Opposites Attract

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    Feb 10, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    So, I'm reading this book, and one concept they present is that guys select partners not for the specific traits that partner has, but for the traits that partner highlight in the guy and that doesn't distract from them. So a really intellectual guy might be into someone more meathead, or an extrovert might be into an introvert, because it emphasizes their strengths and minimizes their flaws.

    I think that's an interesting issue with athleticism. According to that theory, a really jock guy that prides himself on being athletically powerfully wouldn't so much be into another jock, but into maybe a science nerd or a theatre gay.

    I can't say I've really seen that in the gay couples I know, but that's classic for straight couples. I think that theory would only work for guys where being a jock or body-builder was a big part of their self-identity, but not for guys that just like sports as a hobby.

    To test this, we need to find how many professional athletes or personal trainers date other jocks.
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    Feb 10, 2013 9:21 PM GMT
    This is a very interesting perspective.

    There may be variance on what society you look at as well and what influences that specific gay population.

    I call it a "trend" regarding masculinity- you see a lot of very masculine men attracted to what in some cases could be their close to mirror images.

    One reason may be that gay men don't react the same as heterosexuals in choosing partners because they aren't identifying traits for child bearing/raising and may be more sexually motivated.

    Will be interested to hear other comments. I will add though I have seen very much opposites out there and in many ways I think it's kind of endearing i.e. very masculine guy, with a more effeminate guy- and they certainly do complement each other well.