to call or not to call is not the question

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    Feb 10, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    This Friday during some party hard at a club I lost my shirt. What to do? There was this really hot bartender and I decided I will ask him to let me know if they find the shirt, at least I have something to talk to him about.
    So I asked him to call me when they find it, I wrote him a note with description of the shirt, my name and my number. He called me at 5 am (tool) and told me to pick it up that they had found it. He, probably, accidentally called me once more the other day.
    Anyway the thing is: I have his number now, and I would like to call him and ask him out, I don't want to miss a chance like this. But I don't want it to look like I've planned it from the start. Which I haven't. So what should I say?
    I was thinking about something like this:

    Hi, this is Martin, you called me because of the shirt recently. I would like to thank you once again for letting me know.
    And. I've never done anything like this before. So I will go straight to the point: Do you want to go out for a few beers or so? Yes, it is a date.
    I understand if you end the phone call now.

    What do you guys think? Too much? Will it be weird no matter what I say?
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    Feb 10, 2013 10:52 PM GMT
    also it wasn't a gay club, so I have no idea whether he's homosexual or not
  • sbwlguy

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    Feb 10, 2013 11:18 PM GMT
    If you don't know if he's gay, don't go hard on the gay thing or it might freak him out. Just ask him if he'd like to go for a drink. In terms of that you have nothing to lose.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 10, 2013 11:49 PM GMT
    Id try talking to him again in person.
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    Feb 10, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    Yikes.
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    Feb 10, 2013 11:58 PM GMT
    klobasnik said He called me at 5 am (tool) and told me to pick it up that they had found it. He, probably, accidentally called me once more the other day.
    Anyway the thing is: I have his number now, and I would like to call him and ask him out


    You want to ask out the guy you called a tool in the same breath
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    Feb 11, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    I'd find out first whether he's gay or not before asking him out on a date.
  • dude222

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    Feb 11, 2013 1:00 AM GMT
    Nah, thats not to much, if you want to ask him ask him. The worst he can say is no.
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    Feb 11, 2013 1:02 AM GMT
    Golly, just say "I'm gay and I'm interested if you are." It's just that easy.
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    Feb 11, 2013 1:39 AM GMT
    chuckystud saidGolly, just say "I'm gay and I'm interested if you are." It's just that easy.


    This! You've got nothing to lose, and you'll know whether or not he's gay.
    Make sure you pick up your shirt first...LOL
  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 11, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    When you pick up the shirt, ask if he likes you better with it on or off. Amazing abs!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 11, 2013 1:55 AM GMT
    damn it you left out a very important part. if you were not at a gay bar the dynamics changes. dude, he is probably not gay. the best way to find out is to ask one of your female friends to get the dirty on him.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 11, 2013 1:56 AM GMT
    daywalker33 said
    chuckystud saidGolly, just say "I'm gay and I'm interested if you are." It's just that easy.


    This! You've got nothing to lose, and you'll know whether or not he's gay.
    Make sure you pick up your shirt first...LOL
    or you can do this. lol
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    Feb 11, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    klobasnik saidThis Friday during some party hard at a club I lost my shirt. What to do?

    HndsmKansan saidNice looking "Gap polo shirt".. the problem is... it isn't mine.. I've never bought anything like that. Was trying to remember if anybody came to my bedroom and left shirtless. Souveniers can be nice!
    I wonder if it can be returned to its rightful owner...haha
    Is anyone seeing a connection here? He calls it a 'club', hmmmm....must have been some partying. I'm sure he'll give it back but going on a date, not so sure about that! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • nefficles

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    Feb 11, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    chuckystud saidGolly, just say "I'm gay and I'm interested if you are." It's just that easy.


    i just spit my drink out because you said golly.

    haha thanks for that icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 11, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    I think golly has the right idea.
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    Feb 11, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    Lost your shirt, did you try HndsmKansan?
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    Feb 11, 2013 6:37 AM GMT
    No that's a little too much. I have a lost and found at my job too. And if one of my patrons tried calling me to date me just because I returned their item that would be odd. It's part of the job and being a good person.
    But hey you're hot so why not ;)
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    Feb 11, 2013 8:58 AM GMT
    To clarify:
    I wasn't shirtless as half naked, I had a tshirt under the shirt.
    I already picked up the shirt the other day, he wasn't there.
    BUT:
    When I handed him the note I gave him some change to assure he will let me know about the shirt. (I really wanted it back.) So this might make him look caring while he only knows his manners.
    And I don't look half as attractive as some of you might think, as long as I have a shirt on me I look like a skinny child.
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    Feb 11, 2013 9:01 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc saiddamn it you left out a very important part. if you were not at a gay bar the dynamics changes. dude, he is probably not gay. the best way to find out is to ask one of your female friends to get the dirty on him.


    this is a great and funny idea, but I don't want to waste so much time chasing pavements
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    Feb 11, 2013 9:50 AM GMT
    Have you decided yet? Which one are you leaning towards? Calling or not calling?
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:01 AM GMT
    Must have been a pretty specktackular shirt!
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:10 AM GMT
    Well as I stated in the subject line: I was decided to call from the start, I just wasn't sure of what to say.

    AND I called him just a minute ago. He was very talkative. Then I asked him out for a few beers without mentioning any motive (which, I guess, is obvious). He was silent for a second, then he said "NO!", another silent second. And then he very politely said that he doesn't drink alcohol anyway and he's short on time because of his three jobs.

    No matter the outcome, I'm glad I did it.

    Thank you guys for your advice and recommendations. I appreciate that.
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:13 AM GMT
    Meh.....

    No big deal. Keep knocking...eventually someone going to open that door and fuck you silly.......icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 11, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    klobasnik saidWell as I stated in the subject line: I was decided to call from the start, I just wasn't sure of what to say.

    AND I called him just a minute ago. He was very talkative. Then I asked him out for a few beers without mentioning any motive (which, I guess, is obvious). He was silent for a second, then he said "NO!", another silent second. And then he very politely said that he doesn't drink alcohol anyway and he's short on time because of his three jobs.

    No matter the outcome, I'm glad I did it.

    Thank you guys for your advice and recommendations. I appreciate that.


    It's nice to know....