Is it cheating if its only online?

  • cwc11

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    Feb 08, 2013 1:40 AM GMT
    Iv got a great guy, and Im crazy in love with him. But, he's off at Basic Training right now. We write all the time and stuff but still guys are trying to convince me its not cheating if we just "trade pics" online and stuff... but sure feels like cheating on the guy Im in love with, even if were broken up, were still getting back together in a few weeks when he's home... so is it cheating, what you guys think?
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    Feb 08, 2013 1:41 AM GMT
    cwc11 saidIv got a great guy, and Im crazy in love with him. But, he's off at Basic Training right now. We write all the time and stuff but still guys are trying to convince me its not cheating if we just "trade pics" online and stuff... but sure feels like cheating on the guy Im in love with, even if were broken up, were still getting back together in a few weeks when he's home... so is it cheating, what you guys think?


    Well if you feel like it is cheating, then you have answered your own question.
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    Feb 08, 2013 1:42 AM GMT
    cwc11 said even if were broken up, were still getting back together in a few weeks when he's home...


    Clarify
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    Feb 08, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    Nabisco said
    cwc11 said even if were broken up, were still getting back together in a few weeks when he's home...


    Clarify


    Same request from me; clarify cwc11.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 08, 2013 1:46 AM GMT
    Yes, you must sew a scarlet A on your bosom.
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    Feb 08, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    Our opinion doesn't really matter that much. You should be having this conversation with him, not us. A lot of people are uncomfortable having these types of conversations, but they are necessary to establish the boundaries of a relationship.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Feb 08, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    So, you're broken up or together?
  • Medjai

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    Feb 08, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    Here's my rule: if you feel the need to lie about it, you cheated.
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    Feb 08, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    Medjai saidHere's my rule: if you feel the need to lie about it, you cheated.


    Agree. If it feels wrong it probably is wrong.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 08, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    Medjai saidHere's my rule: if you feel the need to lie about it, you cheated.


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    Feb 08, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidOur opinion doesn't really matter that much. You should be having this conversation with him, not us. A lot of people are uncomfortable having these types of conversations, but they are necessary to establish the boundaries of a relationship.


    The confusion on this thread is because there are no set boundaries in your relationship (or the lack of?). Just talk to him man.
  • Medjai

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    Feb 08, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Medjai saidHere's my rule: if you feel the need to lie about it, you cheated.


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    What we had was beautiful!
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:03 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidOur opinion doesn't really matter that much. You should be having this conversation with him, not us. A lot of people are uncomfortable having these types of conversations, but they are necessary to establish the boundaries of a relationship.


    +100
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 08, 2013 2:03 AM GMT
    Dont do it.
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:08 AM GMT
    Alternatively we could just give the OP exactly what he wants, the reason all of these kinds of threads get made.

    "it's not cheating, 100% it's not. Go for it. You have all of our approval and blessing to go ahead with this. The responsibility of your choice is no longer in your hands so you are free of culpability".
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 08, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    Nabisco saidAlternatively we could just give the OP exactly what he wants, the reason all of these kinds of threads get made.

    "it's not cheating, 100% it's not. Go for it. You have all of our approval and blessing to go ahead with this. The responsibility of your choice is no longer in your hands so you are free of culpability".


    That's what I tell myself whenever I steal candy from babies or push old ladies in front of buses. I can't help the way I am.icon_mad.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:20 AM GMT
    It's only cheating if he finds out, online or off.
  • kyleburke

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    Feb 08, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    A world of YES. end of discussion
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Nabisco saidAlternatively we could just give the OP exactly what he wants, the reason all of these kinds of threads get made.

    "it's not cheating, 100% it's not. Go for it. You have all of our approval and blessing to go ahead with this. The responsibility of your choice is no longer in your hands so you are free of culpability".


    That's what I tell myself whenever I steal candy from babies or push old ladies in front of buses. I can't help the way I am.icon_mad.gif
    You're not a real man until you push buses in front of old ladies.
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    If you feel guilt or regret, then I feel that, yes, it's cheating.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 08, 2013 2:24 AM GMT
    MrPerfect7592 saidIf you feel guilt or regret, then I feel that, yes, it's cheating.


    ding ding ding winner
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    MrPerfect7592 saidIf you feel guilt or regret, then I feel that, yes, it's cheating.
    What if I feel guilt or regret by replying to your reply? Does that mean I'm cheating?
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    If I was dating someone and I found out they were exchanging pictures online, that would be grounds for a break up.

    Then again, I kind of feel like you're jumping the gun a bit by assuming you'll start dating when he gets home.
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    trm_dallas said
    cwc11 saidIv got a great guy, and Im crazy in love with him. But, he's off at Basic Training right now. We write all the time and stuff but still guys are trying to convince me its not cheating if we just "trade pics" online and stuff... but sure feels like cheating on the guy Im in love with, even if were broken up, were still getting back together in a few weeks when he's home... so is it cheating, what you guys think?


    Well if you feel like it is cheating, then you have answered your own question.


    Bingo!
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:31 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    MrPerfect7592 saidIf you feel guilt or regret, then I feel that, yes, it's cheating.
    What if I feel guilt or regret by replying to your reply? Does that mean I'm cheating?

    That would be up to you and your partner.