a LIFE, one that he isn't necessarily a part of -- yet.
XRuggerATX Posts: 2832	Oct 01, 2008 4:03 PM GMT Quote Keep the relationship "in the now" until he's completely hooked. Focus on the good times immediately in front of you, not months or years down the road.
MunchingZombi... Posts: 2169	Oct 01, 2008 4:03 PM GMT Quote ActiveAndFit saidGet him drunk, use sedatives Get Sedative drunk, use him.
Caslon8000 Posts: 8093	Oct 01, 2008 4:03 PM GMT Quote only timber and red vespa have bfs....so, like, the rest of you are a great bunch to be getting advice from ... ok...Munchie slipped in there....and like his 2 cents is that great.
chicago_barry Posts: 166	Oct 01, 2008 4:03 PM GMT Quote Keep dating until you find your guy, he's out there. You gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.
D972 Posts: 71	Oct 01, 2008 4:22 PM GMT Quote No offense TylerSF, but you are such a bottom. LOL. Just so passive. But then again, maybe that is why Im having problems with my love life.
mindgarden Posts: 1424	Oct 01, 2008 4:27 PM GMT Quote Oh... I was thinking maybe a treble hook. Maybe a gill net? A couple of years ago I met a guy, and we had a bike-ride and breakfast date. Then a hike. Then we were staring at each other and he finally said something like, "Let's just have sex now and do the third date later."
D972 Posts: 71	Oct 01, 2008 4:34 PM GMT Quote TylerSF said D972 saidNo offense TylerSF, but you are such a bottom. LOL. Just so passive. But then again, maybe that is why Im having problems with my love life. I may appear to be passive but he knows who's stringing who along in the relationship ! lol R u referring to # 8? haha Well just in general, but it works for you ... Yeah #8 is kind of passive. LOL. But a good bottom always pulls the strings. thinking Ive really nothing to add to the subject. Well actually i do. Take off the rose colored glasses and see him (and yourself) for what you really are early on. Be yourself but be open to other ideas.
a1972guy Posts: 1959	Oct 01, 2008 4:41 PM GMT Quote 1. Keep it simple in the beginning; don't go over the top, expectations can get weird/odd. If you can't afford a $200 meal every week, don't act like you can! 2. Go with the flow; if he's moving at Lesbian speed & you're cool with that, then go for it. If it's more like chasing a snail and you're cool with that, then follow suit. Just make sure you're both moving at the same speed. 3. Remember, everyone has had different life experiences & their experiences may not make sense to you, so keep that in mind & don't cut them loose because of that. 4. Have FUN!!!! Period!
TallGWMvballe... Posts: 887	Oct 01, 2008 4:55 PM GMT Quote I don't agree with the no sex on the 1st three dates statement. Often you might lose someone if you make them think you are not interested in them sexually.... this is a difficult play to make. As a straight friend puts it; "If there is no sex or interest on the 1st date, there won't BE a 2nd date! " (maybe too harsh) What I do agree with and by the way I have had 2 LTRs lasting over 8 years is to be yourself. Do NOT try to act pr dress like you think the other guy wants. The fastest way to lose someone is is to be miss-leading or deceitful in any way. It ALWAYS comes back to haunt you. Pay FULL attention to your date and of course do NOT take your date to a bar or club with many gay singles looking to hit on either one of you. (Don't bring the meat to the banquet) DO let him know you like him by some romantic text or Email(careful not to overdo) and DO let him know what you like in life and to do together. Last thing; HONESTY ALWAYS!
friendormate Posts: 149	Oct 01, 2008 4:58 PM GMT Quote Don't turn 45 because that is when you fall into the 45-60 profile search range.
swimbikerun Posts: 923	Oct 01, 2008 5:02 PM GMT Quote friendormate saidDon't turn 45 because that is when you fall into the 45-60 profile search range. The looong summer of my youth is also drawing to a close. It'll be a cold winter I think!
