Define "gay bullying" please....

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    Feb 06, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    I see the phrase all the time on here but it is often used by people who I've seen make really shitty and aggressive personal attacks on here. I've also seen guys jump all over a poster who said something they disagreed with and then others gladly joined in on the attack only to watch those guys post "it gets better threads" the next day.

    So what exactly does gay bullying mean?
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    Feb 06, 2013 6:02 AM GMT
    If I'm right, Gay bullying may be defined as:

    Insulting & hurting people either emotionally or physically or both..just because that person is gay!
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    Feb 06, 2013 6:05 AM GMT
    Myol saidI see the phrase all the time on here but it is often used by people who I've seen make really shitty and aggressive personal attacks on here. I've also seen guys jump all over a poster who said something they disagreed with and then others gladly joined in on the attack only to watch those guys post "it gets better threads" the next day.

    So what exactly does gay bullying mean?


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    Feb 06, 2013 6:38 AM GMT
    Gay bullying is when somebody harasses another person because of their homosexual orientation.
    For example:
    Bully: "You're a faggot."
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    Feb 06, 2013 8:44 AM GMT
    Bullying between gay people is not the same as bullying someone for being gay. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 06, 2013 1:19 PM GMT
    meninlove said Bullying between gay people is not the same as bullying someone for being gay. icon_wink.gif


    Ahhh. Good point. Thanks.
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    Feb 06, 2013 1:32 PM GMT
    What a wise and important thread. We should all think about what we do in real life and on a site like RJ. Thanks for pointing it out!
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    Feb 06, 2013 1:44 PM GMT
    meninlove said Bullying between gay people is not the same as bullying someone for being gay. icon_wink.gif


    This is true, but it still shows some level of intolerance.
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    Feb 06, 2013 1:45 PM GMT
    Myol said
    meninlove said Bullying between gay people is not the same as bullying someone for being gay. icon_wink.gif


    Ahhh. Good point. Thanks.


    And strongly disagreeing with someone is not bulling someone even if there are 30 people disagreeing with that someone. Although the childish name calling can be construed by some as bullying.
  • HorrorHound

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    Feb 06, 2013 1:46 PM GMT
    Personally I'd rather be bullied "for being gay" (which doesn't offend me prob cuz I don't identify w/ too many gay related things), than be bullied by gays & expereience derogatory slants on my own personal issues.

    To me, being teased for "being gay" by straight people is more like a nudge to the side compared to the bullying amongst gays which is definently "for the jugular"!
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    Feb 06, 2013 2:17 PM GMT
    HorrorHound saidPersonally I'd rather be bullied "for being gay" (which doesn't offend me prob cuz I don't identify w/ too many gay related things), than be bullied by gays & expereience derogatory slants on my own personal issues.

    To me, being teased for "being gay" by straight people is more like a nudge to the side compared to the bullying amongst gays which is definently "for the jugular"!

    See your point, sort of feel the same way, but see both as different sides of the same problem. Just steps short a hate crime.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 06, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    'Gay' people who bully in these forums are not the norm for gay people. Those who bully in these forums are one of several things a) straight people with sock accounts, b) kids on an adult site, c) psychologically unbalanced. So to say the gay people in general bully other gays is incorrect.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said'Gay' people who bully in these forums are not the norm for gay people. Those who bully in these forums are one of several things a) straight people with sock accounts, b) kids on an adult site, c) psychologically unbalanced. So to say the gay people in general bully other gays is incorrect.


    Naw, there are plenty of grown-ass gay men who still behave like middle school girls. Out in social scenes & while spending time online.

    Gay men who are adult. Out. Independent.
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    HorrorHound saidPersonally I'd rather be bullied "for being gay" (which doesn't offend me prob cuz I don't identify w/ too many gay related things), than be bullied by gays & expereience derogatory slants on my own personal issues.

    To me, being teased for "being gay" by straight people is more like a nudge to the side compared to the bullying amongst gays which is definently "for the jugular"!


    I've never seen anyone bully you on RJ. You usually stick to arts and entertainment.... You're sure they're not just kidding around??

    Also, I agree with MeninLove. Bullying someone for being gay is different than the clique mentality within the community. Maybe one is merely the lesser of two evils, but they're definitely not the same.

