For those who have been in relationships but aren't now, what do you miss most?

  • MikeW

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    Feb 11, 2013 4:19 PM GMT
    For me it is cuddling up with my man as I fall asleep. Being an introvert, I don't mind being alone. I have plenty of friends so I'm not lonely. In fact I'm happy and content most of the time. Sex would be nice but at my age I'm fine with just jerking off to porn. (Damn there is a lot of it!) I miss the companionship a little but not that much. I certainly don't miss the disagreements and arguments about stupid shit. But at night when I go to fall asleep I cuddle up with a pillow but it doesn't offer that sense of wonder, warmth, man scent and security that another man does. That, I miss.

    What about you?
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    Feb 11, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    of all, I miss - 'being in love...'
    I'm over with it...but
    sometimes it reminds me that there is a person missing in my life & should be filled by someone else...& this thought makes me to think who that lucky person would be that makes me a lucky one!
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    Feb 11, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    The conversations. The bantering.
    The silly fun times. His laugh. His smile. The twinkle in his eyes when he looks at me.
    The cuddling. The hot sex! His kiss.
    The comfort of his warm body embracing me when we sleep...


















    I want to cry now. I miss him...
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    Feb 11, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
    Having someone there every day for you. Even if they aren't there they are just a phone call away from you any second.

    Also the cuddling. I really love it!
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    Feb 11, 2013 5:16 PM GMT
    Everything we did together were first for both of us. Almost everyday was an adventure. Missed how we opened up to one another. We straddled the line between boyfriends and best friends in public, cause he was active duty military. It was great to be a normal gay couple, even if it wasn't out loud how I'd liked it.
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    Feb 11, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    Gym time together.
    Mindless talks about music, politics, our friends, the weather, traveling, life experiences....
    Bantering back and forth
    Laying in bed all day
    Cleaning together...
    When people used to walk by and be like "Awww... SO cute" lol... like we were puppies
    Support, help, love, connection.... all those things.

    Sometimes it makes me feel really good to remember those things though.
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    Feb 11, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
    I miss that feeling of being wrapped in his arms..






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    Feb 11, 2013 5:41 PM GMT
    MikeW saidFor me it is cuddling up with my man as I fall asleep. Being an introvert, I don't mind being alone. I have plenty of friends so I'm not lonely. In fact I'm happy and content most of the time. Sex would be nice but at my age I'm fine with just jerking off to porn. (Damn there is a lot of it!) I miss the companionship a little but not that much. I certainly don't miss the disagreements and arguments about stupid shit. But at night when I go to fall asleep I cuddle up with a pillow but it doesn't offer that sense of wonder, warmth, man scent and security that another man does. That, I miss.

    What about you?


    I miss the companionship and the commeraderie. I miss the deep friendship we had through our relationship, and those moments when you can say nothing but look into his eyes and see everything.

    I was with my ex-partner for almost 15 yrs, his job moved us to another state, and in less than 16 months we seperated. I am extroverted, he WAS introverted. I am glass-half FULL, he WAS glass-half EMPTY. We made friends down here and long story short, he become too close to his best friend. They are in a relationship now.. he literally left me for another man. At the beginning it was rough but my ex and I are good friends still. I realize now that he had learned enough from me, and I from him, and now it is time for me to share myself with someone else.. eventually.

    My friend is now out-going, enthusiastic, and sees the light at the end of a tunnel, instead of the darkness. I feel proud and privledged to have been with him as long as I did. I miss seeing him everyday, he has a killer smile, and also laughing with him and sharing those moments that no one has any idea about.

    It has been 1 1/2 yrs now since we parted and I know that somewhere in my future I will find a willing partner to share my life with.
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    The physical affection, the sex, and knowing I was officially taken and no longer available.
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:39 PM GMT
    MikeW saidFor me it is cuddling up with my man as I fall asleep. Being an introvert, I don't mind being alone. I have plenty of friends so I'm not lonely. In fact I'm happy and content most of the time. Sex would be nice but at my age I'm fine with just jerking off to porn. (Damn there is a lot of it!) I miss the companionship a little but not that much. I certainly don't miss the disagreements and arguments about stupid shit. But at night when I go to fall asleep I cuddle up with a pillow but it doesn't offer that sense of wonder, warmth, man scent and security that another man does. That, I miss.

    What about you?

