Guys, since I can't tell if my friends are being honest, I'll ask you. Are there guys ACTUALLY attracted to bald/balding men, or were my friends just being nice? I'm 21 years old and it's devastating me...

  • klik

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    Feb 06, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", "it's on the inside that counts", etc etc, I've heard it all. I understand that confidence is powerful and attractive but I'm in a predicament right now and was hoping you guys would be honest with me.

    I've reach a point where I look really bald, and it's time to buzz it down because otherwise it just looks like I'm desperately clinging on to the hair I have I left. I hate the fact that I'm losing my hair so young (at 21 years old!!!) and although I hate bitching about things in my life, its really effected me, it's like a self-esteem shot to the gut. My friends assure me that it's not big deal, but they're my friends, they're suppose to make you feel better.

    Long story short, my question is: What advice would you give me? Should I just accept the inevitable that guys, especially my age, will judge me on this? Is it a fact, or is my taste in men the minority?

    The main reason I ask is because speaking personally, I haven't really been attracted to bald/balding guys. I can see them looking cool/rugged, but it's not my type. We all have different tastes, I'm usually into twinks, I haven't once seen someone around my age who's also a twink dating someone bald.

    Am I just wrong here? Were my friends just being nice? I'd really appreciate some honest feedback, you don't need to beat around the bush.
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    Feb 06, 2013 6:47 PM GMT
    Haha of course! I'm dating someone who is balding a bit. Doesn't bother me at all. If people are seriously focusing on dating/not dating someone on a small factor like that, then they're not worth you're time. Not being nice, just being truthful.
  • Hothouse

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    Feb 06, 2013 7:04 PM GMT
    Trust me, there are men who are attracted to bald or balding men.
    I'm one of them.
    I'm not 21, but that's not to say that younger guys don't find it attractive as well.
    I find guys with thick full heads of hair attractive as well - the thing is, we are all different, and, attractiveness goes beyond the outward appearance.
    So, yes, there are attractive men who are bald, buzzed, shaved - don't sell yourself short. Accept yourself the way you are and make the most of it.
    If a guy isn't interested in you because of your hair, or lack of it, he's not the kind of guy you need. A guy that falls for you won't care what's on your head, but what's in it.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 06, 2013 7:10 PM GMT
    I'm 33, so all 21 year olds look like twinks to me, including the bald ones. I'd encourage you to show your pics and not be afraid. Once you learn to love yourself, low and behold YOU'LL think bald guys are hot!!!! Because they are.
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    Feb 06, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    There was a time when I wasn't so much into to the bald look until I had sex with buzzed guy and then my opinion changed.

    I had bags under my eyes from I think late 20s/early 30s but it never seemed to interfere with getting laid. At least until I hit my 50s, I got with pretty much anyone I wanted.

    Now I'm certain everyone can see my arthritic hands. Oh no, they're not gonna wanna have sex with me because of my arthritis.

    Pick a body feature and get neurotic about it I say. It's good to have something to fret over.

    Lucky for you older gay guys started the buzzed look back when they realized those comb-overs weren't working for them. So by now many more people think buzzed/bald looks hot. You balded just in time. Quick, take advantage of it while you're still in fashion.

    You'll find someone who likes it, guaranteed. I recall a guy in college, not bald but prematurely grey, like totally white in his early 20s. I thought that was way hot.

    For every flaw there's a fetish. And it ain't even that. Just live your life. Have fun. Enjoy it.
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    Feb 06, 2013 7:19 PM GMT
    Bald can be very hot, but you have to carry your baldness well and with pride. You need self-confidence to pull it off. If you look like you just want to bury your head in the sand, you're going to similarly affect everyone's perception of your baldness. Bald can be sexy--head up, shoulders back!
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    Feb 06, 2013 8:07 PM GMT
    Last time I checked Vin Diesel was pretty hot. Perhaps I should check again, for about 15 minutes in my bedroom with the door closed.

    But to be serious, bald guys can still get plenty of attention, please don't have a hat superglued to your head on all your online dating photos though. It's really obvious!
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    Feb 06, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
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    Feb 06, 2013 8:37 PM GMT
    No, your life is over so move on. seriously, who knows. I do know that twinks like old balding men who they like to call Daddy or Sir. Maybe you can pretend to be old.
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    Feb 06, 2013 8:43 PM GMT
    Seeing as how you said specifically about skinnier guys, lots of people like the guy who plays Lex Luthor in Smallville (I know he is not really bald but never seen him with hair).
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    Feb 06, 2013 8:44 PM GMT
    Didn't read the novella you posted, no time for it.icon_rolleyes.gif

    Long story short: I've been with a bald guy for 13 years. Love bald/shaved headed men. More testosterone!!
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    Feb 07, 2013 1:19 AM GMT

    I'm 22 and have slowly been going bald for a while. I'm buzzing, too. Yeah, it sucks. I've looked at treatments. Even done things short of surgery...but I've been trying to take the "you are perfect" sort of mentality. I do think people's examples of hot bald guys are always muscled that's something I'm trying to work on (which is a goal I have had anyhow). But honestly, if I was to get any sort of permanent solution, I wouldn't try to make it look like any sort of "ideal." I mean, just look at the picture of Christopher Meloni...his forehead is HUGE. If he had his hairline completely changed...he just wouldn't look like himself.