    Finally, my own personal beef, some guys think I'm bullying them just because I don't always reciprocate their affections. That happened in an email this morning, when I was called a cunt for not replying to a random email.icon_evil.gif
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    Feb 06, 2013 3:45 PM GMT
    What are you talking about gay bullies?

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    Feb 06, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
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    Feb 06, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    HorrorHound said
    AMoonHawk said'Gay' people who bully in these forums are not the norm for gay people. Those who bully in these forums are one of several things a) straight people with sock accounts, b) kids on an adult site, c) psychologically unbalanced. So to say the gay people in general bully other gays is incorrect.


    Naw, there are plenty of grown-ass gay men who still behave like middle school girls. Out in social scenes & while spending time online.

    Gay men who are adult. Out. Independent.


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    Feb 06, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidIf I'm right, Gay bullying may be defined as:

    Insulting & hurting people either emotionally or physically or both..just because that person is gay!


    I would like to know how that happens ? Do gay guys subconsciously desire it? Why would any one put up with being bullied? Is it so hard to tell the dude to fuck off and walk away? Are the guys the get bullied like saints who would rather get stoned to death rather than pick up the stones and throw them back?
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    Feb 06, 2013 4:17 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    Harry7785 saidIf I'm right, Gay bullying may be defined as:

    Insulting & hurting people either emotionally or physically or both..just because that person is gay!


    I would like to know how that happens ? Do gay guys subconsciously desire it? Why would any one put up with being bullied? Is it so hard to tell the dude to fuck off and walk away? Are the guys the get bullied like saints who would rather get stoned to death rather than pick up the stones and throw them back?


    Some people just don't have your chutzpah.

    Don't blame the victims.
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    Feb 06, 2013 4:56 PM GMT
    Deriding someone for who they are--an unchangeable, congenital trait--is bullying.

    Deriding someone for how they think--a changeable, manufactured trait--is human.

    If your idea is stupid, boo hoo. People are so mean, waaaaaaah! Unloading on stupidity is how we inoculate our civilization from asshats.
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    Feb 06, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidDeriding someone for who they are--an unchangeable, congenital trait--is bullying.

    Deriding someone for how they think--a changeable, manufactured trait--is human.

    If your idea is stupid, boo hoo. People are so mean, waaaaaaah! Unloading on stupidity is how we inoculate our civilization from asshats.


    I hadn't thought of it that way, but it's so true!
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    Feb 06, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    HorrorHound said (which doesn't offend me prob cuz I don't identify w/ too many gay related things),


    QFT

    yeah i only signed up for the sex part

    why do gays get so pissed off when i won't buy into the rest of the program?
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    Feb 06, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    It's contextual. Outside of this forum and in schools, workplace...etc it's as the phrase implies, within here, it's going to get heated as its a forum for public debate. People aren't always eloquent with their choice of words especially if impassioned by a particular cause close to their hearts but you can argue a point without resorting to name calling, abuse and bitchiness but if you're looking to free yourself of that, its going to be hard. On the plus side, debate is healthy, engages the mind and educates....name calling/bitchiness on the other hand dumbs down the whole process..just look at a political campaign!!! ;) Addendum....if you can't take the heat, don't start the fire, in life or on here!
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    Feb 06, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    thadjock said
    HorrorHound said (which doesn't offend me prob cuz I don't identify w/ too many gay related things),


    QFT

    yeah i only signed up for the sex part

    why do gays get so pissed off when i won't buy into the rest of the program?


    No one cares what you buy into.

    It is your insistance on trolling that gets you the piles of shit you deserve.

    q THAT ft ...amateur.

    you are exactly a prime example.

    For the MOST part We are a bunch of Grown Men on this Site that sometimes get heated over, ethical, philosophical, socio-economic, political ideas, tenets and beliefs.

    You get nasty simply because Gay Men are GAY and - aside from a desire to fuck them (accorrding to you) you don't have any use for Gay Men.

    So you say as many incendiary, insensitive, stupid things as you can because it makes you feel better and you like to hurt people for who and what they are.
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    Feb 06, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidDeriding someone for who they are--an unchangeable, congenital trait--is bullying.

    Deriding someone for how they think--a changeable, manufactured trait--is human.

    If your idea is stupid, boo hoo. People are so mean, waaaaaaah! Unloading on stupidity is how we inoculate our civilization from asshats.


    QFT