Are you a non- communicative gay guy?

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    Feb 08, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    The type of guy that is reactive at best . The type that will never ask a guy out even if he feels Mr. Right is standing right in front of him ? The type that will never initiate a conversation ? The type that will hardly answer a question if it will require a whole sentence? The type that if asked where he lives will reply "In a house", and it will take another 10 questions to find out just where that house is?

    What is the deal? Are you guys just frikin lazy or do you amuse yourself getting the other guy to do all the work , carry both sides of a conversation?

    Today I texted my ex (whom when I met him was an excellent communicator ) if he wanted me to drop off some important government related mail for him. It's as if he has gone dumb his answer was an incomplete 5 word response that did not include his new address. Hell, if I am going to text him 5 more times to arrange something for his benefit.
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:39 AM GMT
    yep, im one..... whats it to ya? icon_lol.gif


    but srsly.. im shy and i feel like that conversation to most people is to just start asking questions, (what do you do?, where do you live? blah b;lah)..

    and when im meeting somone, weather it buisness or pleasure, it comes off as some sort of interview....

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    Feb 08, 2013 6:42 AM GMT
    I have no problem answering questions at length. My communication (or social interaction rather) downfall is I kinda don't care enough to ask the other guy any questions about him icon_confused.gif Which I actually have been working on. Now the problem is I concentrate hard on asking questions and as soon as I ask one I start brainstorming the next one and pay absolutely zero attention to what he's answering for the first. C'est la vie!
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:45 AM GMT
    see, and this is why its annoying... it would be best if you and i just didnt meet....icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    omg ... a guy who'll listen icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:50 AM GMT
    you talkin to me??
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    or the underwear dude....icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]jonnyboy said[/cite]see, and this is why its annoying... it would be best if you and i just didnt meet....icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif[/quot


    Exactly . So why do guys like you even appear in public ? I think
    Is kinda rude when I initiate a conversation and get no response . It's crazy when a guy hits me up on line and wants to meet and does not say a word when we meet . Is it from playing video games?
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:52 AM GMT
    What works REALLY well for me is guys who talk a lot about themselves without much of a prompt. I love that! I tune in and out and watch the sky through the window for a while or think about what show I want to watch online when I get home.
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:53 AM GMT
    well im not mute, ill chat with you...

    a lot of times, if im in a loud enviornment its difficult for me to focus or listen due to my hearing loss..
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    Feb 08, 2013 6:54 AM GMT
    lol nabisco
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 08, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    what you wanna?
    how much I have in my bank account?
    how many guys I've dated?
    how many heart I trampled on?
    all my dirty little secrets?
    You first.

    but I think I get what you mean ... when you meet a guy, you hope they can carry on a conversation without having to prompt every thing out of. Really, those are those times when you just click with a guy, when you can carry on a conversation without a lot of prompting. Count yourself lucky if the conversation didn't go well, that is a good sign that a relationship wouldn't either. You'll meet the ones that are worth meeting eventually, as for the rest ... pass

    edit ... and then again ... it could that you are just so hot you left them speechless icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 7:01 AM GMT
    I'm not telling you where my house is.

    I wish I could extract that information from the last few guys psychos I told.
  • SinfulWays

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    Feb 08, 2013 7:05 AM GMT
    I will talk your ear off if given the chance. I have alot to say and ask, a chatterbox. But I am also a great listener. If I feel that the other person can't find anything to say then I will fill the dead air. This has always worked for me, usually the next time I meet with someone, they open up a little more and the conversation flows!!!
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    Feb 08, 2013 7:52 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidwhat you wanna?
    how much I have in my bank account?
    how many guys I've dated?
    how many heart I trampled on?
    all my dirty little secrets?
    You first.

    but I think I get what you mean ... when you meet a guy, you hope they can carry on a conversation without having to prompt every thing out of. Really, those are those times when you just click with a guy, when you can carry on a conversation without a lot of prompting. Count yourself lucky if the conversation didn't go well, that is a good sign that a relationship wouldn't either. You'll meet the ones that are worth meeting eventually, as for the rest ... pass

    edit ... and then again ... it could that you are just so hot you left them speechless icon_wink.gif



    How does someone hold a job without being able to answer a question ? I am not talking about being a flirt or being charming. I am just talkin about essential social skills required to live in a civilized society . How did these guys get through school? It seems sometimes that being gay is like being a loser.
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    Feb 08, 2013 8:25 AM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    AMoonHawk saidwhat you wanna?
    how much I have in my bank account?
    how many guys I've dated?
    how many heart I trampled on?
    all my dirty little secrets?
    You first.

    but I think I get what you mean ... when you meet a guy, you hope they can carry on a conversation without having to prompt every thing out of. Really, those are those times when you just click with a guy, when you can carry on a conversation without a lot of prompting. Count yourself lucky if the conversation didn't go well, that is a good sign that a relationship wouldn't either. You'll meet the ones that are worth meeting eventually, as for the rest ... pass

    edit ... and then again ... it could that you are just so hot you left them speechless icon_wink.gif



    How does someone hold a job without being able to answer a question ? I am not talking about being a flirt or being charming. I am just talkin about essential social skills required to live in a civilized society . How did these guys get through school? It seems sometimes that being gay is like being a loser.


    Research showed that people have a fixed number of total words they would like to say in a day, so people who talk a lot at work will be less keen on talking in the evening while if their partner is a librarian or army sniper they will still have lots of their words left.

    No excuse if it is before even the first date though!
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    Feb 08, 2013 1:32 PM GMT
    Those guys that the OP described....I avoid them like the plague. I will simply walk away if all I get is a bunch of one word answers. But for guys who can carry a conversation, I don't like asking interview questions such as their jobs and such. Instead I'll listen to what his interests are and focus on those areas.
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    Feb 08, 2013 1:32 PM GMT
    It's sooo frustrating and I'm glad there have finally been a couple threads about it. I don't understand how a guy can complain of being lonely but not contribute to the "getting to know each other" phase. I'm not talking about a date where you're not into the guy. It's like nobody's home. I am an introvert myself so I get the whole needing personal time. I am not one of those guys who is known for always having a lot to say. But I am a great contributor to the conversation and an even better listener. I don't understand why others won't do the same and make the effort. Is it fear? Nerves?
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:17 PM GMT
    If anything, I talk too much, but I always be sure to ask the other guy about himself as well as tell him about myself, as well as keep a conversation going.
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:18 PM GMT
    I am totally *not* this kind of person. In fact I'm usually the opposite, long-winded-has-to-give-you-all-the-details kinda guy. Communication & honesty is key, why can't so many people see that?
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    I talk a shit ton if you get me on a one on one chat. I'm a story teller and literally give every fact (as if the people care).

    Now if were in a group of people, I will be that guy that doesn't say a word.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 08, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    No, not really. When I'm with a group, I'm either part of the conversation, or injecting choice one-liners. I love to participate! It's not a matter of wanting people to like me, it's that I don't want to be bored. I like the conversation to stay lively.
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    I communicate too much. I need lessons on how-to less.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 08, 2013 2:39 PM GMT
    ConQuest saidI communicate too much. I need lessons on how-to less.


    You have that big smile that's too hard to resist. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 08, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    msuNtx saidI talk a shit ton if you get me on a one on one chat. I'm a story teller and literally give every fact (as if the people care).

    Now if were in a group of people, I will be that guy that doesn't say a word.


    hm...now that I think about this, I'm similar in this fashion....if there are lot of other type A folks around, I tend to be a little more quiet, but if it's smaller crowds or one-on-one i'm not.