Creative ways to meet guys?

  • kevmoran

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    Feb 06, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    I feel like I've run out of guys in my area, but there has to be some in hiding. At the moment I just go to bars occasionally and dating sites. But there has to be another way, especially because most of the great guys are not the bar type or the dating site type.
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    Maybe start a singles group in your area for gay men? Maybe there's a local LGBT center where you could hold meetings?
  • Medjai

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    Feb 08, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
    Working street corners.
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    I've heard of guys hanging out at the grocery store in Boyztown to meet a man. Don't know if it'll work though. icon_question.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    Real life.
  • Whipmagic

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    Feb 08, 2013 3:33 AM GMT
    kevmoran saidI feel like I've run out of guys in my area, but there has to be some in hiding. At the moment I just go to bars occasionally and dating sites. But there has to be another way, especially because most of the great guys are not the bar type or the dating site type.


    I hear you. I have even done the numerical analysis for my situation:

    500,000 people live within a reasonable distance
    10,000 of those are gay men
    2,000 of them are in the right age range (35-45)
    200 of them are on the dating market (the rest is already partnered, happily single, not out, etc)
    40 of them are dating material (have their life together, not obese, etc)
    10 of those I have some interests in common with.

    And I wonder if I haven't already met them all...
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 08, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    Join a gay sports league.
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:43 AM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidJoin a gay sports league.
    Fuck that. Gay sports leagues are overrated.

    After all, my preferred sport (mountain biking) has absolutely NO out-of-the-closet guys...except for me (locally). Yet I'm 100% accepted by my MTBing peers.

    This doesn't mean there aren't any openly gay MTBers; but it does mean I have high hopes that some are out there...just not on RJ or other web-based social networks.

    Same with other sports. Joining a gay sports league just further separates gay from straight and bi, which is totally stupid. If you wanna join a sports league, join it because you enjoy the sport...not because you wanna find a dude. Gay men are everywhere and in every sport. It's up to you to encourage your team to accept them as is, and help them come out of the closet. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:45 AM GMT
    Maybe get involved with political activism, like gay rights in your local area?
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
    Get grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:49 AM GMT
    midwesternman saidGet grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
    I've never used Grindr, actually.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 08, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    Events through your local LGBT center seem a great place to meet guys. Not only are you congregating for special events or fundraisers, but you get to meet like minded guys.

    Always thought meeting at a cooking class would be a lot of fun, but those can be expensive.
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:53 AM GMT
    lagwm said
    midwesternman saidGet grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
    I've never used Grindr, actually.


    I was actually really shocked by how quick and easy it was to talk to guys and how many messages I got. I mean sure there's a ton of creepy unattractive men. But some good handsome guys too. And its great cause these men are nearby as opposed to rj where they're far.
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:54 AM GMT
    lagwm said
    midwesternman saidGet grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
    I've never used Grindr, actually.
    My full-time job is flying airplanes that drag advertisement banners behind them (will you marry me, happy birthday, go to this club/restaurant, geico, etc). Because of the job, I generally fly between 1000-1500 feet above the ground.

    Last summer I downloaded Grindr to my phone while flying in Phoenix, at 1000 feet above the ground. That translates to being 1000 feet away from every guy in town.

    Kept Grinder for three weeks like that, and only logged in while I was flying.

    It was a cruel joke, but it sure was funny to see how many guys messaged me saying "hey dude I'm nearby, wanna hookup?" icon_lol.gif
  • LJay

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    Feb 08, 2013 3:55 AM GMT
    Go to church.
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    Feb 08, 2013 3:56 AM GMT
    Grindr is overrated, and so are other dating sites. It's hard to be appreciative of anyone you see online because there's this unconscious mentality, "I can find a guy better than him with just one mouse click." I know I'm guilty of this and so are most guys.

    Like one of the posters said, "Real Life." You'll have to learn to understand people and read them (e.g., body language, voice tone), and you'll need to be more social. It's tough learning all of these things, but I think it's worth going through if you want to find a "quality" person. I'm learning it now.
  • Whipmagic

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    Feb 08, 2013 3:58 AM GMT
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    lagwm said
    midwesternman saidGet grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
    I've never used Grindr, actually.
    My full-time job is flying airplanes that drag advertisement banners behind them (will you marry me, happy birthday, go to this club/restaurant, geico, etc). Because of the job, I generally fly between 1000-1500 feet above the ground.

    Last summer I downloaded Grindr to my phone while flying in Phoenix, at 1000 feet above the ground. That translates to being 1000 feet away from every guy in town.