auryn Posts: 1606	Oct 01, 2008 5:06 PM GMT Quote Get over the fact that you will not always get your way; compromise is not settling. If you settle you lose, if you and compromise on a value that you've long held (other than keeping the place clean) you both can win. When in doubt be co-dependent and clingy. (kidding)
friendormate Posts: 149	Oct 01, 2008 5:26 PM GMT Quote 1. Try to meet the love of your life in a highly charged sexual environment when you are both butt naked. 2. Don't talk to each other before you have sex. It might kill the sexual fantasy which is what most guys are looking for. 3. After both of you have had your orgasms then you can try to get to know each other if you found the sex was good. 4. Once the conversation begins flowing and it has yet to kill your fantasy, see if he is free for a date. If he is then you can have a date without wondering if there is sexual chemistry. The only problem with this approach is that you will meet mostly married men with kids. 5. Make sure by the time the fantasy was died you are both hopeless dependent on each other.
LalaPaulooza Posts: 556	Oct 01, 2008 5:28 PM GMT Quote friendormate saidDon't turn 45 because that is when you fall into the 45-60 profile search range. "....hello....anyone.Hello......HELLO!!!" - this is me. sitting out here in that profile search range. oh well. ;)
chillsf79 Posts: 24	Oct 01, 2008 5:45 PM GMT Quote tip #98 : Realize when you have a good man, and keep him.
RunintheCity Posts: 1478	Oct 01, 2008 5:56 PM GMT Quote Every man will not like you, and you will not like every man. Hence, he's just not that into you and vice versa. Be honest within reason. (I.E. He doesn't need to know every sexual adventure you've ever had nor does he need to know you actually enjoy belching in public just for the reaction.) Be elusive, not evasive.
lissenup Posts: 561	Oct 01, 2008 7:18 PM GMT Quote 1. Don't ask if he's good enough for you - ask if you're good enough for him. 2. Get rid of expectations. 3. Learn from past relationships but don't bring them into your current relationship. 4. Get rid of fear. Nothing kills a relationship faster than the fear of it ending or of him cheating. 5. Spend time apart. Make sure he spends time with his friends and family. 6. Take your time - get to know each other slowly. Why rush everything? 7. Don't expect him to like everything you do and don't pretend you like everything he likes. It's okay to be different. 8. Put away your phone when you are on dates. Don't sit there text-messaging or take calls from friends. It's rude (especially at dinner). 9. Surprise him. The other day I bought my boyfriend a little gift and left it on his bookshelf. I didn't think he'd discover it right away, but he did and called me the next day. 10. Only say "I love you" when you really mean it. Don't overuse the phrase.
bgcat57 Posts: 1035	Oct 01, 2008 7:22 PM GMT Quote Do not talk about how great/horrible your ex was. Do not trash every man you'd ever dated. Wait until at least the third date before discussing the skeletons in your closet (but don't wait more than 5 dates to do so.) Pay attention to him because if your really attentive, you'll learn most of the things that will make or break a relationship right up front.
HighVoltageGu... Posts: 1289	Oct 01, 2008 7:37 PM GMT Quote Hit him over the head with a 2x4 and then drag him back to your house caveman style.
konfuzed Posts: 29	Oct 01, 2008 7:39 PM GMT Quote bgcat and lissenup have good advice here. Don't go by any hard rules, go with your guy. The guy I'm dating now I met to hang out and have a beer. Neither of us were looking for sex on the first sorta date, whatever it was. Ended up having such a good time hanging out and talking it got late. We crashed and ended up having fun that put more emphasis on wanting to see each other again. Mostly just talk while doing things y'all enjoy. Dinner and a movie is actually one of the worst dates because all you do is sit there after a (hopefully entertaining) dinner and not talk, and you aren't sure if you should do anything else or not. And throw out any suggestions which don't fit you. No big deal.