    So, I say own it.

    There's also Jack Donaghy's stance:
    "Rule of 3's is a myth, it doesn't exist - like going bald with dignity."

    Haha. Oh, well. There are so many things in our lives we can control that give us least something unfortunate like this is something we can write off because it's not our fault! icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 07, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    I dated 2 guys one was 24 at the time and the other like 38 and both were bald. i didn't mind at rubbing a bald head while he's going down on me icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 07, 2013 2:15 AM GMT
    We have to "OWN" our shortcomings. That IS the way it is.

    I had a friend that I purchased procecia over the counter in Mexico for, his hair came back totally. He must take it for the rest of his life to maintain the look. And now the new disclosures about permanent ED disfunctions with this med.

    I personally had transplants. it only works for guys with nominal Richard Nixon hairloss. The pics dont lie. They last forever (Ok, only til I die).

    Seeing a balding guy, younger than me, sexy as hell. Why? He knows his well as mine.
  • Import

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    Feb 07, 2013 2:17 AM GMT
    Bald guys can be sexy. I've never not dated a guy cuz he was bald and or balding. If he's cute. He's cute. That's it.

    I want u to not worry about it. Please.
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    Feb 07, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    I think baldness can actually highlight a man's confidence which is very attractive. In my opinion, the only way to look terrible while balding is to try to cover it up.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 07, 2013 2:20 AM GMT
    Some guys are into it. I have some friends that are crazy about bald guys.

    If your hair loss is really bothering you then look into getting it fixed. Doesn't hurt to try.
  • buymeasoda

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    Feb 07, 2013 2:23 AM GMT
    been dating a bald guy for 8 years... its hot... get someone to lick your head =)

  • springhealer

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    Feb 07, 2013 2:41 AM GMT
    i am bald and older then you, when i had hair people said I was cute , now I look more masculine
    i know some people dont like bald ones but some do, so dont worry -just be confident, dont try to hide it as I did for few years(having a hat all the time or trying to cover with the rest of long hair), also looks better with a shaved head and a beard icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 07, 2013 2:44 AM GMT
    My partner is dating a bald guy and he seems OK with it...I am too! 21 is young, my brother was pretty much bald by that age and it is what it is. Find a fashion that looks good on you, come to the realization that you're always going to look older than you are and surround yourself with people who love you for who you are, not for the number of hairs on your head!
  • Timbales

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    Feb 07, 2013 2:46 AM GMT
    there is a guy at work that is 22 and balding, and he is the most adorable thing ever
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    Feb 07, 2013 2:48 AM GMT
    Comfortable, honest upfront behavior is refreshing.... trying to hide or disguise a bald head just becomes unattractive - physically and as a reflection on your soul. Easy to say I know, but practice trying to find comfort in your own skin. You're not alone in self-esteem battles.
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    Feb 07, 2013 2:59 AM GMT
    i don't have time to read the rest of the posts so I apologize if this has been said before. But to me, bald guys can be very attractive depending on their level of confidence. If I see a balding male trying to hold on to every strand of hair by combing over, letting the sides grow long, etc--- i feel they're still trying to be something mother nature never quite intended them to be. Chop it off, and embrace your baldness!
    Quite frankly, I find long hair on men unattractive. I love it when men are clean cut-- or possibly, bald. hope that helps.
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    Feb 07, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    Shave it off, embrace the baldness which can be sexy, and enjoy your life.
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    Feb 07, 2013 3:02 AM GMT
    The biggest advantage of accepting yourself and realizing that your appeal comes from you and not your hairline. . . you never have to explain the difference between appearance and reality. It's a real shock to run your fingers through your date's hair and find yourself with a hand full of hair and them with a bald spot.

    I knew a radio disc jockey in Illinois who started going bald in high school so he started shaving his head. People didn't ask if he was bald. They asked why he shaved his head. He'd smile and say he liked the look and apparently so did the women. No one ever argued and he was never without a date when he wanted one.

    Your friends are being legit. So are your buds here.