    Kept Grinder for three weeks like that, and only logged in while I was flying.

    It was a cruel joke, but it sure was funny to see how many guys messaged me saying "hey dude I'm nearby, wanna hookup?" icon_lol.gif


    What does the FAA think about Grindring while flying?
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:01 AM GMT
    midwesternman said
    lagwm said
    midwesternman saidGet grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
    I've never used Grindr, actually.


    I was actually really shocked by how quick and easy it was to talk to guys and how many messages I got. I mean sure there's a ton of creepy unattractive men. But some good handsome guys too. And its great cause these men are nearby as opposed to rj where they're far.
    Yeah I'd bet there are VGL guys on there BUT the OPPOSITE is on there as well. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    lagwm said
    midwesternman saidGet grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
    I've never used Grindr, actually.
    My full-time job is flying airplanes that drag advertisement banners behind them (will you marry me, happy birthday, go to this club/restaurant, geico, etc). Because of the job, I generally fly between 1000-1500 feet above the ground.

    Last summer I downloaded Grindr to my phone while flying in Phoenix, at 1000 feet above the ground. That translates to being 1000 feet away from every guy in town.

    Kept Grinder for three weeks like that, and only logged in while I was flying.

    It was a cruel joke, but it sure was funny to see how many guys messaged me saying "hey dude I'm nearby, wanna hookup?" icon_lol.gif
    I knew a guy who was a flight attendant (yeah I know, really hard to imagine, a gay male flight attendant LOL) and another friend was saying, they call them "flying mattresses." icon_lol.gif
  • kevmoran

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    Feb 08, 2013 4:04 AM GMT
    I've tried a couple LGBT group stuff and singles events but no one under the age of 45 goes to them.

    And Grindr... yea...

    But thanks!
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    kevmoran saidI've tried a couple LGBT group stuff and singles events but no one under the age of 45 goes to them.
    #TRUTH
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:17 AM GMT
    Whipmagic said
    paulflexes said
    lagwm said
    midwesternman saidGet grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
    I've never used Grindr, actually.
    My full-time job is flying airplanes that drag advertisement banners behind them (will you marry me, happy birthday, go to this club/restaurant, geico, etc). Because of the job, I generally fly between 1000-1500 feet above the ground.

    Last summer I downloaded Grindr to my phone while flying in Phoenix, at 1000 feet above the ground. That translates to being 1000 feet away from every guy in town.

    Kept Grinder for three weeks like that, and only logged in while I was flying.

    It was a cruel joke, but it sure was funny to see how many guys messaged me saying "hey dude I'm nearby, wanna hookup?" icon_lol.gif


    What does the FAA think about Grindring while flying?
    It depends on what type of flying you're doing.

    If you're carrying passengers for hire, aka charter or airline, don't even think about it. Even a blown tire on landing with a minor scratch on the airframe will have your company shut down for a 6 month investigation if the pilot in command (PIC/Captain) is using an electronic device for something other than navigation and/or aeronautical communication.

    If you're a single-pilot operation doing a routine route, it's a non-issue. Just make sure to look outside the cockpit once in a while to make sure you're not about to graze the ground with the wheels. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:18 AM GMT
    Gay sports league has worked the best for me. Not just dates but friends in general.
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    S34n05 saidGay sports league has worked the best for me. Not just dates but friends in general.
    Well, some say it's best to be friends first before becoming boyfriends.
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    lagwm said
    paulflexes said
    lagwm said
    midwesternman saidGet grindr. Within a week I had men lined up round the block meet me and date me. But I'm not that easy *shrug*
    I've never used Grindr, actually.
    My full-time job is flying airplanes that drag advertisement banners behind them (will you marry me, happy birthday, go to this club/restaurant, geico, etc). Because of the job, I generally fly between 1000-1500 feet above the ground.

    Last summer I downloaded Grindr to my phone while flying in Phoenix, at 1000 feet above the ground. That translates to being 1000 feet away from every guy in town.

    Kept Grinder for three weeks like that, and only logged in while I was flying.

    It was a cruel joke, but it sure was funny to see how many guys messaged me saying "hey dude I'm nearby, wanna hookup?" icon_lol.gif
    I knew a guy who was a flight attendant (yeah I know, really hard to imagine, a gay male flight attendant LOL) and another friend was saying, they call them "flying mattresses." icon_lol.gif
    One of my exes became a flight attendant shortly after breaking up.

    "Flying mattress" is an understatement. Matt was just a one-nighter.