TallGWMvballe... Posts: 887	Oct 01, 2008 8:46 PM GMT Quote lissenup said1. Don't ask if he's good enough for you - ask if you're good enough for him. 2. Get rid of expectations. 3. Learn from past relationships but don't bring them into your current relationship. 4. Get rid of fear. Nothing kills a relationship faster than the fear of it ending or of him cheating. 5. Spend time apart. Make sure he spends time with his friends and family. 6. Take your time - get to know each other slowly. Why rush everything? 7. Don't expect him to like everything you do and don't pretend you like everything he likes. It's okay to be different. 8. Put away your phone when you are on dates. Don't sit there text-messaging or take calls from friends. It's rude (especially at dinner). 9. Surprise him. The other day I bought my boyfriend a little gift and left it on his bookshelf. I didn't think he'd discover it right away, but he did and called me the next day. 10. Only say "I love you" when you really mean it. Don't overuse the phrase. VERY well said! I agree!
oookellyooo Posts: 50	Oct 01, 2008 8:53 PM GMT Quote cut off all of his support system so that you are the sole support system left. then he's all yours....Machiavellian style
xxalexi_32 Posts: 16	Oct 01, 2008 8:56 PM GMT Quote redheadguy said 3. Don't swamp him with text messages. I am finally getting a cell phone soon and I was just wondering if it's bad to text back and forth a lot with someone... like every 5 minutes or something. Obviously if they were being unreturned, it's a warning sign... but what if it's constant exchanges? Basically -- how many texts is too many for one day?
redheadguy Posts: 2262	Oct 01, 2008 9:32 PM GMT Quote I think you need to be a bit more elusive.
oookellyooo Posts: 50	Oct 01, 2008 9:36 PM GMT Quote oookellyooo saidcut off all of his support system so that you are the sole support system left. then he's all yours....Machiavellian style i'm gonna take this back, you guys might think i'm sick lol
allgoodinhwoo... Posts: 224	Oct 01, 2008 9:38 PM GMT Quote Swallow.
HighVoltageGu... Posts: 1289	Oct 01, 2008 9:46 PM GMT Quote allgoodinhwood saidSwallow. DING DING DING DING! This thread is now done!
Ghen Posts: 492	Oct 01, 2008 9:53 PM GMT Quote Money, jewels and furs darling!
GuiltyGear Posts: 2889	Oct 01, 2008 10:01 PM GMT Quote RedHeadGuy, you advising guys not to put out....now that's priceless.
metropolitan Posts: 568	Oct 01, 2008 10:02 PM GMT Quote xxalexi_32 said redheadguy said 3. Don't swamp him with text messages. I am finally getting a cell phone soon and I was just wondering if it's bad to text back and forth a lot with someone... like every 5 minutes or something. Obviously if they were being unreturned, it's a warning sign... but what if it's constant exchanges? Basically -- how many texts is too many for one day? when your fingers bleed from typing, that means you've probably written a 1000 more messages than necessary. One a day to say "I love you" is good enough, and text him if you want to tell him something. Unless it's important, in that case call him.
TallGWMvballe... Posts: 887	Oct 01, 2008 11:40 PM GMT Quote "One a day to say "I love you" is good enough, and text him if you want to tell him something. Unless it's important, in that case call him." YES
Caslon8000 Posts: 8093	Oct 01, 2008 11:41 PM GMT Quote Win the Lotto.
chicago_barry Posts: 166	Oct 02, 2008 2:03 AM GMT Quote Ghen saidMoney, jewels and furs darling! It's so nice to see the younger generation appreciates the gay idols of my generation. I always worry that the glamorous diva-bitches of Hollywood will be forgotten and their contribution to gay culture dismissed.
jprichva Posts: 187	Oct 02, 2008 2:11 AM GMT Quote My word, this all sounds exhausting. No wonder I'm single.
moltovivace Posts: 28	Oct 02, 2008 2:16 AM GMT Quote I second that. I second that about forty million times.
