When did you first recognize you were attractive?

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    Feb 05, 2013 9:11 PM GMT
    I've always downed myself physically and even though I don't think I'm all that now I was watching myself in the mirror as I was brushing my teeth a few weeks back and I thought 'huh I have nice cheek bones'. And then I've been getting looks from people (usually women) and at first I thought it was because they were laughing to themselves about how I dressed but it took me a few second to realize they were looking at me in a different manner.

    When did you first realize you were attractive to both yourself and other people? Do you find yourself attractive?
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    Feb 05, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDo you find yourself attractive?
    No.
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    Feb 05, 2013 9:16 PM GMT
    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDo you find yourself attractive?
    No.


    Lol you must be blind. You're like a fucking ridiculously adorable racially ambiguous ball of human cuteness that sends a man into the very threshold of erotic desire.



    Did I mention I found you attractive?
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    Feb 05, 2013 9:31 PM GMT
    I don't think I am especially attractive but I didn't realise until relatively recently that people in the street who look you In the eye or up and down with a confused/suspicious expression often actually find you attractive but don't want you to know it. Also guys who think I am straight say I am oblivious to girls checking me out, but I don't really care about that icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 05, 2013 9:34 PM GMT
    Well, I had to be told. And at my first Pride parade too, which I accidentally literally ran into.

    I was 24 and still "straight," biking from the Village to Central Park with the intent of cutting west across Christopher Street to the West Side Highway when blinded by the sun I almost literally collided with the crowd before hitting my breaks. The pedestrians I stopped short nearly face to face with stood stunned, and not by the near-collision because instead of yelling their eyes lingered on my face lit up by the late afternoon sun and they exclaimed "Beautiful!" Even knowing nothing I knew I was dealing with a fussy crowd so I realized the compliment must've been true. Then I continued onward to the park, processing it.

    As for how I feel about myself, meh. Not bad for fifty.
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    Feb 05, 2013 9:54 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDo you find yourself attractive?
    No.


    Lol you must be blind. You're like a fucking ridiculously adorable racially ambiguous ball of human cuteness that sends a man into the very threshold of erotic desire.



    Did I mention I found you attractive?


    Tap that shit Neight, he wants yo dick.
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    Feb 05, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    bus9ja2d saidI don't think I am especially attractive but I didn't realise until relatively recently that people in the street who look you In the eye or up and down with a confused/suspicious expression often actually find you attractive but don't want you to know it. Also guys who think I am straight say I am oblivious to girls checking me out, but I don't really care about that icon_biggrin.gif


    The same thing happens to me. If I was straight I'd be probably wouldn't be single although I wouldn't be able to shop at Victoria's Secret with no shame.....

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    Feb 05, 2013 10:10 PM GMT
    dan_x said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDo you find yourself attractive?
    No.


    Lol you must be blind. You're like a fucking ridiculously adorable racially ambiguous ball of human cuteness that sends a man into the very threshold of erotic desire.



    Did I mention I found you attractive?


    Tap that shit Neight, he wants yo dick.


    Lol yes I do but he already knows.
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    Feb 05, 2013 11:09 PM GMT


    "When did you first recognize you were attractive?"

    When I finally realized that other people falling for me and/or saying I was were telling the truth. Up to that time I preferred believing the naysayers because my own internal mirror of self criticism showed me a homely man, ugly and unwanted.

    Slowly things began to change. As I began believing those that had told me I was attractive and those that fell for me I realized what an idiot I had been.

    I realized that I had been insulting those very men that were smitten by me because by insisting to myself I was ugly while they thought I wasn't, I was basically telling myself they had poor or bad taste.

    Ay yi yi.

    Later, when I met others that were in the boat I had been in, I felt a surge of sorrow for them, as I did for my old self who just couldn't accept my own value.
    So, I spoke with them about this very thing and how I came to terms with it, often not mentioning my own revelation, but trying to trigger theirs.

    I still do it to this day, when I see handsome people wrestling with their own self imagined ugliness. It reminds me of me way back when, and I try to assist in a way I wish I had been assisted.

    warmly,

    -Doug
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    Feb 05, 2013 11:34 PM GMT
    When people started telling me I should be a model or they think I'm really good looking? That and people stare at me quite often, although I don't know if that's for looks reasons.

    I've always been self-conscious about my looks though so I think other people find me more attractive than I do.
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    Feb 06, 2013 12:17 AM GMT
    dan_x said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDo you find yourself attractive?
    No.


    Lol you must be blind. You're like a fucking ridiculously adorable racially ambiguous ball of human cuteness that sends a man into the very threshold of erotic desire.



    Did I mention I found you attractive?


    Tap that shit Neight, he wants yo dick.
    I'd rather not get fecal matter on my penis
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 06, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    They said so when they gang banged me.icon_razz.gif
  • O5vx

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    Feb 06, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    I don't. I'm comfortable with that though.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    When people stared at me at the bar and getting hit on hard on sex sites
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    Neight saidI'd rather not get fecal matter on my penis
    unintentional racism womp womp
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    I've always known that some people find me attractive and some people don't. Only recently realized, however, that I'm NEVER going to be attractive to everyone...and man is that a load off of my back. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    I don't find myself attractive. I don't get why people think I am...I do think I am cute...but cute and attractive are two different things.

    But if other people say so...I will go with it.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    Never really thought it was true, until someone assumed that I was full of myself cause of something... later realizing I'm not so bad.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    This is like asking people "when did you start beating your dog?" ....truthful answers somehow don't sound like something polite people would say in public.

    I believe most people start to development a positive self physical image when they start hearing it from other people. I would think for most people that starts when people are quite young.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    when i stripped in front of the mirror n said damn,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:30 AM GMT
    I don't, I mean ... I've had relationships so therefore they've find me attractive, and sometimes I see myself in the mirror and I like what I am becoming but I'm too humble to let my ego grow, even when I have, sometimes, people telling me I'm attractive.

    I guess when I lost tons of weight after high school and my confidence started building up and also I realize my personality is really beautiful, then I realize I'm somehow attractive.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
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    Stopppitttt! You know you are hawt!!!



    As for me, I still think I'm revolting. However, back in the summer, it finally connected with me, that I might not be a hideous monster after all.

    Now, I count myself as just a normal, average person. I believe that I am one of those specific types. Most people wouldn't give me a second glance, but there are some that do. That's OK with me.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    At first, it took a lot of hearing it from others to believe it.

    Eventually, I had enough confidence that I actually believed it.

    Some setbacks along the way, especially a marriage that tore me down accompanied by a compensatory stuffing of my mouth with food instead of cock and ass. But recovered from that, too, and definitely became more self-assured again.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    ConQuest said
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    Stopppitttt! You know you are hawt!!!



    As for me, I still think I'm revolting. However, back in the summer, it finally connected with me, that I might not be a hideous monster after all.

    Now, I count myself as just a normal, average person. I believe that I am one of those specific types. Most people wouldn't give me a second glance, but there are some that do. That's OK with me.


    How can anyone not be impressed with your smile?

    I thought I was hot for a minute...once. icon_neutral.gif