Anal virgin- should I tell the guy?

  • min1112

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    Feb 10, 2013 2:24 PM GMT
    So basically, I'm an anal virgin. I've had a fair bit of oral sex and have been fingered. I tried topping a guy once but it was all a bit awkward so I feel that I'm inclined to being a bottom.

    My question is, should I tell a guy this before he plans to top me? I've started using Grindr recently and I was going to hook up with a guy yesterday but told him that I hadn't been penetrated before. He said that he likes to go hard and fast so said that we should leave it. Mistake telling him?

    I don't care if I lose my anal virginity to a stranger or someone I know, but I'm just worried that I'll under-perform if I'm not used to the sensation of being topped. Should I just get over myself and not say anything?

    Thanks in advance.

    Min
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    Feb 10, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    First off, why do you want to lose your anal virginity to some prick on Grindr? Find someone special.

    Second of all, when you do, then yes. Sex is about both people. If he goes too fast and too hard and your in pain because you've never done it before then whats the point? You won't be able to enjoy it. You need a partner whose going to "be gentle". It's not like a vagina where it can take all the beating it wants - there are risks and you can seriously injure yourself.
  • Puppymuncher

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    Feb 12, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    Well, here's the thing. If you don't it properly the first time, it's gonna hurt like a bitch. Like a bitch giving birth. So it's probably in your best interest to find someone who's gonna at least be slow and take his time. Best if he's also experienced. Yeah I would recommend you at least tell the guy, whoever it is, that it's your first time. That way you're not gonna end up shitting blood afterwards because he got too excited and didn't care about you having fun.
  • rnch

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    Feb 13, 2013 12:23 AM GMT
    IF I was topping an anal virigin, I would most certainly want to know that it was his first time!

    I would want to know to take my time,slide in extra slow, and be extremely receptive to the bttm's facial expressions, voice tenor and his body's reactions to me inside of him.


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  • TheBizMan

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    Feb 13, 2013 1:19 AM GMT
    I can no longer do anal virgins anymore.. It's far too time consuming.


    OP you definitely want to find somebody willing to spend time opening you up or else your experience will be horrible.
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    Feb 13, 2013 6:02 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidFirst off, why do you want to lose your anal virginity to some prick on Grindr? Find someone special.
    This.
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    Feb 13, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    If I had a dollar for every purported anal virgin that actually turned out to be a real anal virgin, I would have a dollar.
  • Trauts

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    Feb 13, 2013 3:46 PM GMT
    Yes, you should. And how do you know that you'll under-perform if you haven't had anal before. Just let him know, that way there won't be any disillusions or disappointments icon_smile.gif
  • jackthejock

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    Feb 15, 2013 6:00 AM GMT
    wow finding some random to loose your anal virginity to sounds like an awful idea...I mean I did myself at a conference in college but that was because I was drunk and I'd been wanting to for a while, but I let him know at least.

    Really just find yourself a boyfriend or a good fuck buddy and after you've had sex a few times try anal. I'd suggest you try first by sitting on his penis, that way you have way more control over it. And for sure use a dildo before you try a man, if you haven't already. Just get a set of anal plugs, they're cheap and that way you'll be ready. Lots and lots and lots of lube, if you think you've used too much add one more squirt.
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    Feb 16, 2013 3:57 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidIf I had a dollar for every purported anal virgin that actually turned out to be a real anal virgin, I would have a dollar.


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