Thirdbeach Posts: 470	Oct 02, 2008 2:45 AM GMT Quote Just let the other person be themselves.... and then just pretend they are someone different.
MunchingZombi... Posts: 2169	Oct 02, 2008 2:53 AM GMT Quote Have a plan. If you ask a guy out on a date but don't make any arrangements it is very off-putting. If you don't make plans that tells them you don't care enough. So there Cas, my two worthwhile cents.
lilTanker Posts: 1265	Oct 02, 2008 3:20 AM GMT Quote Caslon7000 saidWin the Lotto. Why on earth would I need to win the lotto? I don't need high class.. Give me a bum.. I'll be happy, at least he'll know how to survive when I boot his arse out the door!
Scorpio_M Posts: 37	Oct 02, 2008 4:32 AM GMT Quote lissenup said 1. Don't ask if he's good enough for you - ask if you're good enough for him. So true! 2. Get rid of expectations. Trying too hard will destroy it quickly, don't act like a puppy that pees when he gets excited. 3. Learn from past relationships but don't bring them into your current relationship. The past is the past, live for the future. 4. Get rid of fear. Nothing kills a relationship faster than the fear of it ending or of him cheating. Show your enthusiasm to draw his attention. Leave the drama behind. 5. Spend time apart. Make sure he spends time with his friends and family. Maintain a healthy balance and absence does make the heart grow fonder. 6. Take your time - get to know each other slowly. Why rush everything? Almost every night my guy asks me "tell me something new". Can be something from your childhood to the current day events. This keeps the conversations from getting stale if there is nothing to say. 7. Don't expect him to like everything you do and don't pretend you like everything he likes. It's okay to be different. Perfectly said, be yourself and let him be who he is. 8. Put away your phone when you are on dates. Don't sit there text-messaging or take calls from friends. It's rude (especially at dinner). Usually the deal breaker at times. Same goes for work, once you are spending time with him, you are off the clock. 9. Surprise him. The other day I bought my boyfriend a little gift and left it on his bookshelf. I didn't think he'd discover it right away, but he did and called me the next day. A small trinket can be a BIG hit with him. As with mine, I got him something unexpected on my way home from seeing my family this past weekend. He totally loved it. 10. Only say "I love you" when you really mean it. Don't overuse the phrase. And show it too! A simple wink, smirk/smile, or a brush of his cheek with your hand.
meninlove Posts: 1299	Oct 02, 2008 1:28 PM GMT Quote There's some interesting advice here, but gosh this is starting to sound more like work than being in love. Whether or not a guy falls for you and stays that way is really up to him. No amount of positioning (hah!) or technique is going to work and it's doubtful anything someone does out of character can be sustained for any length of time, and then what? Just be your comfortable ol' self. If you're comfortable with you, chances are anyone with calibre will notice that and respond.
Mikeylikesit Posts: 73	Oct 02, 2008 1:50 PM GMT Quote Well....I can honestly say, that I've been "around" for awhile. I have found that I actually get to a second & third "date" more often by "putting out" alittle. I must have met well over 100 guys in my Short life...LOL. Not one guy that I dated did I NOT fool around witn on the first date.
Ghen Posts: 492	Oct 02, 2008 2:04 PM GMT Quote chicago_barry said It's so nice to see the younger generation appreciates the gay idols of my generation. I always worry that the glamorous diva-bitches of Hollywood will be forgotten and their contribution to gay culture dismissed. Glad I could bring a little bit of joy into your world. On Topic: isn't it possible to just wait for a guy that likes me for myself, and just accepts/loves my flaws without any games? Feels like we've got a bunch of Charlottes here. Free copy of the Rules anyone?
