He has a MAN!!! HELP!

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    Aug 30, 2007 11:30 PM GMT
    Ok so I need MAJOR help on this one!

    I met this guy, let's call him Bill on the lovely site MANHUNT...I am 21 and he is 24, he shall be 25 next week.

    We have chatted for a few weeks, we swapped myspace links and he is ADORABLE. He however has a man, of 4 years to be exact. They play seperately at times. Bill is totally into me. He thinks I am really nice, and they two of them want to hang out with me and just chill, no playing. Bill is like we can take you out into the "gayborhood" and introduce you to the people you should know and tell u who to avoid...cool cool.

    Bill and myself decided we should meet sometime. We ended up meeting at a college which he wanted to check out for their MBA programs, I happened to go there and do not live to far, so I offered to show him around.

    We met up, walked around, grabbed some smoothies at Dunkin Donuts, which he paid for! LOL....anyways...his BF knew he was meeting me....so we checked out the gym, he wanted to see the track and where the tennis courts are...the BF calls...wanted to know if he wanted to go and get something to eat inside of cooking.

    So as he is talking to the BF he starts to feel me up...he even said earlier when I commented on him being adorable, that his ego was all over me! We share a brief kiss and before you know it, we went back to our cars and I met the BF...who is a really really nice guy...they are so cute together! So then i got depressed, and felt bad.I thought about him all day, and I chatted with him and he said he had a blast, he wants me to hang out with them for his Bday next weekend. What should I do? I mean I can see us being friends, but I just don;t know what to do! How do I get him off my mind! Help! Any suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated!!!
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    Aug 31, 2007 5:27 AM GMT
    Don't have any expectations the next time you spend time together; and set boundries. If you want a monogomous relationship with him then tell him the touching will have to stop until he is ready to commit himself to you. Otherwise it sounds like you are just going to be the lay on the side, and if you are ok with that then so be it.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 31, 2007 5:38 AM GMT
    you homewrecker- No they r in an open relationship. See how it goes and don't get your feeling involved- If this is to hard. Don't hang around him. Or maybe u will be simon theodore and alvin!! Get an Alanta Braves hat.
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    Aug 31, 2007 5:39 AM GMT
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    Aug 31, 2007 4:51 PM GMT
    I think you may already have feelings for him. But only you know the truth. Think about how you really feel about him and then make your decision.

    If you don't think you can only be friends, you may want to consider walking away. It's still not too late. But if you move forward with this "friendship", you could be setting yourself up for disappointment and heartache.

    This is definitely one of those times when you have to think with your head, and not your heart (or other head). ;-)

    Good luck. - Jorel
  • GQjock

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    Aug 31, 2007 10:16 PM GMT
    First of all...Manhunt?
    That site is fine for what it is
    guys cattin around - gettin some when they need it
    ...but you're what? 21?
    and you sound like you're fallin for this guy...
    if you want to get laid that's fine
    but if you want someone that's quality find someone without all the baggage
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    Sep 18, 2007 6:22 AM GMT
    GQ jock is right on this one,

    You knew what he was when you picked him up.

    What's wrong with finding a guy on realjock?
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    Oct 02, 2007 3:01 AM GMT
    The only way to relinquish your feelings for a person is to avoid them totally, move away if you can. With time, the emotions fade.
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    Oct 19, 2007 12:57 PM GMT
    you seem to be playing a dangerous game here.

    Just be VERY careful cause things can get very ugly