    Pretty much the same. Even though I am an introvert myself, I do miss that companionship.
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:39 PM GMT
    Regular, guilt-free sex
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    MikeW saidFor me it is cuddling up with my man as I fall asleep. Being an introvert, I don't mind being alone. I have plenty of friends so I'm not lonely. In fact I'm happy and content most of the time. Sex would be nice but at my age I'm fine with just jerking off to porn. (Damn there is a lot of it!) I miss the companionship a little but not that much. I certainly don't miss the disagreements and arguments about stupid shit. But at night when I go to fall asleep I cuddle up with a pillow but it doesn't offer that sense of wonder, warmth, man scent and security that another man does. That, I miss.

    What about you?

    When i read that it just stroke me like a bullet in my heart...i remember all the dreams i had with him, we both wanted to become doctors and move somewhere far away ...i loved him so much and i would do all these crazy drawings for him and try to make him happy everyday ...i miss feeling his arms on my body and the games and eye contact and all our secrets....but it all shattered...i was broken and it took me a year to get back on my feet again...i almost gave up on my future cuz i couldnt imagine going true my dreams without him...but here i am a year and a half later...still single but going foreword on my path in life and making a career as a great surgeon (or so i hope).I hope that there will be someone out there for me ....and i wont end up alone,drowning in my art and in my work.icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:53 PM GMT
    Jerebear saidhis half of the rent....

    ...thats about it.


    Oh shit, Jer... you're single now? Sorry to hear that. icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    I'd have to say the comfort of knowing you're not alone even when you are.
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    • Waking up in the morning, with him at my side and a cuddle. Doesn't have to be every day, just sometimes...
    • The long, passionate kisses.
    • The kind of closeness and understanding you have during intimacy, which you just can't have with a hookup.
    • The exploration of the other, and the reveal of your inner self to your partner.
    • Cuddling, and the healing/centering power of touch.


    Some of these things you can have with a friend, other things can really only be had in the context of a relationship.
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    Feb 12, 2013 12:21 AM GMT
    I will get back to you on this OP.
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    Feb 12, 2013 12:22 AM GMT
    intensity69 said
    • Waking up in the morning, with him at my side and a cuddle. Doesn't have to be every day, just sometimes...
    • The long, passionate kisses.
    • The kind of closeness and understanding you have during intimacy, which you just can't have with a hookup.
    • The exploration of the other, and the reveal of your inner self to your partner.
    • Cuddling, and the healing/centering power of touch.


    Some of these things you can have with a friend, other things can really only be had in the context of a relationship.


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    Feb 12, 2013 12:48 AM GMT
    Miss saying, "Babe" with almost every sentence...
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    Feb 12, 2013 12:56 AM GMT
    I miss pretty much everything - the good and the bad. I miss having someone to share things with. Like tonight, the moon is so beautiful. I wish I could text that to someone and have them understand.

    Like the others, I miss the cuddles and the warmth of his body. I miss late night conversations, spontaneous road trips, opening night movie theater runs, dinners at nice restaurants, a regular dance partner, someone to share the end of the day with. Jesus, I need a bf.
  • NJVetteGuy77

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    Feb 12, 2013 1:00 AM GMT
    At this point in time, not a thing.
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    Feb 12, 2013 1:00 AM GMT
    I had briefly relationship but I didn't miss it
  • DanOmatic

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    Feb 12, 2013 1:17 AM GMT
    Apart from a couple of brief periods of dating, the last real relationship of any depth or length of time was 8 years ago. Like you, OP, I'm pretty happy being alone, as I have many friends (am never lonely) and a rich, full life.

    However, I do miss how I used to sleep so intimately entangled in the arms of my lover. And there is nothing else like knowing you're number one in his eyes and heart
  • Whipmagic

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    Feb 12, 2013 1:29 AM GMT
    I have been single again for a bit over three years, and what I miss most is not having to come home to an empty house. Someone to look forward to when I get home, someone to cook dinner together with, someone to hug if his day was miserable, or to hug me if mine was, to cuddle with on a cold winter night, someone to make plans with for the next vacation, or weekend, etc. And yes, someone to share the bed with, and have sex with, without the randomness of hookups.
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    Feb 12, 2013 1:31 AM GMT
    When I've had either great news in my life or crushing news I miss having that person who you call and wants to hear all about it and makes you feel better.
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    Feb 12, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    It really depends on my mood. I guess I miss having someone be there for me and the physical affection (not just sex).