Can physical attraction for a guy change over time?

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    Feb 10, 2013 12:38 PM GMT
    If you aren't physically attracted to a guy despite having a strong emotional intimacy with him, will the lack of physical attraction change over time?

    Let's say the guy works out and have a great body in time or just simply alters what he was lacking to you before, will that alter your physical attractiveness for him or is that a fixed perception?
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    Feb 10, 2013 1:36 PM GMT
    For me, it can but it's a case by case basis. I mentioned in another thread that I don't like dating guys over 6 feet tall. But if I meet a 6'4 guy who wins my heart over, then it's a done deal.
  • great_scott

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    Feb 11, 2013 2:55 AM GMT
    I would think the strong emotional intimacy would eventually change you. My longest relationship was with a guy that I wasn't that attracted to on first meet. Not that he was unattractive but I was just kinda indifferent. I became more physically interested as we became better friends. Pretty hot sex too.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 11, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    Yeah, definitely. It can get better or worse. Pictures never change, but people do. That's part of being in relationship.

    The trouble is when there's no spark at all. You have to want them, imperfections and all.
  • MadeinMich

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    Feb 11, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidYeah, definitely. It can get better or worse. Pictures never change, but people do. That's part of being in relationship.

    The trouble is when there's no spark at all. You have to want them, imperfections and all.


    This is a very mature statement HottJoe. This rarely happens. But when it does it's very touching.
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    Feb 11, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    ''People don't know what they are in for when they fall in love,'' said Robert Sternberg, a psychologist at Yale University who is one of those doing the new research. ''The divorce rate is so high not because people make foolish choices, but because they are drawn together for reasons that matter less as time goes on.''

    What brings a couple together, Dr. Sternberg is finding, almost inevitably recedes into the background as the relationship matures. And those qualities that matter most later on, his research suggests, are rarely the ones that loom large in the early stages of the match. In his view, the major components of love are intimacy, passion and commitment. While a relationship can manage to survive with any one or two of these qualities, Dr. Sternberg argues, the fullest love requires all three. However, each blossoms at its own pace, and follows its distinct course.

    ''Passion is the quickest to develop, and the quickest to fade,'' Dr. Sternberg said. ''Intimacy develops more slowly, and commitment more gradually still. All of this means that no relationship is stable, because the basic components change at different rates.''
  • Zinc

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    Feb 11, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    No, never, under any circumstances.
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    Feb 11, 2013 6:40 PM GMT
    Absolutely. My most successful relationship lasted five years and I had ZERO attraction to the guy when we first met. As time passed there was literally no one I found more attractive than him. Even his flaws were appealing in their own way.