lissenup Posts: 561	Oct 02, 2008 2:12 PM GMT Quote meninlove said There's some interesting advice here, but gosh this is starting to sound more like work than being in love. Whether or not a guy falls for you and stays that way is really up to him. No amount of positioning (hah!) or technique is going to work and it's doubtful anything someone does out of character can be sustained for any length of time, and then what? Just be your comfortable ol' self. If you're comfortable with you, chances are anyone with calibre will notice that and respond. I agree it does sound like work, but the things I wrote are all things I had to change in myself. I had poor role models growing up and I've ruined way too many relationships and hurt some very good people (and I've also been hurt too many times to count). It doesn't feel like work to me, though, because it's making me a happier, healthier person.
muchmorethanm... Posts: 2788	Oct 02, 2008 2:13 PM GMT Quote allgoodinhwood saidSwallow. HAHAHAHA!!!! But what if he tastes bad!?
muchmorethanm... Posts: 2788	Oct 02, 2008 2:22 PM GMT Quote The 3 basic rules of snagging yourself a man for keeps. 1. As mentioned previously by me-a seal clubber wooden stick always comes in handy. However, chloroform is also an option to completely eliminate the possibility of any bruising. When you've made your final decision apply liberally. 2. Handcuffs. 3. Extremely heavy immovable object such as a radiator in order to put those handy handcuffs to good use. Ideally located in your home where no one is likely to go looking for the newly captured love of your life. How simple is this? How do I know the ins and outs of easy yet successful recipe for snagging a boyfriend. Why, from personal experience of course.
muchmorethanm... Posts: 2788	Oct 02, 2008 2:23 PM GMT Quote chicago_barry said Ghen saidMoney, jewels and furs darling! It's so nice to see the younger generation appreciates the gay idols of my generation. I always worry that the glamorous diva-bitches of Hollywood will be forgotten and their contribution to gay culture dismissed. What did they really contribute aside from all the bad drag that's out there?
meninlove Posts: 1299	Oct 02, 2008 2:27 PM GMT Quote Oops! Sincerest apologies, lissenup! You're on the money with this: "I agree it does sound like work, but the things I wrote are all things I had to change in myself." That says, to both of us, that you were becoming 'comfortable with yourself' by changing behaviours or aspects about yourself that needed changing to make you, as a person, happy with yourself. That's an A for admiration....we also realize (re-reading our post) that saying being comfortable with one's self can be misconstrued as being comfortable with any number of dismaying habits/attitudes/behaviours.
lilTanker Posts: 1265	Oct 02, 2008 2:47 PM GMT Quote muchmorethanmuscle saidThe 3 basic rules of snagging yourself a man for keeps. 1. As mentioned previously by me-a seal clubber wooden stick always comes in handy. However, chloroform is also an option to completely eliminate the possibility of any bruising. When you've made your final decision apply liberally. 2. Handcuffs. 3. Extremely heavy immovable object such as a radiator in order to put those handy handcuffs to good use. Ideally located in your home where no one is likely to go looking for the newly captured love of your life. How simple is this? How do I know the ins and outs of easy yet successful recipe for snagging a boyfriend. Why, from personal experience of course. I REALLY like your style of dating
lissenup Posts: 561	Oct 02, 2008 2:49 PM GMT Quote meninlove said Oops! Sincerest apologies, lissenup! You're on the money with this: "I agree it does sound like work, but the things I wrote are all things I had to change in myself." That says, to both of us, that you were becoming 'comfortable with yourself' by changing behaviours or aspects about yourself that needed changing to make you, as a person, happy with yourself. That's an A for admiration....we also realize (re-reading our post) that saying being comfortable with one's self can be misconstrued as being comfortable with any number of dismaying habits/attitudes/behaviours. No need to apologize! Thanks ;-)
MunchingZombi... Posts: 2169	Oct 02, 2008 2:52 PM GMT Quote muchmorethanmuscle saidWhat did they really contribute aside from all the bad drag that's out there? The FABULOUS drag that is out there
Timberoo Posts: 2847	Oct 02, 2008 2:53 PM GMT Quote I believe snagging Munching Zombie would require some good sandwiches.
BodyWork4 Posts: 777	Oct 02, 2008 4:07 PM GMT Quote Don't date or try to snag a bf... just fuck around, it's what 90% of the male populus trully wants. And the other 4% of us are just living a "dream". While an additional 3% are in a relationship and too busy in their lives and work to be chasing dick and therefore, now when looking back and forward, find themselves happy. And the final 2% are in a relationship but trully, still, just want to fuck around... Hence the "open", "looking for a third", "committed but play", "down-low", blah, blah, blah Savvy? Just call me Doctor Romance I'm here for ya. Oh and the other 1%, well we are either preist, chronic masturbaters or own a dog instead - or some combination of two of the above.
MunchingZombi... Posts: 2169	Oct 05, 2008 3:33 AM GMT Quote Timberoo saidI believe snagging Munching Zombie would require some good sandwiches. Who do you think I am? Scooby Do?
GQjock Posts: 3826	Oct 05, 2008 9:34 AM GMT Quote Each of these have worked and are true for at least every BF I've had so far 1. Red's absolutely right .... No sex on the first date You want a BF not a FB 2. No expectations ... If it happens ... let it happen I've had some really great relationships with men I Never would have thought were my type 3. Don't push too hard If you try to be something you're not or try to Make it happen you'll ruin it 4. Last and the most important is ... be the best man you can be If you try to enjoy your life the best you can both physically and mentally that will show thru and who ever you're trying to attract will see that too
cityguy39 Posts: 368	Oct 07, 2008 3:29 AM GMT Quote 1- Make sure your on the same page, you could be thinking Boy Friend-He could be thinking great FB! 2- Test drive him in bed first, if his blow jobs scrape you in the worst way, you might want to re-think your position with him. 3-Make sure you have other things in common beyond the sex, if you don't the first guy that catches your eye and can talk to you about eachothers favorite authors( well you know where that will go). 4-It will make things more comfortable if he likes some of your friends, it doesn't have to be all and vise versa. 5-If he sets off your DANGER WILL ROBINSON!!! Alarm, have sex with him one last time and move on!
Hidden/Deleted Member	Oct 08, 2008 1:46 AM GMT Quote 1. Be really hot
Hidden/Deleted Member	Oct 08, 2008 1:49 AM GMT Quote Caslon7000 saidWin the Lotto. Totally. Fox and His Friends
sxypalestinia... Posts: 1845	Oct 08, 2008 1:56 AM GMT Quote It is ok to make-out and cuddle on your first date, but not sex?
redheadguy Posts: 2262	Oct 10, 2008 9:11 PM GMT Quote If you have sex on a first date then it becomes a hook up and not a date and you will treat each other accordingly.
zdrew Posts: 1959	Oct 10, 2008 11:23 PM GMT Quote Be interested, but be interesting, too. Part of being interesting is not acting too interested. That simply makes you look needy and insecure, just like your favorite fag-hag. Know what you want, and make sure he knows you know what you want. Not bossy, but in charge of your own mental faculties. Be yourself. Be who you'd want to date, not who you think he'd want to date. Chameleons belong in trees in Madagascar, not your relationship. Give him some frikkin' space. The best relationships are the ones in which both parties know when to step back and breathe. Don't grill him on the first date. You'll learn the important stuff in time. Demand a full resume upfront and you'll end up with a position vacancy announcement instead. Similarly, don't hand him the manuscript to your life story in the first five minutes you spend with him. Make him like you more than you like him. Or at least let him believe that's the case, at first. Let him into your life, but don't make him your life. Don't come between a man and his friends. If he has to choose, it won't be you. And don't be jealous of current or past relationships. Green only looks good on hundred-dollar bills. Don't whine or complain about failed relationships or your last boyfriend. Be good with silence. Be comfortable with forehead moments. Know that there can be an exception to every rule, and every relationship will evolve in its own unique course. Don't worry about wild monkey sex on the first date...if it happens, it happens. Doesn't necessarily mean a damn thing. Give him the best goddamn blowjobs he's ever experienced.
SurrealLife Posts: 4472	Oct 15, 2008 2:55 PM GMT Quote Excellent advice Zdrew, ever thought of being a counsellor for young gays? I especially liked your last point, it has always worked for me.
BlkMuscleGent Posts: 386	Oct 15, 2008 4:43 PM GMT Quote a1972guy said1. Keep it simple in the beginning; don't go over the top, expectations can get weird/odd. If you can't afford a $200 meal every week, don't act like you can! 2. Go with the flow; if he's moving at Lesbian speed & you're cool with that, then go for it. If it's more like chasing a snail and you're cool with that, then follow suit. Just make sure you're both moving at the same speed. 3. Remember, everyone has had different life experiences & their experiences may not make sense to you, so keep that in mind & don't cut them loose because of that. 4. Have FUN!!!! Period! This is one of my favorite responses. But I'd change # 2 a little bit. IF HE'S MOVING AT LESBIAN SPEED, DON'T BE COOL WITH IT. RUN! DON'T LOOK BACK!
BlkMuscleGent Posts: 386	Oct 15, 2008 4:48 PM GMT Quote RunintheCity saidEvery man will not like you, and you will not like every man. Hence, he's just not that into you and vice versa. Be honest within reason. (I.E. He doesn't need to know every sexual adventure you've ever had nor does he need to know you actually enjoy belching in public just for the reaction.) Be elusive, not evasive. I like this one too.
redheadguy Posts: 2262	Oct 15, 2008 6:10 PM GMT Quote "Lesbian speed" hahahahahaha. That's funny!
andy83 Posts: 1	Oct 15, 2008 6:20 PM GMT Quote the best way to find a bf is not look for one
Maverick75 Posts: 348	Oct 15, 2008 6:26 PM GMT Quote No sex on the first OR second dates? THATS ROUGH!!!!
Tyinstl Posts: 119	Oct 15, 2008 6:28 PM GMT Quote friendormate saidDon't turn 45 because that is when you fall into the 45-60 profile search range. Thank you for frightening me. I don't think there are any real tips for finding and keeping a boyfriend. If you do something stupid and you're truly compatible, he'll forgive you. The only thing you can do wrong is not be attractive enough in the first place and be disqualified before he can realize how compatible you are. Thus, never make a move on someone who matters unless you're at your hottest.
luvjunkie Posts: 12	Oct 15, 2008 6:38 PM GMT Quote I say just be yourself, don't put on airs, and DON'T move in together until after a year, cause the guy you date and the guy you live with are two entirely different people, and you gotta get to know each of them. Second, make sure you're ready for a bf, I know tons of guys who bitch about being single, but once they get in an ltr, they still unconsciously consider themselves single, (ie jumping on manhunt as soon as their bf walks out the door, planning holidays without including their bfs, giving out their numbers to other guys). If you truly want a relationship, then make sure your actions prove it.
stevendust Posts: 16	Oct 15, 2008 6:41 PM GMT Quote No matter how well you handle not rushing things, there's always a chance he will rush them for you... d'oh!
BodyWork4 Posts: 777	Oct 15, 2008 6:54 PM GMT Quote Get a hot, female roomate, then steal one of her's.
redheadguy Posts: 2262	Oct 15, 2008 9:38 PM GMT Quote No sex on the first OR second dates? I know it's tough, duckie, but u know it makes sense.
BlkMuscleGent Posts: 386	Oct 16, 2008 3:27 AM GMT Quote redheadguy saidNo sex on the first OR second dates? I know it's tough, duckie, but u know it makes sense. That's nothing. I dated a guy for 5 months without any sex.

shyguy346 Posts: 171	Oct 16, 2008 6:40 AM GMT Quote I have a tip Tip # 101: It's called a "wedding sack", a proud tradition from the glorious nation of Kazakhstan. You can use it to bag yourself a bf. Just watchout for oncoming officers.

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